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still wanting to be a nurse after failing twice in an RN program

  1. 0 hi, I'm in my third year of classes at a local community college. I have wanted to work in the medical field for as long as I can remember. Our college has an RN program so I worked to meet all the requirements to get in and was accepted. I struggled in fundamentals and was on remediation about every time I turned around. By the grace of God, I made it through. I began medical surgical nursing this semester but just crumbled. I was so nervous, the teacher again had me on remediation. I was getting very upset and stressed out, depressed because I knew it was over and ultimately it was. I'm still taking other classes and plan to graduate with a general studies degree in December of this year. I'm just bored and frustrated now. I feel like I tried so hard but just blew it. I was prepared for clinical, did my paperwork, knew my meds, and was doing ok in the class. I felt very intimidated by the instructor and became anxious when she asked questions that I just didn't know the answers to. I was not even enjoying what
    I was doing because of being tortured like that. And the staff didn't help either. I couldn't even talk to another student without the teacher having her sonar ears pointed in my direction! Nonetheless I am in a career planning class to explore other options. I have applied to an LPN school. The counselor at school doesn't think it's worth it because I'll probably not make it and they don't make alot of money. I'm working with OVR to set up funding to go and counseling. I just don't know what to do. Plus the school counselor wants me to get this general study degree but ridiculed my choices for courses. History and religion since they don't relate to nursing. I am getting my CNA license to get more experience in the healthcare setting. Does anyone have any ideas?
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  3. Visit  S.N. Visit profile page
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    Quote from Purple Princess
    hi, I'm in my third year of classes at a local community college. I have wanted to work in the medical field for as long as I can remember. Our college has an RN program so I worked to meet all the requirements to get in and was accepted. I struggled in fundamentals and was on remediation about every time I turned around. By the grace of God, I made it through. I began medical surgical nursing this semester but just crumbled. I was so nervous, the teacher again had me on remediation. I was getting very upset and stressed out, depressed because I knew it was over and ultimately it was. I'm still taking other classes and plan to graduate with a general studies degree in December of this year. I'm just bored and frustrated now. I feel like I tried so hard but just blew it. I was prepared for clinical, did my paperwork, knew my meds, and was doing ok in the class. I felt very intimidated by the instructor and became anxious when she asked questions that I just didn't know the answers to. I was not even enjoying what
    I was doing because of being tortured like that. And the staff didn't help either. I couldn't even talk to another student without the teacher having her sonar ears pointed in my direction! Nonetheless I am in a career planning class to explore other options. I have applied to an LPN school. The counselor at school doesn't think it's worth it because I'll probably not make it and they don't make alot of money. I'm working with OVR to set up funding to go and counseling. I just don't know what to do. Plus the school counselor wants me to get this general study degree but ridiculed my choices for courses. History and religion since they don't relate to nursing. I am getting my CNA license to get more experience in the healthcare setting. Does anyone have any ideas?

    I can imagine how dissapointed you feel right now. Maybe you can attend another school for nursing, or go into something else like a surgical tech, physical therapist assistant, radiology, dental assistant, social work, medical records ect.
    Don't give up, you'll find your self. Why would they steer you away from becoming an LPN? If your heart is truely in nursing go for it. I can't wait to become an LPN. Find another councelor or at least get a 3rd and 4th opinion
  4. Visit  Katnip profile page
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    Being an LPN might be just the thing you need to build up your confidence in your skills enough so you won't be intimidated by instructors.
  5. Visit  heatherbless profile page
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    Quote from Purple Princess
    hi, I'm in my third year of classes at a local community college. I have wanted to work in the medical field for as long as I can remember. Our college has an RN program so I worked to meet all the requirements to get in and was accepted. I struggled in fundamentals and was on remediation about every time I turned around. By the grace of God, I made it through. I began medical surgical nursing this semester but just crumbled. I was so nervous, the teacher again had me on remediation. I was getting very upset and stressed out, depressed because I knew it was over and ultimately it was. I'm still taking other classes and plan to graduate with a general studies degree in December of this year. I'm just bored and frustrated now. I feel like I tried so hard but just blew it. I was prepared for clinical, did my paperwork, knew my meds, and was doing ok in the class. I felt very intimidated by the instructor and became anxious when she asked questions that I just didn't know the answers to. I was not even enjoying what
    I was doing because of being tortured like that. And the staff didn't help either. I couldn't even talk to another student without the teacher having her sonar ears pointed in my direction! Nonetheless I am in a career planning class to explore other options. I have applied to an LPN school. The counselor at school doesn't think it's worth it because I'll probably not make it and they don't make alot of money. I'm working with OVR to set up funding to go and counseling. I just don't know what to do. Plus the school counselor wants me to get this general study degree but ridiculed my choices for courses. History and religion since they don't relate to nursing. I am getting my CNA license to get more experience in the healthcare setting. Does anyone have any ideas?
    you know what--they should not be in their profession if they discourage you...you try for the LPN program and keep trying--if you give up then you have let your mindset tell you that you will not succeed--there is always a way to your path--maybe not at that school, but another--keep trying. You could get your LPN and some experience and then maybe go to Deaconess online for your RN--there are many options. best, hty/
  6. Visit  Annabelle57 profile page
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    Sounds like an uncomfortable situation... but don't give up! **hugs**

    I went through a similar experience - I was working on my master's in vocal performance at the time. I was in school for something I knew I loved and knew I could do well, but the entire school (staff, faculty, and esp the students) intimidated me so badly that I sounded horrible when I tried to sing. Eventually, I left the school - it was just a toxic environment for me.

    Was I a failure? Not at all, and neither are you, so don't you dare even think that about yourself! What it did was to make me reexamine what I wanted and who I was. Soul-searching ain't ever easy, but sometimes when we feel like we're hitting our heads against a brick wall, it's necessary.

    Some things I would ask myself if I were you: what is it you love about nursing, or the idea of it? What part of school do you enjoy the most? The least? What is your motivation for going into nursing?

    Not being in your exact situation, I don't want to give you specific advice since I don't know all the details. However, if you feel intimidated and uncomfortable where you're at, I don't think it's a good idea to stay. Nor is it a good idea to give too much credit to one person's opinion (including mine!). Are there other community colleges in your area? I know that where I am there are about 3 programs within a 20-30 minute radius of where I live, but that may not be the case where you are. Having a supportive environment can make all the difference! Also, you didn't mention if you had spoken with the professor privately about your anxiety - sometimes they may seem like Attila the Hun, but if you brought your concerns to him/her, they might be able to ease some of that frustration/anxiety and help you feel more comfortable. Professors are, after all, human beings themselves, and if you're uncomfortable, they may be too, especially if they feel like they're failing you as an instructor. Talking honestly and candidly with them may be just the thing. Or, they may still be a jerk, but at least you tried... and you know not to bother yourself trying to please the unpleasable.

    Also, Tanzanite made an excellent point - is there anything else medical besides nursing you might have a passion in?

    Don't give up! A lifelong "heart tug" is not something to be taken lightly or ignored. Your path may just be different than other students, that's all. I would still check out LPN/CNA programs, too - I know someone on another forum mentioned that an RN's duties are quite different than a CNA's, but it will at least let you flex your nursing muscles and perhaps lessen your anxiety a bit.

    Hang in there, and don't be so hard on yourself, either. In my experience, nursing tends to attract the "tenderhearts" like myself (yes, I know there are scary people, but humor me here...) who also tend to be extremely hard on ourselves as well. You are obviously a very dedicated, hard-working, determined, and sensitive person, and that is exactly the kind of person a nurse should be. There are lots of options and lots of different routes, so check out all your options - especially programs at other schools where the faculty are more compassionate.
  7. Visit  MissBerry profile page
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    I am going threw the same thing right now. I had to change my major to community health after failing nursing classes but doing well in clinical. Now that I have decided Nursing is what is what I want to do, I plan on LPN school once I graduate. I think that if you want it LPN school or another nursing school may be right for you. I know that the nursing school I attended was not right for me and that is probably why I struggled with instuctors not offering the help they should and could have. I know you may not want to her this now but Keep your head up!
  8. Visit  sabine_rn profile page
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    I know many people that are in the same situation. I applied to both RN and LPN and got into the LPN program. I see this as a blessing, since MANY students flunk the RN program--they seem to weed out badly... I rather take baby-steps gracefully than running, just to fall on my face
    Confidence comes with experience and successes, so if you start small, get really good at what you are doing, you can take on more challenges, right?!
    Your love for nursing is what really matters, btw. I see so many students that are only in it for the $$$... that's so sad I think.
    Best of luck to you!
    :angel2:
  9. Visit  Yolie profile page
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    It is not coming easily. I have gone to school before and gotten A's. Ths surgical nursing semester is like pushing a wounded animal up a muddy hill. Finals are this week and next and I'm a point away from arranging flowers for a living. (that's a joke- I'm not artistic) I like taking care of people. I always have. I envision myself working in a nursing home. But I need to get enough money for doing it to live. Otherwise I wouldn't mind volunteering.
    People who say they think people are getting into nursing for the money by the way - - - that's not possible, from what I've seen there isn't enough money to pay someone to do what nurses do!! Unless they like taking care of people.
    But back to my school woes. Anyone out there who failed it once and then went back and succeeded???
  10. Visit  Torachan profile page
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    Keep focused. Some people have an easier ride than others. When (note I said when) you achieve your dream you will appreciate it so much more. Uni sucks IMHO, filled with "12 years ago when I last was in a hospital" to the "I have a PHD in Nursing but only have 2 years experience in a clinical setting".

    If you want it don't let anyone hold you back. Life is far to short to settle for second best

    Keep true to yourself
  11. Visit  Torachan profile page
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    Ohh yeah. Here is a tip that keeps me going when the going gets tough at uni. Remember that you are not only a customer but also the CUSTOMER. It is the lecturers JOB to ensure that you pass. If the lecturer is not up to scratch let them know. If they get upset lay down the law. "You are paid to teach me to be a safe competent nurse. If you can not do that then watch out"
  12. Visit  Yolie profile page
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    Thank you!



    Quote from Torachan
    Ohh yeah. Here is a tip that keeps me going when the going gets tough at uni. Remember that you are not only a customer but also the CUSTOMER. It is the lecturers JOB to ensure that you pass. If the lecturer is not up to scratch let them know. If they get upset lay down the law. "You are paid to teach me to be a safe competent nurse. If you can not do that then watch out"
  13. Visit  Pertlvn03 profile page
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    Never give up! Never, Never, Never.......... Well, your instructor's are there to make sure that you practice safe nursing. I too failed on my Med-Surg rotation as well as, two other student. One failed on her clinical got an A on her lecture but still has to repeat the whole course. You know sometimes you just have to get over the hump. It's like riding a bike when you were little--you crash a few times then get back on it. You never give up until you learn how to ride it. Same as nursing. And in the end after you graduate you will appreciate more because you made sacrifices. School give you fundamentals, clinicals give you practice but you alone can make your patient safe and cared for.
  14. Visit  Dixiedi profile page
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    Is it the instrictors not providing the info needed or you not receiving the info they are providing.
    You must be able to answer that question to yourself truthfully before deciding what to do next.
    If they are provinding instruction and you are not "getting it" LPN school will not likely be the place for you. LPN school is not easier than RN school.

    LPN school does not include the more specific details involved in each topic (subject.)

    Too many people think LPN school is a year spent learning how to empty a bedpan. It is not. I admit, I went to school in the mid 70s and all of our graduates (for many years running) passed boards in the 95th and above percentile so I am a bit biased. I do know several nurses who went to public school type LPN programs about the same time I went to school and they barely passed the boards.

    Now, everybody think about this a minute or two. ADN programs consist of two 9 month school years. About 1/2 of of the courses taken are liberal arts/humanities/sciences. That means the ADN prepared nurse has had 9 months of nursing courses while the LPN has 12 months. BSN programs are simular in liberal arts/etc. to nursing courses. I agree liberal arts/humanities/sciences DO help you understand nursing classes more completely but are not required to understand the nursing courses for all of us.

    As I said before, if it's the instructors not presenting the info, just change schools, not your objective. If you are not "getting" the info presented, LPN school would not likely be the answer to your problem.

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