"Nurses are so Mean" - page 9

by Ruby Vee 62,577 Views | 219 Comments

I wish I had a dollar for every post I've read claiming that "nurses are so mean," "nurses are nasty to each other," "nurses eat their young" or "my preceptor is picking on me for no good reason." And then if you add in all the... Read More


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    Yes counseling is important but nurturing eachother in the profession is key : )
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    UMM I thought about it and NO the problem isnt generally the person, its the nasty rude people specifically taking thier personal problems out on someone else. That is not acceptable practice any where especially in nursing, life is hard enough and work is to, their is no need to be nasty because your husband is cheating on you, I didnt sleep with him. If I have a bad day , I will just tell my co worker that i am not having a good day so that way nothing is misunderstood, but this is not the case. You cannot have a bad day every day so that cannot be the problem. PS nobody picks up my slack either. I am the one known for picking up the slack and I am the one that people ask questions to but I do the same. Good nurses always ask each other questions if its not what they are used to do dealing with, and if you think you know everything, then hopefully your patients dont suffer from your arrogance.

    Nursing is not a competition its suppose to be a partnership. A good partner will ask her co worker if she needs help when she is done with hers and vice versa, this way the patients do not suffer. If your partner has someone who isnt doing very good then thier is nothing wrong with helping her patients so that her unstable patient gets the care they need as well as the others..

    COME ON ALREADY< GROW UP
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    We should ALL check our attitudes AND personal problems at the door as much as possible when we come to work. Work is work. Not a place to abuse coworkers or vent out our personal frustrations.
    AGREE! It's highly unprofessional to act out at work. You're getting paid to do a job, so do it. If you're irritated, etc, you don't have to plaster on a fake smile, but you should maintain a professional demeanor. That includes EVERYONE from the CNAs to the MDs. I've worked on site with construction workers inspecting projects I've designed and they always act very professionally. I'm surprised to see this happening in the nursing realm.
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    In my new position( been here 5 months) in new facility(to me,...experienced nurseof over 20 years here), there is no partnership...it is a competition....don't know why....when I have patients who are not fairing well...it's just me...when they crash...it's just me....management knows that this behavior is happening with certain nurses on certain shifts...I have actually calmly spoken to these nurses about how patient care is affected when we do not work as partners or a team....they still sit at the desk or find unimportant charge nurse or staff nurse busy work to do...I plan on transferring out of this unit...I have worked with some wonderful nurses in some wonderful facilities and have been fortunate to experience the partnerships and the team experience when caring for patients....I feel like if I stay on this unit...I am doing myself a disservice as well as my patients...and to make things worse...race is an issue...and racist comments are made along with watching provocative videos on the hospital computer...also personal phone calls and text messaging go on all the time....I feel like that the behavior is incredibly unprofessional...and I have spoken up about it to the nurses who behave in this manner(which by the way violates hospital policy)...only to be called names like the B word and racist....I wish everyone would grow up, suck it up and just work....wish me luck in finding another position...
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    I agree with your comment about being mean being consistent. I work with two nurses in my new position that are just mean. They say they know they are that way and they think it is okay. So, since management does not seem to want to deal with them...the unit has a high turnover. I will be one of those turnovers. The job of nursing is stressful enough...who needs mean nurses. These two thing that they are totally approachable (to other new nurses or new to the unit nurses) when nurses have questions to ask...they aren't....my way of solving the problem is to answer my own questions...I look up policy and procedure...and I find the protocols I need concerning patient care...I just by pass these two witches...but when the you know what hits the fan concerning patient care not being done properly because new nurses just don' t know any better...these two(charge) nurses run and hide....all of this behavior is childish and ridiculous....I am choosing to go work with adults instead of these two children that have the illusion that they are in charge(for the record been a charge nurse for years, so I know what the job entails).
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    I'm one of those older nurses you refer to in your post. I don't really care about your BSN, your ADN....when you hit the door as a new nurse...young or old...I want some respect. Your post, in my opinion seems to lack respect in addressing us "older nurses." For the record, most of us "older nurses" are up to date on our clinical skills and nursing knowlege...I don't appreciate your insinuation that we are not...I (and I am sure I speak for others) don't need to be "reeducated" by anyone with your mindset. When a nurse like you gets yourself in a tight...who do you come running to...it's us "older nurses." Just remember that...and show a little respect. The only thing I agree with in your post is that women who are nurses should be civil or nice to each other. I think that there is some atrocious behavior going on in the nursing profession due to the majority of nurses being women. A late note...Nurses always have to take anatomy and physiology...how do you think we learn how to care for patients....geezzzzzzz.
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    People have bad days. It's just one of those things. We cannot all call in sick every time we've had to stay up all night with a child or parent, put the dog to sleep or take antihistamines. We can't all not come to work every time the sewer backs up, the roof leaks or the car won't start. Some of us on any given day have worries and responsibilities outside the job. If you happen to encounter a colleague on the day she discovered her husband was cheating on her, her child crashed another car or the space heater fried a whole circuit they might just be rude to you. They probably don't mean it, possibly don't even realize they WERE rude to you. Cut them some slack. Even preceptors have really bad days when nothing goes right. If you're looking for nurses eating their young or being mean and nasty to their co-workers, you'll find them. Whether or not they actually ARE young-eaters or mean nurses.


    You are so right. As a DON I had hired a nurse that presented well with many certificates giving the assumption that she was a self-starter with much experience and could jump right in. As it turns out, she was the neediest nurse that I had ever had! More so even than the new grads. What trully brought this to full light was on the day (at 7pm mind you) I received a phone call about my mom being transfered downstate to another hospital as her condition had changed for the worse. I tried to speak to her on the phone but she was so sedated and had such a negative reaction to the morphine that they pumped into her that she could not reason. When I spoke to the nursing supervisor to explain this (she had already cussed out her sister, my sister, and her best friend and they all said that she 'wasn't right') the nursing supervisor blew me off and as she was at a hospital over an hour away she was going to be gone before I got there. To add to my frustration, something was wrong with the facility phone lines so all of my calls had to be placed through the phone operator. I was scared for her, frustrated and angry with the hospital for ignoring the fact that she was not competent to agree to this type of transfer or any medical procedure and with myself for not being there.

    Fighting back tears of frustration, I walked out of my office to get some fresh air and think about my next options when this nurse asked some silly question about something that I had been repeatedly trying to teach her and I said not now and kept on walking. She yelled back at me something like "Well, I see how it is. The big nurse manager doesn't have time for us little nurses!".

    When I took care of mom's situation and returned to work the next week I saw this nurse who gave me a look of hurt feelings. Even though I know that she was overly needy, I stopped and apologyzed for not speaking to her the last time we worked together and explained that I had just gotten some bad news that needed my attention. She still hangs onto the ONE time I was unable to stop and hold her hand!
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    Show a little respect, you say, Ittibittinurse? Have a little patience, do what you know how to do, do it well and you'll get the respect you earn. No need to be so defensive and disdainful. It sounds mean.
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    Quote from ittibittinurse
    i'm one of those older nurses you refer to in your post. i don't really care about your bsn, your adn....when you hit the door as a new nurse...young or old...i want some respect. your post, in my opinion seems to lack respect in addressing us "older nurses." for the record, most of us "older nurses" are up to date on our clinical skills and nursing knowlege...i don't appreciate your insinuation that we are not...i (and i am sure i speak for others) don't need to be "reeducated" by anyone with your mindset. when a nurse like you gets yourself in a tight...who do you come running to...it's us "older nurses." just remember that...and show a little respect. the only thing i agree with in your post is that women who are nurses should be civil or nice to each other. i think that there is some atrocious behavior going on in the nursing profession due to the majority of nurses being women. a late note...nurses always have to take anatomy and physiology...how do you think we learn how to care for patients....geezzzzzzz.

    which post are you referring to?
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    I was referring to the post that said, "I don't care about your BSN or ADN...."


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