Hello Allnurses friends in recovery..wanted to post that my situation has drastically changed this past few days. My main focus has been finding a job.. until my 96 year old mother with dementia fell and broke her right hip at the nursing home. I have been so disgusted and embarrassed about my field of choice in the past few days..
from the nursing home through the hospital stay..where are
the caring nurses, compassionate doctors, dedicated social workers?????
.they were absent during the last 4 days, so I demanded to take my mother home with me on home hospice after her hip replacement 3 days ago.
The self righteous/self serving ortho surgeon wanted to make sure he pushed her to the point of olympic competition( defensive medicine) and when I said my focus was on her comfort.. not cure for her..he said to me, and I quote.."well I hope you are not TOO
disappointed when your mother does not die in 6 months on hospice" I mean..really????. This is a woman who was born in 1915..she lived thru a time when women could't even vote , her first car was a model A..endured 2 world wars, the last one (WWII) my dad was gone for 2 years overseas..the depression..on and on..she was married to my dad for 64 years before he passed 5 years ago. She raised a family on the farm and found time to cook ,clean, wash, grow and can every vegetable and fruit imaginable...and plow
..and This surgeon is going to judge me for refusing his aggressive painful care plan when she weighs 85 lbs and has profound osteoporosis and dementia??
Anyway enough venting..my point is that my focus is not at this point finding a job..but rather being the full time caregiver for my mother in my home. I am so fortunate to have a husband who supports this and values family above all else. I have enough morphine and Ativan in my fridge to put down a large horse and thanks to my HP and recovery..I will not make bad choices today. My HP has brought me to this point in my nursing career .I am so so blessed to be her nurse today..and DO IT RIGHT.
I am going to stay active in this forum because someday I will be back to the job market.. (if I can ever get past my disillusion with healthcare today) but more importantly..because of the cyber strength and resolve ya'll give me. That.. with my friends, family and my real life network will get me thru..one day at a time..God bless us.each and everyone. Thank you my friends