sometimes your worst critic can be your own self..

  1. does anyone else agree? for the past couple semesters i have been so hard on myself..i dont know if it has to do with the fact that im wanting to get into nursing or what. but i mean like, well for me, its so black and white. i either do perfect (100) or horrible and i beat myself up about it. for example, i just got done taking my nutrition test and i got a 95 on it and im so angry with myself. can anyone relate? if anyone has anything to say or could lend some advice or words of inspiration, i would really appreciate it. my mom keeps telling me i need to stop all this b/c im going to drive myself crazy..anyway, hope to hear from yall soon. have a good day!
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  3. by   Irene joy
    I.m the same way, I get so incredibly stressed about my grades, mabey not to the same extent. This class(micro) is the first class that I am getting a B in, and I fight with myself about it. I had to come to terms that If you did the very best you could, and did'nt slack, and pushed yourself to the limit and still didn't get the grade you wanted, You have to give yourself permision to be proud of yourself. Take pride in your efforts, not just the grade!
  4. by   stpauligirl
    Quote from futurenurse85
    does anyone else agree? for the past couple semesters i have been so hard on myself..i dont know if it has to do with the fact that im wanting to get into nursing or what. but i mean like, well for me, its so black and white. i either do perfect (100) or horrible and i beat myself up about it. for example, i just got done taking my nutrition test and i got a 95 on it and im so angry with myself. can anyone relate? if anyone has anything to say or could lend some advice or words of inspiration, i would really appreciate it. my mom keeps telling me i need to stop all this b/c im going to drive myself crazy..anyway, hope to hear from yall soon. have a good day!
    Don't forget we are taking classes to get into competitive programs....unfortunately B's are "not good enough", you need to have GPA of at least 3.5 or higher to get into nursing school etc.....the pressure is on and A's look better than B's on your transcripts. Not only do we need to make A's on the tests but the higher the A on each test the better our chance to get an A at the end of the course because all tests are hard until the very end.....
    I am going through the same thing, stressssssssing to make that A!
    It's crazy
  5. by   Achoo!
    Oh yes, gotta love the type A personality. I know I am really going to have to get over it come January. Keeping a 4.0 is not all it's cracked up to be. I have stressed myself sick a few times. It's funny because classmates will complain that they got a 93 or 90 and I'll say " that's not bad, that's good!" knowing if I got that grade I'd be so hard on myself. I need to take my own advice.
    Tracy
  6. by   Fun2, RN, BSN
    I am not that much of a self-critic, but I do know where you are coming from.

    I am trying my best to make A's on all the classes for nursing school, and so far I have managed that. I personally don't care if it is an 89.5 or a 100 in the long run, but I want an A on that transcript! So far they have all been 90-100+, but I was close on Micro. I made my A, whatever the grade was. Actually, I'm not even sure what the end grade was. I just know I checked my grade after it was posted and my family thought I had for sure lost it.

    Ok, maybe they already knew I made an A, and maybe they knew I was worrying for nothing, but ugggh it has to be A's!

    When I get into the nursing program, I will strive for A's, but I won't be so hard on myself If I don't make A's. I've heard A students can end up with C's in nursing school. That would hurt me mentally. However, whatever I make in the nursing classes, I will finish knowing that I did my best.

    My dd laughs at me with every test & every class. She says, "I don't know why you are freaking out so much, you know you're going to get an A."

    Now I plan on retaking my Algebra class that I made a B in back in 2001 before I started back toward nursing. I'm already practicing for it...It has to be an A!

    That way I'll have a sold 4.0 on the 30 credits required by the ADN program that I am trying to get into. (...and that will help keep my GPA good just in case my best isn't A's in nursing school.) :uhoh21:

    Just do your best, that's all our bodies will allow. Don't make yourself ill with worry and stress. (I know, easier said than done.)

    Good luck to you.
  7. by   N.S.46
    It seems like we are all sailing on the same ship.

    I, too, stress about my grades. I absolutely MUST get that "A". We need to lighten up on ourselves or we will be burnt out by the time we get to the nursing program. But on the other hand, it shows that we are hard workers, competant, & high achievers. We will make the BEST nurses!
  8. by   bethin
    Quote from futurenurse85
    does anyone else agree? for the past couple semesters i have been so hard on myself..i dont know if it has to do with the fact that im wanting to get into nursing or what. but i mean like, well for me, its so black and white. i either do perfect (100) or horrible and i beat myself up about it. for example, i just got done taking my nutrition test and i got a 95 on it and im so angry with myself. can anyone relate? if anyone has anything to say or could lend some advice or words of inspiration, i would really appreciate it. my mom keeps telling me i need to stop all this b/c im going to drive myself crazy..anyway, hope to hear from yall soon. have a good day!

    Oh yeah, I agree. I'm most definitely Type A personality. Anything less than perfect is just not accpetable for me. It doesn't bother me if other people are less than perfect but I have set such high standards for myself. For example, I got a 99% in my algebra class. I'm still kicking myself in the butt for not getting 100%. One freaking percent!!! If I don't pick up on a concept the first time I tell myself that I'm stupid. Tried to change, but my mom reminded me that I've always been this way. In kindergarten if my hair wasn't perfect, I would not leave the house until it was. No wonder I have stomach issues!
  9. by   Turd.Ferguson
    Quote from Fun2Care
    When I get into the nursing program, I will strive for A's, but I won't be so hard on myself If I don't make A's. I've heard A students can end up with C's in nursing school. That would hurt me mentally.
    4.0 student here....until nursing. One of our teachers told us that the program decided there had been too many "A"s, so they toughened it up. Out of my class of 40+, I don't think there are any "A"s. Over half the class is failing and just praying to get the required "C". It's quite an adjustment to accept just trying to not fail.

    However....we good students beat outselves up mentally as a way of adjustment. If we accept mediocrity, then that's what we become - mediocre. I personally never cared what my grade was, as long as it's an "A".
  10. by   BoonersmomRN
    Yes, I stress about grades but I don't stress about how high that 90 was. If it's a 99 or a 94 I don't care.

    I stressed myself ill back in A+P - my hair was falling out! I have since given myself some slack and lo and behold I still have a 4.0 ( well, that is, for now)
  11. by   Race Mom
    Quote from Fun2Care
    My dd laughs at me with every test & every class. She says, "I don't know why you are freaking out so much, you know you're going to get an A."
    That is exactly what happens to me with my hubby! I tell him I think I did poor on a test, I'm all depressed, and he just laughs at me. I get no sympathy from my family. It has to do with the story of "The Boy Who Cried Wolf"!! I've never (yet) gotten less than an A on any test since my 1st biology test, well maybe one A&P was a B if I remember right, so I see my hubby's view, but all I want is some love... Funny thing is when I think I bombed it, I usually end up with a HIGH A. It's the ones that you think you did well on that bite ya. I thought I did well on our last Micro test, so I was sure I bombed it! I've proved the jinx wrong...I got a 96%!! The problem is that now my family thinks I am a brain, so there...now I have more pressure! I don't want them to lose their dillusions of me . I still feel like an idiot. The other mailmen at my hubby's work (post office) tease him that I'm going to leave him for someone smarter !

    Woogy
  12. by   Fun2, RN, BSN
    I was speaking with my mom last night and I said that I didn't see myself being able to do the theory, etc that you have to do to get a Masters degree.

    She said, "Mi'Shelle, you are so smart, why wouldn't you be able to handle it? You should get a Masters, you have it in you!"


    Oh man......what kind of monster have I created. LOL Well, let's just see how nursing school goes, then the RN-BSN classes after my ADN, and then I'll decide if I have the brains of a Master. :chuckle

    (Ya know, I've had this thought before. Maybe after I retire from nursing, I can go back to school for my PhD....By the time I'm 70 I can graduate with a PhD in Nursing and die with "Dr. RN" on my headstone.)



    Quote from Woogy
    That is exactly what happens to me with my hubby! I tell him I think I did poor on a test, I'm all depressed, and he just laughs at me. I get no sympathy from my family. It has to do with the story of "The Boy Who Cried Wolf"!! I've never (yet) gotten less than an A on any test since my 1st biology test, well maybe one A&P was a B if I remember right, so I see my hubby's view, but all I want is some love... Funny thing is when I think I bombed it, I usually end up with a HIGH A. It's the ones that you think you did well on that bite ya. I thought I did well on our last Micro test, so I was sure I bombed it! I've proved the jinx wrong...I got a 96%!! The problem is that now my family thinks I am a brain, so there...now I have more pressure! I don't want them to lose their dillusions of me . I still feel like an idiot. The other mailmen at my hubby's work (post office) tease him that I'm going to leave him for someone smarter !

    Woogy
  13. by   Race Mom
    Quote from Fun2Care
    I was speaking with my mom last night and I said that I didn't see myself being able to do the theory, etc that you have to do to get a Masters degree.

    She said, "Mi'Shelle, you are so smart, why wouldn't you be able to handle it? You should get a Masters, you have it in you!"


    Oh man......what kind of monster have I created. LOL Well, let's just see how nursing school goes, then the RN-BSN classes after my ADN, and then I'll decide if I have the brains of a Master. :chuckle

    (Ya know, I've had this thought before. Maybe after I retire from nursing, I can go back to school for my PhD....By the time I'm 70 I can graduate with a PhD in Nursing and die with "Dr. RN" on my headstone.)
    It is crazy how much we think alike! I have also wondered where I will end my college career, and figured I would die an old lady, with a PhD in Nursing, that I got just because I was addicted to school and felt like I wasn't challenging myself by learning, and learning, and learning...
    I think my head is going to explode one day. I have a headache right now. Uh-oh. I don't have to use a gun, my brains will blow out all by themselves.
    Woogy
  14. by   Achoo!
    LOL boy can I relate! 2 of the MD's and one NP that I work with have asked me if I wanted to go for my MD. I told them that at this stage in my life with 2 kids and such, I'd never make it through residency!! Then they pushed NP or PA. It's like, come on, lets get through the ADN first, then look at BSN, MSN etc.. LOL

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