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  1. Sep 9, '11 by
    here's an opportunity for you to comport yourself as a professional. every professional gets negative feedback at one time or another -- learn how to accept it an learn from it and you'll find that your co-workers will go to you rather than straight to your manager. if you get angry, upset, defensive or teary with negative feedback, they'll avoid giving it to you. if they're not giving it to you, they're giving it to your manager because no one -- absolutely no one -- is perfect.

    when someone gives you negative feedback, react calmly and professionally. ask for examples or details so you're sure you understand exactly what you're doing wrong. if appropriate, ask for help or suggestions in how to improve. do not get angry or defensive and do not argue with them about whether or not what you did was wrong. at three months, i'm betting you're doing a lot wrong. trust me -- employers expect that. the person who cannot take negative feedback is not someone they're going to want to keep around.

    after you've ensured that you understand exactly what you've done wrong and that you have some idea how to go about fixing it, thank the person for the feedback and ask them to let you know how you're doing (or not) in overcoming the problem. the key is to be someone whom everyone feels comfortable talking to about the bad stuff. if you're not, you're going to spend an awful lot of time in the manager's office.

    i just spent the afternoon in my manager's office -- there was a complaint about me for refusing to co-sign a narcotic waste. i was on vacation and out of state on the day in question. i've also spent time in the manager's office because of various other things i've done wrong -- or not as the case may be. i know my manager has a lot of respect for me, but it's still difficult to be professional sometimes. i'm a work in progress. we all are.
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  2. Sep 9, '11 by
    Quote from ruby vee

    i just spent the afternoon in my manager's office -- there was a complaint about me for refusing to co-sign a narcotic waste. i was on vacation and out of state on the day in question. i've also spent time in the manager's office because of various other things i've done wrong -- or not as the case may be. i know my manager has a lot of respect for me, but it's still difficult to be professional sometimes. i'm a work in progress. we all are.
    someone actually had a reason they thought was 'good' for this?
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  3. Sep 9, '11 by
    originally posted by ruby vee

    i just spent the afternoon in my manager's office -- there was a complaint about me for refusing to co-sign a narcotic waste. i was on vacation and out of state on the day in question.


    ok, don't want to hijack this thread, but this just kills me. ruby, what did they do to the person that accused you of refusing to co-sign, since it obviously was a lie????
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  4. Sep 9, '11 by
    Quote from lucky0220
    originally posted by ruby vee

    i just spent the afternoon in my manager's office -- there was a complaint about me for refusing to co-sign a narcotic waste. i was on vacation and out of state on the day in question.


    ok, don't want to hijack this thread, but this just kills me. ruby, what did they do to the person that accused you of refusing to co-sign, since it obviously was a lie????
    she actually wasted the narcotic with my husband in one of the other icus. she went into the computerized charting to find his name for him to co-sign it, but he isn't in there as his team charts on paper. she saw the last name and (as it's an unusual name) didn't look at the first name, just marked it down. it took me three hours to figure that out, straighten it out and then notify everyone involved about the disposition.
  5. Sep 9, '11 by
    Quote from ruby vee
    she actually wasted the narcotic with my husband in one of the other icus. she went into the computerized charting to find his name for him to co-sign it, but he isn't in there as his team charts on paper. she saw the last name and (as it's an unusual name) didn't look at the first name, just marked it down. it took me three hours to figure that out, straighten it out and then notify everyone involved about the disposition.
    your husband wasn't on vacation with you?
    i ask, because he signed it when you were on vacation.

    leslie
  6. Sep 9, '11 by
    Quote from leslie :-D
    your husband wasn't on vacation with you?
    i ask, because he signed it when you were on vacation.

    leslie
    HA! That's why it was a VACATION!!!

    Only kidding, Ruby
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  7. Sep 9, '11 by
    its really sad when supervisors work against there nurses! thats every where my last two jobs they tried to do sneaky stuff to all nurses my advice is cover ur butt! always wrk as a team with other nurses work with eachother not against eachother but that always doesnt happen if not watch ur back
  8. Sep 10, '11 by
    Quote from leslie :-d
    your husband wasn't on vacation with you?
    i ask, because he signed it when you were on vacation.

    leslie
    my mother, who has alzheimer's, recently stated deteriorating quickly. i have had to fly halfway across the country every few weeks to move her into a dementia ward when the alf could no longer keep her, and now to settle some of her affairs. dh has his own mother with alzheimer's so one of us frequently travels without the other to deal with mother issues. it isn't a vacation, but i am burning through my vacation time.
    Last edit by rn/writer on Sep 10, '11
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    Sep 10, '11 by
    Quote from ruby vee
    my mother, who has alzheimer's, recently stated deteriorating quickly. i have had to fly halfway across the country every few weeks to move her into a dementia ward when the alf could no longer keep her, and now to settle some of her affairs. dh has his own mother with alzheimer's so one of us frequently travels without the other to deal with mother issues. it isn't a vacation, but i am burning through my vacation time.
    so sorry to hear this, ruby. i'm glad you were able to sort out what happened with the narc wasting situation.
  10. Sep 10, '11 by
    Quote from Isabelle49
    What is it that you documented that was considered a 'diagnosis'?
    PVCs and missing beats as seen on monitor. Reported to Dr. X. EKG done per doctor's orders.