"Rooming in" on Mother/Baby - not one size fits all - page 5

When I gave birth to my daughter, I had been up for 48 hours solid. I had PIH and had been vomiting for hours upon hours - and then pushed for three hours until she was born. My husband had been by... Read More

  1. Visit  Equinox_93} profile page
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    Quote from Elvish
    Awww, Equinox, that's kind of you to say. I just find that it helps keep everybody sane. And when people realize that you can do it safely and that their nurse is not going to have a cow about it, we just get through the night better.
    Well- you definately have my admiration and lots of thank yous for recognizing how much nicer and more beneficial it is for everyone. It definately makes that hospital stay easier to stomach when you aren't having to deal with either tolerating a situation you don't want (being told you have to put your baby in that plastic box) or having to take a stand for what you want and deal with that conflict at a vulnerable time. So applause and huge bunches of thanks to you for it!!!
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  3. Visit  bagladyrn} profile page
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    All the good thoughts aside, the fact remains that especially in small facilities the hospital is not going to pay for enough nurses to have one to staff a well baby nursery. "Rooming -in" to administrators is not in the best interest of the baby or mother, but of the budget.
    Babies taken out of mom's room at these facilities are going to be at the nurse's station being watched by various staff while the assigned nurse runs back and forth taking care of her other duties and patients - hardly ideal.
    Before you castigate the nurses as lazy, better investigate the staffing situation - I've worked in facilities where I was the only nurse with one aide for pp, newborns AND laboring patients!
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  4. Visit  GooeyRN} profile page
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    Elvish, I would love to deliver at your hospital!!!

    My son was just in the hospital for gastroenteritis. They had a crib, and a pull out recliner in the room for a parent. My kid has never slept in a crib!!! They kept saying no co-sleeping was allowed. I climbed into the crib with him and we slept like that. :chuckle No one said anything about it to me.

    I wish more places were co-sleeping friendly... It would really make those early days less exhausting for the breastfeeding mom. It seems sad that a mom should be expected to give up breastfeeding and all of its benefits just so she could get an hour of sleep here and there, when you can just take away pillows and blankets and sleep/feed together safely. (if mom isn't on any heavy meds, of course, and if she was, she wouldn't be breastfeeding right then, anyway.)
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  5. Visit  SmilingBluEyes} profile page
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    We recently had a near death in the case of a cosleeping mom smothering her baby with a breast. I coslept with my babies, so don't get me wrong; I love it. But we better realize NOT everyone is suited to cosleeping and thank GOD the nurses found this kid in time. I shudder to think if just a few more minutes were to have passed before they found this situation. They had to bag the baby who was BLUE and that close to death. Convinced me allowing everyone to cosleep in the hospital can be very unsafe. We are busy and cannot be there watching every minute to be sure mom and baby are safe, so we have to disallow it. That is why I am really for a responsible adult sleeping the night who can help out. And yes, we will help out watching babies for sleeping moms who have no support/help.

    Disallowing cosleeping has become policy for us due to this situation. Sad but it's safest from a safety and legal standpoint.


    I was 100% cosleeping in the hospital prior to this. Not anymore. That is why we have to encourage the use of the cribs when mom is exhausted/sleeping.
  6. Visit  Equinox_93} profile page
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    I'm all for "encouraging" it in those circumstances... I am, however, against "demanding" it.... Patients do have rights- including being non-compliant so long as they accept the risks and consequences of being so


    Quote from SmilingBluEyes
    We recently had a near death in the case of a cosleeping mom smothering her baby with a breast. I coslept with my babies, so don't get me wrong; I love it. But we better realize NOT everyone is suited to cosleeping and thank GOD the nurses found this kid in time. I shudder to think if just a few more minutes were to have passed before they found this situation. They had to bag the baby who was BLUE and that close to death. Convinced me allowing everyone to cosleep in the hospital can be very unsafe. We are busy and cannot be there watching every minute to be sure mom and baby are safe, so we have to disallow it. That is why I am really for a responsible adult sleeping the night who can help out. And yes, we will help out watching babies for sleeping moms who have no support/help.

    Disallowing cosleeping has become policy for us due to this situation. Sad but it's safest from a safety and legal standpoint.


    I was 100% cosleeping in the hospital prior to this. Not anymore. That is why we have to encourage the use of the cribs when mom is exhausted/sleeping.
  7. Visit  Magsulfate} profile page
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    Quote from SmilingBluEyes
    We recently had a near death in the case of a cosleeping mom smothering her baby with a breast. I coslept with my babies, so don't get me wrong; I love it. But we better realize NOT everyone is suited to cosleeping and thank GOD the nurses found this kid in time. I shudder to think if just a few more minutes were to have passed before they found this situation. They had to bag the baby who was BLUE and that close to death. Convinced me allowing everyone to cosleep in the hospital can be very unsafe. We are busy and cannot be there watching every minute to be sure mom and baby are safe, so we have to disallow it. That is why I am really for a responsible adult sleeping the night who can help out. And yes, we will help out watching babies for sleeping moms who have no support/help.

    Disallowing cosleeping has become policy for us due to this situation. Sad but it's safest from a safety and legal standpoint.


    I was 100% cosleeping in the hospital prior to this. Not anymore. That is why we have to encourage the use of the cribs when mom is exhausted/sleeping.
    WHat happened? I know that when my babies were little and were asleep with me ( in the cradle of my arm and breast) , I was completely aware of them, even when I was asleep. Did she roll over on the baby? Was her breast so big that the baby was under it? If that is the case, this mother should have known not to handle the baby like that...

    It is a mothers intuition to be aware of the baby sleeping next to her, even if she is asleep...
  8. Visit  morte} profile page
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    maybe blue's post goes back to the original.....that mom was toooo tired to be doing it unsupervised.....or perhaps medicated too much.....or was the infant not well to begin with?
    Last edit by morte on Mar 22, '09 : Reason: i cant type today!
  9. Visit  eden} profile page
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    Lamaze, I work in Canada and it's perfectly legal. This was studied extensively and this is what people wanted. They did not want to be separated from their babies so rooming in is the norm here and the only time we have complaints about the fact we have no nursey is when mom wants someone to watch the baby while she smokes. If there is no one available well then they are out of luck on that.
  10. Visit  baloobaba} profile page
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    We (nurses) have to find the famous "golden mean"! It's not easy! Also because of our different characters.
  11. Visit  ~Mi Vida Loca~RN} profile page
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    Quote from Equinox_93
    Well- you definately have my admiration and lots of thank yous for recognizing how much nicer and more beneficial it is for everyone. It definately makes that hospital stay easier to stomach when you aren't having to deal with either tolerating a situation you don't want (being told you have to put your baby in that plastic box) or having to take a stand for what you want and deal with that conflict at a vulnerable time. So applause and huge bunches of thanks to you for it!!!
    I wish I would have known I could fight this, they said it was hospital policy and wouldn't allow it. I coslept at home though. All my kids when they got closer to a year i put in their cribs and slept with me on special occasions, my daughter though was not someone to sleep with me and she was my last baby and it broke my heart. Once she was put in her crib when she was older if I ever brought her to sleep with me she would not sleep, once I put her back in her crib she would be out like a light. She just turned 2 last Monday and my husband is working out of town *he never was a fan of co sleeping but I didn't care when they were babies* and I have brought her in a few times and she is getting a lot better about sleeing, she snuggles up close to me and puts her hand over me and makes me have my hand over her and i just love it! Anyway, I got off track, but I never knew it was something I could go against in the hospital.


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