My boyfriend's ex is a drug seeker/substance abuser/narcotic pill popper - page 2

by Queenofhearts_

My boyfriend has admitted to me a few days ago that his ex girlfriend (whom he has a 3yr old child with) called him the other day asking him for a bottle of vicodin. She stated she has absolutely no pain and just wants to get... Read More


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    If you have not personally seen/witnessed the drug use, you are assuming based on his word. And he is not an unbiased reporter.If HE believes that she poses a danger to others or is abusing drugs, HE NEEDS TO REPORT IT. Not you. You need to be left out of the baby mama/daddy business of his life. You are not married to him, and it is his issue to handle.

    The fact the he told you about her supposed asking him for drugs also seriously bothers me. How would he be able to get them for her - either through you or his own connections? That makes one think that he is "fishing" or that he has a way to get illicit drugs or has gotten them for her or himself before.
    sharonp30, jtboog2003, Esme12, and 7 others like this.
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    Eh, might be homework for ethics class.
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    I'm sure if she's a threat to her patients it will not likely go unnoticed at work...do yourself a HUGE favor and just stay right away from this one, you will be opening up a whole lot of drama and somehow you will come out the bad guy. I can tell you one thing though, it seems like their relationship is a little beyond raising this child together. I would lay down some pretty solid lines when it comes to this kind of stuff, why is she asking him for drugs???
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    Seems simple to me. Stay out of the drama. The fact that she's a nurse is irrelevant. You didn't SEE her take/abuse narcotics, so really it's none of ur business. I find it really interesting that she called ur boyfriend askin for said drugs. Why/how would he have access to them. Since your a nurse and with him, what should we now assume about YOU?
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    Quote from caroladybelle
    If you have not personally seen/witnessed the drug use, you are assuming based on his word. And he is not an unbiased reporter.
    Yes, OP needs to be careful here.
    That's why I mentioned hiring a PI.
    Very often, folks will hire a PI because they are dead sure that the ex is doing drugs around the kids (or something like that).
    These folks get all excited because they can't wait for the PI to "get the goods" on that Crazy Ex...
    Only to find out the only evidence the PI has is video footage of the Crazy Ex lovingly buckling Jr. into his car-seat, carefully driving him to the park and, basically, just being a good parent all day.
    Tread lightly before you threaten someone's livelihood... or worse... parenthood.
    Last edit by Hygiene Queen on Sep 16, '12
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    What about the child? If he really believes she is using, especially when the daughter is around, he should call the child protective service hotline.
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    I'll tell you who you need to call and it's not the Board of Nursing...you need to call Social Services because if she is a hard-core addict, they will make her take a drug test and as long as your boyfriend is clean, the baby will go STRAIGHT to him.

    This isn't a legal issue, it's a child protection issue.

    Tell him not to fall for the BS. When you are on the right side of things, you shouldn't have anything to fear.
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    Quote from itsmejuli
    My first thought is why is she asking him for a bottle of vicodin?

    If I was in your shoes I'd be seeking the drama free zone.
    Agreee,..run fast! I too am curious why she would ask? Perhaps because he had provided in the past? Just something for the OP to think about!
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    Quote from RN-Cardiac
    Agreee,..run fast! I too am curious why she would ask? Perhaps because he had provided in the past? Just something for the OP to think about!
    I thought this too and if I was the OP, her boyfriend may be a user as well.

    Funny, how he was the person she called and he was actually worried that he may not get custody...anyone who has common sense and is clean, should know better than that.
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    OP...we cannot offer legal advice here at AN! This sounds like an issue your boyfreind needs to take up wth his childs mother. Thread closed for staff review


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