Quote from realnursealso/LPN
That's the way the world is now, except in my own way I try to change it. I don't need to pass you just because your car is in front of me. I don't need a big atta boy for doing what I should. I don't need to rush in front of you in the grocery store so I can be first to check out. I don't need to tell you what my GPA was in nursing school to say I deserve a job instead of you. I don't need to try to catch you doing the slightest thing in a different way so I can try to tell on you. Trying to get you in trouble to prove I am the superior nurse. I don't need to pick your post apart and declare you are terrible and say you are bad. I see it in life, I see it at work, I see it on AllNurses. I believe in, "What goes around, comes around." So in my own little way I try to make the world a little gentler and kinder place to be. I gave up on the me, me, me people long ago, they will never change, it will always be what's in it for them, not for their fellow man/ coworker.
What a great attitude. I love these words of wisdom, although I do believe people can change negative habits and attitudes (at least I hope they can!) I am trying to overcome many of my own impatient and self-centered behaviors and hope that this changes in time.
Quote from TheCommuter
A nurse generally has no desire to rip apart another human being unless his/her own self confidence is down in the dumps.
So very true, at least of me. I am more nitpicky and snarky when I am not managing my own stress/issues very well.
Both posts are a great reminder to take time to be kind to ourselves and to others.
I have also seen mean behavior as a defense mechanism, especially when the patient is close in age to the nurse. For example, if I am 30 (lol) and my patient is 29 and has come in due to cardiac complications from meth use, it makes it more tolerable to say "Oh well, that druggie...."
I'm not explaining it well, but what I mean is that if we can "blame" the patient, it seems to make us feel secure that this could not happen to us. I see this frequently.