What is your take on multiple family members in room when they have roommate? - page 5

My patient had a roommate who had multiple family members in the room, on the other side of the curtain. And actually a group of them came in around 1 a.m. The families' loved one (pt) had gone... Read More

  1. Visit  MomRN0913} profile page
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    Visiting hours are there for a reason. They need to be upheld unless of course there is a serious situation. A minor surgery should be a 10 min good night hug and kiss, see you in the morning type of thing.

    When I had my daughter I was in a semi-private room. Visitors and dads had to leave by 11pm. I had my daughter around noon and it was a long long 2 days. I sent my exH home by 10pm (our DD was in the NICU) because he was awake forever and had to drive home 45min. Plus, I was in and out of sleep. When my exH left, I heard my roomates husband in bed with her talking. I drifted asleep. At midnight, the nurse came in to do some peri care on me. She thought no one was in the room, pulled the curtain halfway for some light without having to turn it on. Well, while providing me peri care, my roomies husband comes leaves the room, I am by the door, and he sees me in that position! I was ****** to say the least. Luckily she left the next day and i didn't have a roommate for the rest of the time.

    Really, there should be set visiting hours, a set number of visitors at a time, and security making sure everyone is gone when visiting hours are over. When did this practice stop???
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  3. Visit  Ruby Vee} profile page
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    Quote from momrn0913

    really, there should be set visiting hours, a set number of visitors at a time, and security making sure everyone is gone when visiting hours are over. when did this practice stop???
    same time we started providing "customer service" rather than "patient care."
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  4. Visit  fuzzywuzzy} profile page
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    The nursing home where I work has either private rooms or rooms with 2 people. We have one resident whose family camps out in her room ALL DAY on the weekends and it's such a pain when we want to do anything with her roommate, because the family members are in the way and resent having to step out. They sit on the roommate's bed all the time instead of keeping to their own side, and they bring big decorations and put them all over. They are constantly encroaching on this other woman's space. The roommate is total care and since the lift equipment doesn't fit in the bathroom, we need to toilet her in the room, on a commode. Every single time, they complain about the smell, like poop isn't supposed to smell bad! This is why we have several sitting rooms throughout the facility- so that people and their visitors have a place to go, but this PITA family refuses to go to any of them because if they did, they would have no way of ringing the call bell every 5 minutes!
  5. Visit  Been there,done that} profile page
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    MY take does not mean a rat's patooty. There is a "customer service " policy in place... I will make EVERYONE in the room feel as if they are in the Ritz-Carleton!
  6. Visit  flashpoint} profile page
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    Quote from ruby vee
    here in the us, we ignore our own culture in order to accomodate everyone else's. else we may appear politically incorrect.
    exactly! my mom was in the hospital and her roommate's daughter brought her young children and left for the day. apparently, grandma (the roommate) was the babysitter and no other accommodations could be made. my mom got to spend the day not only having children making noise and crawling all over the room, but she had to wait to use the bathroom, had kids spilling her water pitcher, and was stuck watching cartoons all day. when the roommate managed to fall asleep, the children expected my mom to take care of their needs and play with them. the nurses were too busy to take care of anyone that wasn't a patient.

    when my mother complained, she was informed that it was a cultural thing. my mother informed the nurse that her culture expected peace and quiet in the hospital and that her culture also expected that people who are sick are not expected to care for children that are not their own. the nurse just smile and shrugged.

    it is a no-win situation. no matter what, someone is going to be offended, someone is going to have their needs go unmet. i love hospitals with all private rooms!
  7. Visit  FlyingScot} profile page
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    Quote from flashpoint
    Exactly! My mom was in the hospital and her roommate's daughter brought her young children and left for the day. Apparently, grandma (the roommate) was the babysitter and no other accommodations could be made. My mom got to spend the day not only having children making noise and crawling all over the room, but she had to wait to use the bathroom, had kids spilling her water pitcher, and was stuck watching cartoons all day. When the roommate managed to fall asleep, the children expected my mom to take care of their needs and play with them. The nurses were too busy to take care of anyone that wasn't a patient.

    When my mother complained, she was informed that it was a cultural thing. My mother informed the nurse that her culture expected peace and quiet in the hospital and that her culture also expected that people who are sick are not expected to care for children that are not their own. The nurse just smile and shrugged.

    It is a no-win situation. No matter what, someone is going to be offended, someone is going to have their needs go unmet. I love hospitals with all private rooms!
    Your mom's nurse was an idiot. I sooo would have called children's protective services. Tjose kids were in an unsafe situation. Has common sense gone completely out the window?
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  8. Visit  MomRN0913} profile page
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    In the LTACH I managed we had an age policy. Yet somehow a visitor managed to make it upstairs with her infant and was breast feeding her child in the room that was a MRSA contact precaution. Disgusting. I kicked them out. Nicely, of course
  9. Visit  anotherone} profile page
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    Ugh 24/7 visiting here...... i can't stand when i have to go into rooms with 234324 visitors and none of them get out of my way so i can see/assess my patient. and they feel free to interupt CONSTANTLY. and run us around. once ,during a chaotic rapid response while i was attending to other patients and running for supplies for the rapid response team. one visitor came up to me in the hall, not even my pt (semi jk) , and asked me to get her some coffee, i said, " sorry i don t have time to do that right now." in hindsight her shocked look only seems funnier.
  10. Visit  Beige} profile page
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    Ok,I am in the hospital right NOW in Maine.Yesterday,my roomate,a seemingly sweet cancer pt started having many sons and family with loud bullhorn like voices showing up.They were laughing,the women were walking around very loudly clacking their heels,I was by the window,and had to walk by her bed a to get the bathroom.Just had emergency surgery for massive adhesions,14 inch incision,mucho pain.Anyway,these yahoos,were trading "Seinfeld' clips on their computers at full blast and making very racist political comments while the mothers tv was on.I finally said'Um,excuse me.could you please keep it down a little,I just had major surgery and would like a bit of rest?" They were silent for 3 seconds,and just started to laugh.They started making snide comments about not having private rooms anymore because of Obama care and "thats what free care will get ya'...I was hooked up to 3 IV's.So vulnerable.These were rednecks with a bit of money.I complained to the nurse,and she sort of sympathized but said that she thought they would be leaving soon.I told her that in fact,Id heard there were MORE coming to spend the weekend.Now,I didnt ASK to be there,It was a dire emergency.When my mom and husband showed up.they said there were NINE people in the room,and they could barely get though!!!!The nurse brought in a commode dhair,but there were still NINE people on the other side of the curtain,having what appeared to be a rodeo?lol..When the finally got moved to another room,hours later,they had taken the "please dont be too noisy"sign off the board and flipped it over.They were so horrid that I was near tears.The 'sweet old lady said "well,I would think that someone like that,{like what???}would get cheered up by having activity in the room"It had been a horrible experience,and one or two of the sons,had the loudest voice Id ever heard.I think he rather enjoyed the sound of his own voice.The started getting close to the curtain and saying rude things to me.Dropping large stacks of stuff,saying,laughingly,"WHOOPS!!!HOPE IT ISNT BOTHERING ANYONE,HARHARHAR"What would YOU have done?I was pinned to my bed,with a huge abdominal incision,iv lines and post op weakness and pain.The nurses eventually got them out,but only after aboit 6 hours of them abusing and making fun of me.I TOLD the head nurse,and she sympathized,but it took a long time.I told her that she shuld clear out the room NOW!!! Didnt happen.Im wanting to file a complaint but I dont want o get these 2 nurses in trouble.Isnt NINE Giant loud bigoted Mainers a bit much?What should I do? I was sooo sooo soo upset.I think there should be a STRICT 2 person limit and the noise from the bellowing types should be monitered by...security?Is still steamed as hell and dont want anyone to ever have to go thru this.Advice>Thanks yo all in advance.i dont feel that the nurse should have to be the bad guy,but,couldnt she have called security?I was a cna for 20 some years,but in a private geriatric hospital, where this was NEVER an issue.Folks back in the 90's were much more respectful.Im torn,I seem to always be the 'whistle blower'.Should I just walk away? It made me feel so bad tho..And the nurses should be protected.Not to mention the patients..Advice would be so so so welcome!Thanks you guys!.
  11. Visit  Beige} profile page
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    I feel like if Im going to do anyth8ng about it,It should be this week,I might go home tomorrow.Wasnt this a clear violation of MY rights?There are "2 visitors per patient"signs everywhere.
  12. Visit  Beige} profile page
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    BTW,My first roommate was the sweetest old lady you can imagine.She hugged me 3 times when she left,gave me her number and address and begged me to come visit her..awwwwww
  13. Visit  Beige} profile page
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    Ruby.I am so sorry this happened to you,In 98,with my hysterectomy,I had what sounds to be this same family,complete with odiferous foods.The nurse booted them.different hospital.
  14. Visit  Beige} profile page
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    Ruby,Im an "old Nurse too.52.Its so different now.No respect at all for the nursing staff.we are like servants.


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