Interview with "Inappropriate" Questions - page 2

by Heavenly4505

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Hello everyone, I have been a LPN for two years and have worked in both home health and long term care. I've decided to try a new avenue with my career and have been applying to some physician's offices. Today, I had an... Read More


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    Well, it's not the fact that she asked me if I have children that has me upset (although it's illegal and should not have been brought up at the interview). It's the fact that she went on to say she can't hire someone who's going to be "calling off all the time due to sick children, babysitter not showing up, etc." It was like she was just ASSUMING I would be doing those things since I have kids. I'm going to wait and see what happens, but if I don't hear back from her, I'm going to be pretty certain it's because I have kids and not because I wasn't qualified.
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    Run.....and report her because that is clearly unacceptable!

    As a single mother of two babies when I first started my nursing journey, I worked through fatigue and tears to hold my LVN position and RN school full time. I am appalled to think that I could have been "discriminated" simply because I have children. That girl she talked about just had poor work ethic and used her children as an excuse. I am an RN now and my children were my motivation.
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    Thank you Katieerin. That's what I'm thinking, too. I actually did not realize the questions were illegal until I was talking with my brother after the interview, and he told me to check in to it. I just know that I've never had anyone ask me if I'm married, have children, etc. in an interview before.

    Another thing she kept doing was calling all of the patient care staff "nurses," even though over half of them are medical assistants. Don't get me wrong, I have nothing against medical assistants. They serve an important purpose, just like LPNs, RNs, CNAs, etc. But they are NOT nurses and should not be titled as such. I am a LPN, and I don't expect someone to call me a medical assistant. Again, not an insult to medical assistants at all. But she told me, "I call all of us nurses because we perform the same functions as a nurse, even if we're a medical assistant." Thinking maybe this job isn't the best choice?
    Unless I were desperate, I wouldn't accept if they offered the job. Umm, no, they are NOT nurses. It might not be a bad idea to make a phone call to the BON to let them know someone is impersonating a nurse.
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    I am aware that such questions are offensive and discriminatory. Learn more about the other possible dark sides of the facility and decide if you want to deal with that kind of management in the future. But if I was you and I was desperate, I would probably still accept to just pay for the bills. Otherwise, move on someplace else.

    Another way you could have handled the situation is to answer the first *inappropriate* question with: "I am not sure how those would relate to my job but I am confident that my martial status and family relations will not interfere with my job performance. Next question, please!" <- well, I won't say the last part, but you get the idea. Good luck!
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    I dont know who you would "report" that to, but you probably should. You might continue your job search too. The interview is a time for both parties to put their best foot forward, if THAT is what they've got to offer, more than likely there is more to come.
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    Heavenly4505,

    You are correct. Questions involving marital status and if you have children or not are irrelevant and indeed ILLEGAL! The reason you got the interview had to do with your skill qualifications. If you don't get hired I would definitely report this because this is illegal and should never be asked during an interview.

    On a personal note, yes, I have been asked the question about children only once during an interview. I knew immediately that it was illegal and I called out the interviewer on it. He responded by saying that he needed to make sure that I had reliable childcare lined up because the job was going to be as a medical assistant in the E.R. Although the question was understandable for me, I did let him know that it WAS indeed ILLEGAL to ask me that. Well, at the end of the day, I was offered the job (I was just waiting to pounce on reporting them if I didn't!) but I ended up not taking it because the job was in another state, would have to move, yadda yadda.

    But yes, prepare to REPORT THEM if you're not hired, otherwise they will continue to discriminate against others if you don't step forward and let them know that this is unacceptable. Heck, women (assuming you are) already get paid less than men "under the table", AND employers want to discriminate against them for trying to make an honorable living to support their children? Ludicrous!

    On another note, What does she expect you to do if you get sick?? Just come on in to work and get everyone else sick? I'm not so sure if I'd want to work under management with this type mind-set. But, if it's what you want and can handle, then do it to the best of your ability and move on once you can find better management to work under.

    I WOULD DEFINITELY REPORT THEM IF I DIDN'T GET HIRED.
    BEST WISHES TO YOU!!
    Last edit by finallyRN7 on Mar 1, '13
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    It is so awkward when employers ask questions that they clearly shouldn't. I remember some years ago I chose not to fill out a "voluntary" part on an application regarding my race. I'm not sure why it was there in the first place. I guess for some kind of statistics. This was a federal job. Anyway, when they called me up for a face to face interview, the lady began looking through my paperwork and looking up at me until she gave this exasperated sigh and said, "Ok, what are you...black, white...what?" I was so surprised by the way she asked me and her tone that I think I just sat there looking at her with my mouth open for a good minute. It was extremely awkward. She must have then realized she shouldn't have asked me that (or rather that I knew she wasn't supposed to ask me that) and she mumbled some words and moved on to another question. I have since tried to come up with a better way to handle such things.

    I'm sorry you were asked those questions but agree with others that maybe this would not be a good place to work. I also find it strange and inappropriate that everyone is called a nurse. There's something between the lines there that doesn't bode well, IMO.
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    Only once have I been asked illegal questions, which I chose to answer honestly - though I did consider politely dodging the questions.

    I did work there and it turned out to be the most hellish work experience of my 30+ years of working... and not the only illegal or unethical thing the company was doing... and predictably, I was pushed to participate.

    I echo what others have said: The red flags are waving... run for the hills and give this employer a WIDE berth.
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    In nursing school we had to take in interviw prep course which was very nice btw. Our teacher warned us about these "illegal" type of questions and a good and respectful way to answer the children Q's are "My home life will not affect my job life in anyway." And thats that!
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    do not work for this employer.
    report their unlawful practices...
    don't look back


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