So I have this rash... What do you think? - page 3
How many times has one of your friends or family monopolized on the fact that you were a nurse? “Hey Sis, so my poop is green.. what’s wrong with me?”; “Hey best friend! So the other day I was at the club and, well you know me,... Read More
- 0Apr 26, '13 by NJnewRNHmmm...that's funny. People almost never come to me! It's the best kept secret around. I'm usually elusive and cryptic about what I do. I am an extremely private person about my life. It works for me. In fact, a family member accused me of not being a real nurse. I will only bring out my skills when there is a medical situation that warrants it. Aside from that, I don't speak about what I do for a living. Again, that works for me.
- 0Apr 26, '13 by sharpeimom GuideMy dad had very fair Swedish skin and every bruise looked as though he'd been beaten. He also got rashes easily from "new and improved" products. He would show EVERY single bruise, rash, whatever to my mom, absolutely sure that each was serious, if not fatal.
Finally she developed a system. She'd look and if it were nothing immediately and messily fatal, she'd answer very calmly, "Well, I'm no doctor, but it's probably just leprosy or syphilis. If your arm, leg, head, or whatever falls off. we'll call Dr.___."
Men! The capper to the tale? My dad was a physician/attorney who ended up practicing law with my mom.
- 0Apr 27, '13 by NatkatI love the article, but i think you give people too much credit. I think people ask questions because they want free advice and don't want to pay a doctor for it. My girlfriend is in IT and people constantly ask her to fix their computers. Even people she just met will ask her. It's getting to the point where we dread being around people anymore.
- 1Apr 28, '13 by LadyFree28I think we can all relate being on both sides of the coin.
I may have a ton of patience...it took me a long time to go from gently telling people to go to the doctor, to the sigh and yawn gesture.
One time I told my sister to take her middle child (was her youngest at the time) to the ER because the s/a she reported to me sounded like a broken arm...and I was right. That was the ONLY time I was sure to state what it MIGHT be....
- 0Jun 29, '13 by JericaLI think this kind of happens in every profession. My hubby works in the IT field and online and folks always ask him to fix their computers, set up things for them, install software etc. I don't think they do it maliciously, they just find it convenient and they trust him. Family and friends, sometimes just people he's recently met. Now with nursing it is a bit touchier because you really have to do your best to educate and refer back to their physician. You don't want to be held liable for "practicing medicine without a license" or something of that nature which a person who technically isn't your patient could pull on you if your advice falls through or does them harm.
"I have learned that when we are sick, we are scared, and when we’re scared we turn to people who we look up to and trust for advice. Western societies especially are prone to socializing people to be brave and independent. Don’t ask for help, don’t show fear and don’t complain. That is, I feel, interwoven in our society and in our behavior as people. Thus, the easiest way for us to deal with our emotions when we are scared and sick is to just revert back to a simpler time when we were children and depended on our parents for everything. We place health care professionals or people we deem ‘wiser’ than ourselves in place of our parents and we want them to make our decisions for us."
This is really wonderfully put and kudos to you for thinking it through to that conclusion. People aren't trying to be annoying, they're just worried and scared. How could anyone not sympathize, right? But still, your advice is solid -- comfort them and refer to their doctor.