Oh, the drama of L&D

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Day one

"Linda" comes in high on meth. Delivers precipitously. Planning to put baby up for adoption as she knows DHS won't let her keep her. She's covered in bruises given to her by FOB who was "mad she because was still pregnant." Boyfriend with her is supportive. So supportive that he recently decided to start doing meth, so Linda "wouldn't have to be alone in her addiction." (his words!) Linda's sister is hovering in the background, hoping she can adopt baby as she has baby's older brother.

Day two

Linda decides boyfriend really is the FOB and wants to put him on the birth certificate. He will raise the baby, and Linda will then have access to her. Linda's sister is now crying, wondering if she is able to support this baby and does she really want her. Poor baby is starting withdrawals from the drugs.

Day three

DHS explains to boyfriend that he will have to support baby for 18 years, and baby will most likely be in foster care. Boyfriend changes mind about birth certificate. Linda punches him. His eye swells shut. Linda goes from hospital to jail. Boyfriend leaves but later comes back to the nursery and spends some time saying "goodbye" to the baby.

So sad. I've been praying and hoping that baby goes to a good home and has a good life after such a messy start. L&D is filled with both joy and sadness.

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and then what happened, all i was missing was popcorn. but for real i hope the baby goes to good people that will give him/her a good future. i did my preceptorship in l&d and i saw some stuff.

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Specializes in Community, OB, Nursery.

Yes, this sort of thing does happen, with more frequency than I care to say. The majority of people are healthy, happy, and want to raise their kids and will do a decent job at it...but it's surely not all hearts and unicorns either!

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Yes it is so very sad. One thing though is that hopefully the baby will feel the love and concern that comes from nurses like yourself. At least that gives some sunshine to the childs entry into life...:redbeathe

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omg that is so sad. It almost makes me want to take the baby home and care for them :crying2:

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We had a couple on our postpartum unit who called us into their room. The boyfriend looked at the new mom and said (very aggressively), "YOU ask them. C'mon, ask them." When we inquired, they said they "want that cheek swab thing." Unsure about their request, we asked a few more questions. They wanted a paternity test and thought we would be able to do it on the spot. They had to settle for a printout from a website that specializes in that sort of thing.

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Specializes in ICU.

Truth is stranger than fiction. Shame about HIPPA, the best stories can't even be told! :icon_roll

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Poor baby, parents should be ashamed. Giving a baby up for adoption is so much better than abortion, there are people who are praying everyday for a child. But making a freaking scene at the hospital and not caring about what happens to the baby = heartless, selfish, insane. If people cannot support a baby, or hate kids, never want to have kids should look up in the dictionary the word condom, and it is much cheaper than hospital bills and baby. This is one way to prevent abortions and suffering.

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Poor baby, parents should be ashamed. Giving a baby up for adoption is so much better than abortion, there are people who are praying everyday for a child. But making a freaking scene at the hospital and not caring about what happens to the baby = heartless, selfish, insane. If people cannot support a baby, or hate kids, never want to have kids should look up in the dictionary the word condom, and it is much cheaper than hospital bills and baby. This is one way to prevent abortions and suffering.

While that's true for some people, one of my friends would rather abort the baby than put him up for adoption. Her boyfriend (babydaddy) was adopted and has been tortured about it his whole life. She didn't want to do that for her kid. She ended up having him because she wasn't able to abort the baby beforehand due to money constraints. She did use condoms and birth control - sometimes accidents just frickin' happen.

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While that's true for some people, one of my friends would rather abort the baby than put him up for adoption. Her boyfriend (babydaddy) was adopted and has been tortured about it his whole life. She didn't want to do that for her kid. She ended up having him because she wasn't able to abort the baby beforehand due to money constraints. She did use condoms and birth control - sometimes accidents just frickin' happen.

Well that's a rare case. 1 in a million. Abortion= murder (it is not the baby's fault), I am sure there are plenty of people that love to adopt and treat the kids like their own. I know a lot of people that have adopted and they love their kids. I know that there are people who cannot afford to take care of a baby, but they do not kill the baby,instead they give it up for adoption for a better life ,which is totally fine. Whoever aborts pregnancies they will freaking regret it when they find out that they cannot get pregnant. They will be miserable. Believe me this has happened to people I know and they cry 24/7, treatment does not work, I don't feel sorry for them. They killed a child And they don't deserve to have another one. God is the one who decides who lives and who dies. Please understand that I am not arguing with you it's just my opinion/ belief. We all believe certain things.

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Specializes in Community, OB, Nursery.

Moderator note:

Guys - this is not about abortion. Let's not make it about that thus derailing the original topic. Anyone wanting to start a separate thread about that is welcome to do so.

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Well that's a rare case. 1 in a million. Abortion= murder (it is not the baby's fault), I am sure there are plenty of people that love to adopt and treat the kids like their own. I know a lot of people that have adopted and they love their kids. I know that there are people who cannot afford to take care of a baby, but they do not kill the baby,instead they give it up for adoption for a better life ,which is totally fine. Whoever aborts pregnancies they will freaking regret it when they find out that they cannot get pregnant. They will be miserable. Believe me this has happened to people I know and they cry 24/7, treatment does not work, I don't feel sorry for them. They killed a child And they don't deserve to have another one. God is the one who decides who lives and who dies. Please understand that I am not arguing with you it's just my opinion/ belief. We all believe certain things.

Your opinion is yours, just curious how abortion comes into the thread as the original post said nothing about abortion...:confused:

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