I hate being a nurse - page 4

by SJE RN 61,016 Views | 71 Comments

I've been a nurse for a few years now < than 5. At first I loved it. I was so eager to learn still am. I told myself I will never become the task oriented nurse and here I am just trying to get the job done. I hate nursing more... Read More


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    Quote from SweetheartRN
    Reasons I love clinic work and how I'm so mentally, physically, and emotionally relieved to be going back to it in a few weeks:

    1.I can pee when I need to and not worry about being fussed out by a patient b/c I was in the bathroom for 21/2 minutes instead of taking that time to get their prn q hour morphine or their ginger ale.
    2. I can take a FULL HOUR for a lunch break. We have no patients scheduled during lunch. This means I can eat my lunch at a decent pace or go run an errand if I need to, take a minute to call a friend or family member, or meet someone for lunch, etc. etc. etc. Basically be treated like a human being instead of a pack mule.
    3. The pace is exactly like I like it. Its a steady/fast pace but in a controlled setting/enviroment. I can basically expect what my day will be like with the occasional surprise or patient going sour. (And I did not realize how important this would be for my sanity.)
    4. My work is autonomous but we also do team nursing. I love being able to share the workload, and it builds great teamwork. Its not MY patient or YOUR patient. We help each other out. I LOVE IT!!
    5. I love babies and kids. I love seeing them grow as they come back for their future check ups and that something I told or/taught the parent made a big difference.
    6. I don't have to supervise CNA/PCT's. I do my own vitals and don't have to figure out if something got done or not.
    7. I still practice alot of my skills. I do venipunctures, I&O caths, etc. I do alot of patient teaching, which I love, newborn care, asthma teaching, etc...
    8. No excessive charting. Never stay late to chart. Ever. No hourly rounding, no administration breathing down my neck.
    9. Get to leave on TIME 95% of the time and I get off at 5. I'm part time so it doesn't mean I have to work 8-5 M-F either. No weekends And I can pick up extra time if I want.
    10. I don't think about work when I'm not there, unless its a good thought about a funny kid or something. I don't dream about work or not sleep the night before going to work because I'm anxious about what my day is going to be like.
    11. When students come I actually have time to show them things.
    12. I feel like I have a LIFE with this job and it doesn't consume me, mind, body, and soul like hospital nursing has done to me.
    I TOTALLY agree!! ALL your reasons definitely sound like my new job minus CNAs, I work with MAs and LPNs and different areas of nursing like psych, peds, adult health, urgent care, and ob/gyn. But it took me 6 months to find a job though.

    I hate bedside nursing though, not worth for me to go into work and have 7-9 pts by myself with one cna. I don't want to risk my license and the lives I am responsible for. Also, I am very thankful to work in a setting where it will not kill my back or feet.

    But if I do ever get tired of this job, I may go into Medical Reserve Corp where I will be one of those emergency medical team that responds to the community affected by natural disasters. =)
    Last edit by cyram81RN on Oct 25, '11 : Reason: explanation of reason.
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    Quote from cyram81RN
    I TOTALLY agree!! ALL your reasons definitely sound like my new job minus CNAs, I work with MAs and LPNs and different areas of nursing like psych, peds, adult health, urgent care, and ob/gyn. But it took me 6 months to find a job though.

    I hate bedside nursing though, not worth for me to go into work and have 7-9 pts by myself with one cna. I don't want to risk my license and the lives I am responsible for. Also, I am very thankful to work in a setting where it will not kill my back or feet.

    But if I do ever get tired of this job, I may go into Medical Reserve Corp where I will be one of those emergency medical team that responds to the community affected by natural disasters. =)
    It sounds like fun to cover that many areas!!!!
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    Quote from SweetheartRN
    It sounds like fun to cover that many areas!!!!
    It's hectic, but really enjoyable because of the close-knit teamwork in the company. Each and everyone there is so supportive for a new person and each other and they respect and help each other out so that we can all leave at the same time everyday. =)
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    I am finding that lately after 25+years I am also hating the bedside. Mainly because of the backstabbers I work with, a nurse manager that plays favorites and interprets the "rules" based on the person in front of her. Mostly because of a day like yesterday. I busted my a@@ from 7am to 3pm getting a critically ill patient tubed, lined, ct'd, a-lined, med titrations, no bathroom, no lunch and today one of the docs questioned today why an abx went up later than he expected. Do doctors really get "it" ? After all these years I still see some write an order and forget the process/s it takes to carry out the order.
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    Quote from ChocoCakeRN
    . So, I feel a kind of despair when I tell my friends and family Med-surg is not for me. It's like I'm not living up to the expectation..you know what I mean?QUOTE]

    i feel like this sometimes!! isn't it just the worst feeling...I look at what my nurse friends do and feel like a failure and feel like I shoule be working fully as a nurse because I am a nurse but honestly, I have no carreer drive. I like to go to work, do my job and dont want to be in meetings, on commitees ect ect..I want to leave work in the driveway when i drive off! I dont want to spend days off doing reports and stuff and have no inclination to do further long term study. I am happy to do day or week courses but nothing more than that.

    Some of my friends really get into their job and are doing so much and I compare myself to them and come away feeling like you do.

    I read alot of posts on here that say "i hate being a nurse, nursing isn't for me" but I think alot of them really mean "i hate my current area"

    I know what you mean about family, friends outside of healthcare not getting it! They don't understand the difficult working conditions I deal with in the hospital and make comments I should work more overtime and how lucky I am to have a secure, high paying job or they want to know why I'm not a supervisor, mgr or DON after all these years!

    I could probably work every day of the week if I wanted and money was my only motivation, but I'm just trying to make it thru the day and pay my bills. So many people make comments about how "rich" I am as a nurse and I'm definitely not rich. I say it makes a living wage that's all I don't know where they think I'm rich. LOL

    I'm not the least bit interested in magnet status and climbing the ladder for a one time miserly raise that is held over your head and threaten to take it away ever after. Give me a break! They've changed the ladder so if you stay Level II you just work and go home and I'm very happy with that. Don't want to be on committees, do research etc. but I don't care what other people think about that. They have these employee surveys and that they want engaged workers. Well nursing has made me a very disengaged worker. I put my hours in and go home, that's all I want to do. Hospital nursing sucks the life out of a person especially because the hospitals and nursing homes are all trying to squeeze profit at our expense! I heard magnet status hospitals don't mandate, the nurses just work short! Sounds great, have twice as many patients and the hospitals profit all the more by paying less staff and you wonder why your always short-staffed!

    Thanks to the person who mentioned clinic nursing as being an oasis in the desert. It is definitely something to consider for a better job and working conditions! Glad there's hope out there for some of us!
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    Quote from SJE RN
    I've been a nurse for a few years now < than 5. At first I loved it. I was so eager to learn still am. I told myself I will never become the task oriented nurse and here I am just trying to get the job done. I hate nursing more and more each day. I feel like everyone hates nurses. We are not appreciated at all for all that we do. It is a back breaking job and of course the nurse is to be blamed for everything. I cry on my way to work. I feel stuck in place. I'm actually starting a masters program in January. My friend is now a FNP and loves her job. She hated her job as a bedside nurse. I don't know what to do. I don't know if I should give up on nursing altogether. I mean I've worked so hard to get to where I am. Any advice???
    Where do you work by any chance? I just got hired today for a supervisory position in which I do not have experience for but they will train me. It is in the ltc. I am nervous as heck although I have not even started the orientation yet.
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    Your post makes me want to cry with you... To be repetitive, try something new! I was hired on to a medical ICU right out of school, but my manager suggested that I spend 3 months on the med surg floor before delving into the unit. The floor gave me perspective to say the least. I felt like a chicken with my head cut off without time to know the doctors or patients I was working with. I ran all day but still felt like I made no difference. Some days I felt more like a waitress than a nurse.

    The ICU is very different for me. First of all, I have only 1-3 patients---I know them well. I have much more autonomy. The physicians have respect for the nurses here and include them in care planning-in fact they rely on us because if S*** hits the fan we cannot always wait for them to return a call. I get to use my technical and critical thinking skills. It's exciting and fast paced, and still busy but in a different way. At the end of the day I actually feel like I have saved a life. Plus (and I feel guilty for adding this) many of the patients are sedated, which reduces the stress and drama sometimes (I used to hear call bells in my sleep).

    It isn't for everyone of course (I feel like a salesman lol), but I found my niche here. Try something new, and you will probably find yours too. And more importantly take care of yourself: pee when you need to, never miss lunch, and don't take no crap from anyone! Burn out happens fast.
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    Quote from SJE RN
    Makes me feel a little better that I'm not the only one feeling this way. I used to go into work with my mom back in the 80's early 90's for bring your child to work day. I remember loving what she did and told myself this is exactly what I wanted. Healthcare has changed so much. My patient expired the other night (I work 12-13 hour night shifts) administration was on top of me to get the pt to the morgue so they can book the bed. The son of the pt was hysterical at the bedside. What was I to tell him? Get the hell out we need this room? Where is the compassion? I swear I told all my family...I want to die and home. Don't ever keep me in the hospital.
    This is a perfect example of greedy health care industry.
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    what made you decide to choose nursing to begin with? I have viewed only a few of the messages here, so please excuse me if this has already been asked.... there are sooooo many avenues to choose from w/in nursing... , I'm speaking from experience here.
    for instance, I love older people, but I prefer NOT to do LTC, I love Pedies, I prefer acute/er settings.., thinking about going into legal nursing....
    so, see?
    you are most probably in the best career field as far as a profession that has sooo many outbranching possibilities.
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    Med Surg bedside nursing will suck a life out of you until you're completely physical, emotional, and mentally drained out. We call it BEYOND CRAZINESS at work.


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