WOW, I am not sure how to pose my issue....
in the middle of 2013, I was arrested for Disorderly Conduct and Resisting Arrest (please wait before you judge....)
I had JUST gotten home after being abroad (India) alone, with my extremely ill newborn daughter. She passed away after two months. I cannot even bring myself to speak of the customs they forced me to take part in regarding (what I call) desecrating her body. It was so damaging, I missed my flight home (IND-USA) 4 nights in a row, simply because I could not bring myself to get out of bed. The final night, I literally stood up, and walked out of the slum house, leaving my stuff (accept my computer, I had kept a log of everything while their and I was convinced there was something fishy going on.)
On top of the two months of hell she was put through, I was constantly discriminated against, I was assaulted two times, I learned that my daughter had been a twin, but, they did not inform me of this, bc, "medical waste without a breath is not necessary in India." Then, as I tried to leave, they opened up the package her remains where sealed in (*India has a specific method of dealing with this, and, they still did it anyway.) I am Jewish, we do not do the things they do..... They knew this. While abroad, I had NO way of communicating with anyone. domains with .in where not able to connect to .com or anything in certain countries, like the USA. So, I need a VPN, to place myself someplace else in the world, just to email my family. Which almost never worked.... SO I resorted to Facebook. As you might know, you can select your audience of who can see what. And, because I was warned that I was being monitored, I would post generally "things are good...." But to my family, I would telll them the truth, post videos I had taken for them to see/ hear, I even kept a blog for her Pediatrician to use when she and I returned to the USA. - now, im home.
It took about 5 weeks to find a cemetery willing to allow her interment, then, I battled with the newspaper about printing an obituary (same sex couple has child, it didn't sell newspapers they told me..... It was five lines, anyway. Then, I started to get BOXES of mail, filled with cards etc.... Apparently, once I crossed into the USA, all the posts that I had thought I posted, all posted at once. Then, a day later, my former Nursing professor who happens to be one of the "forefathers" of Forensic nursing, contacted me and asked if she could do a chart audit. I gave her a copy, as did the hospital give a copy to the insurance company. Then, within 20 minutes of one another, my phone rang (insurance co telling me to hire an attorney) and my door bell rang (my teacher/friend, wanting to talk to me about her assessment.) I hung up with the insurance company, and my prof got right to the point.... SHe was VERY upset, and told me that I did not want to hear or read her findings, because she did not think I could handle them. However, she is friends with someone who audits charts for the FBI "murdered children unit" (your chart is sent to three different people, who assess findings and draw conclusions to help families understand, and seek justice. With my brain spinning, crying my eyes out, I walked out into my driveway to tell my partner.
A moment later, a police officer showed up, made awful remarks, then (bc I said, your f heartless) he arrested me for disorderly, and to top it off, said that I was trying to resist! (trust me, I would NEVER.)
I plead guilty to D/C, in order to get the arrest vacated/ resiting dropped, and I was to be given one year suspended sentence. I am still waiting to apply to expunge, and I am afraid to even apply for a job, as, they are going to finger-print me.... And, even tho, when I have explained the circumstances, and I was told that my actions where totally normal, (my offense, was I did swear, and I was disturbing he piece by crying!)
My question is like yours... I am in process applying to DNP programs, seeking cert as an NP, and I really want to go back to work, but, I am so afraid to explain this, for fear that they just wont give me a chance.
NOW, this was clearly momentary, and I did not go back to work for months after this. Losing a child is unlike any other experience. In my mind, I feel that I can explain the situation, and it clearly has nothing to do with patient care, public safety, etc.... But, I am so afraid to even try..... Advice?
Similar to maverickment, I am hesitant, and the problem is, I need a travel nurse gig (you know, 12 weeks, crazy pay----I am in the midst of ART treatments...) My lawyer sucked, I am going straight to the ACLU, as, right after this, a similar situation occurred, and they where able to get a total vacate. But, I don't want to wait for school, work or anything..... HELP?