any OB nurse worked with a gay nurse who has started to transtion into a female nurse
- 1Jan 5 by A Gay Male NurseI know this a weird question to ask but I have been gay all my life and in the last few months I have come to find my true self and I'm going to start hormones soon and start living as " Amber " that mean dressing as her full time at work and my everyday life I have let everyone on my unit know what's going on and I have had a few of the girls on the unit go to my NM and say they will not work beside me... I love being a OB nurse but I'm sacred no one will work with me and worried that once I start work as "Amber" I'm going to be forced outta my job. Need some advice any one out there can help?
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- 1Jan 5 by DCrux, SNWhile only a student nurse (but have worked professionally in other fields for twenty years), I can say wholeheartedly that I would have no problem working with you as long as you knew your stuff. Your personal choice to enrich your happiness bears no weight on my working relationship with you.
While nothing even remotely similar, I've received the "look" when I tell people I'm becoming a nurse as a guy. I always found it puzzling what actually gender played in a professional experience (male, female, or any transition thereof). There are competent people of both sexes...
As for the other girls on your unit -- there are always going to be haters and people that just want to fit other people into their little "box". I say shrug 'em off and don't let them get you down!
- 3Jan 5 by MrChicagoRNHi Amber,
You're working in a setting where loose fitting gender neutral scrubs are the norm. After starting your transition, other than the name change, physical changes will not be immediately visible to your co-workers.
I'd suggest working with your therapist to develop a timetable both at work, and in your personal life, regarding using your new name, makeup, jewelry, etc
In terms of discrimination, you'd be legally protected if you were in Chicago, but I don't know what the law is in NM. Much of the opposition will come from ignorance. Is there an advocacy group you can contact that can assist you in providing education on both a unit, and on an institutional level?
Good luck in your journey
- 2Jan 5 by SL2014You have no control over how the other nurses will treat you.
All that you can do is find solidarity within yourself, love yourself and love others, even the ones who hate you. Ignore them.
Forgive them and love them not because they deserve it but because you deserve peace.
- 4Jan 5 by Ruby VeeWhat you're doing is very courageous, so I know you'll have the fortitude to deal with those who would disrespect you. Remember, how your colleagues treat you says much more about THEM than it does about YOU.
Personally, I don't care about your gender or sexual preferences as long as you're comfortable with yourself and happy with your choices. But if you and I were working night shifts together, I'd love to hear all about your journey. Decide how much you're comfortable sharing, and figure out a tactful way to say when you're not comfortable sharing.
Of course you'll behave professionally at all times, both with your patients and with your colleagues. I'm guessing that your job is safe and your colleagues will come around. There may be some who cannot deal with your transition, but again, that's more about them than about you.
I wish you the best of luck!
- 3Jan 5 by IrishIzRNThey won't work beside you? I hope the NM directs them to the resignation policy!
I recently left L&D and I don't care what gender are or were or working on becoming...work hard and do a good job and that's what matters.
I hope you have the support you deserve from your NM.
Best of luck to you...Amber!
- 0Jan 5 by lmccrn62about 10 yea ago I worked with a nurse who was in your situation. The issue was the hospital received complaints from patients who actually questioned the true sex of the nurse. They released them from their contract stating that the nurses license said one thing and they were representing the self another way. I think in the general floors there are less issues then in a area that is generally female. As a nurse I don't care but the issue could be the patient. I wish you the best!