Sucky weekend

researchrabbit · Dec 9, 2002

So sorry, Heather, that is so sad. I can't imagine losing 3 little ones -- I would be an absolute basket case.

And then that mom -- who didn't like red hair -- you just have to wonder, is that child ever going to feel loved? How awful. The mom must be very immature or very selfish to not have been absolutely thrilled to have a healthy baby.

OBNURSEHEATHER · Dec 9, 2002

Originally posted by researchrabbit
And then that mom -- who didn't like red hair -- you just have to wonder, is that child ever going to feel loved? How awful. The mom must be very immature or very selfish to not have been absolutely thrilled to have a healthy baby.

That was just it. With as many problems girls have in this day and age with self esteem and self confidence, what a way to start out. Welcome to the world darling, you are already less than perfect in your mother's eyes.

And then that woman down the hall, holding her dead baby, telling her how perfect and beautiful she was and how happy she was to have known her.

Perhaps this all belongs in the "WTF?" thread.

Heather

just1rn · Dec 10, 2002

((((Heather)))) Gosh?!?!?!? Ob can really suck sometimes. Thinking of you and hope you are doing OK!

SmilingBluEyes · Dec 10, 2002

HEY WHAT'S WRONG WITH RED HAIR HUH HUH HUH????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????????? (sorry i just had to say that. ).......OB is happy 99.9% of the time...it's that 0.1 percent that will get you.....won't it?

Dr. Kate, BSN, RN · Dec 10, 2002

And we had a 10 month old SIDS death this weekend. It sounds like a bad weekend was had in many places.

But three, hugs to you for keeping it together, and for not slapping someone who really deserved it.

oramar · Dec 10, 2002

Oh take care of yourself Heather. Stuff like this takes a long time to get over. I can't believe anyone who has a healthy infant that is in all ways normal could find anything on the planet to complain about. However, some people are just so inexperienced about what life can send our way that they don't appreciate their blessings. I remember when my daughter was 18 months and getting very active and into things. I was complaining about her being so active. Her doctor feared she might have a very mild undiagnosed hip displasia so he sent her to ped bone specialist. Happended that this guy specialized in spina bifida. My daughter was the only child in the place that could walk. She ran about on her happy little feet her little shoe bells tinkeling with every step. There were children on crutches, in wheelchairs and dragging themselves around the floor. I suddenly realized God had sent me there to shut my complaining mouth. Oh by the way, she was fine, is fine, it was just a precautionary thing.

emily_mom · Dec 10, 2002

What the hell's wrong with red hair? I woulda b!tchslapped her twice. Once from me, once from you, and once from my adorable red head. Oh wait, that's three times. Finals stress kicking in.

So sorry to hear that you lost 3 babies. Where I work, it's mainly all high risk, so we have a lot of bad days like that. Never get used to it though. I think if I did, I would have to leave OB.

This time of year, I can't help but think of all the families that expected these little bundles for X-mas. Makes it all the more sad.

Keep your chin up. There will be better days ahead!

Kristy

OBNURSEHEATHER · Dec 12, 2002

Thank you all for being so wonderful and supportive! I worked yesterday in the nursery, a welcome variation from the floor and the families. I was out on the floor for a minute to tube some blood to blood bank when one of my coworkers was discharging that horrible patient. Even on the way onto the elevator, she was complaining about that baby.

"Her eyelashes aren't as long and full as my son's were. Will they grow?"

:rolleyes: I think it's a farggin shame that anyone can breed.

Heather

deespoohbear · Dec 12, 2002

Just tell that witch to send her little girl my way!! I would love to have a baby, no matter what color hair they had or what their eyelashes looked like. What an ungrateful little b_tch!!

semstr · Dec 12, 2002

she can give thqt baby to me right now, I would even get on a plane to get it!!

Sorry, Heather, how do you feel today? Do you have possibilities to talk about this at work? Like supervision or something? Hope so!!

Take care, Renee

illeniccup · Dec 24, 2002

Well, Heather, first let me send you a huge hug with wishes for good pt. outcomes. I am not a nurse now, but plan on being one someday--preferably in OB...I often wonder how I will do with the negatives that come with this specialty--they seem particularly heartbreaking. OB nurses I've talked with say the good experiences far outweigh the bad : ) Good luck to you; you and your unit could use a break...

baseline · Dec 24, 2002

"well it's become a tradition then" and walked out. So I'm waiting to see if they complain" PRICELESS!!!! Quick thinking!

Heather.......gosh...I can't think of one thing to say.........all past evidence to the contrary......

Seriously....big hugs.....and a big cocktail ... or two. (sunnygirls buying). :-(