Nurses don't eat their young!

  1. There have been several threads on here recently about how crochety and unfriendly nurses can be to newbies...I usually just lurk here but I have to get this off my chest.

    So far, nurses have been the kindest, most helpful people I've ever met! I admit I am still in nursing school, but 99.9% of the nurses I've encountered as a student and as an extern have gone out of their way to teach, make sure I feel comfortable and welcome, and in general have been wonderful. The few that are less friendly I think just want to do their own job and not mess with students, which is fine.

    I spend quite a bit of time here and read many threads about the vicious, young-eating nurses running around out there before I started clinicals, and I was very intimidated in my first few encounters with nurses, so I wanted to share my very pleasant experiences with other nursing students...if you are polite, don't waste the time of the nurse you're working with, and don't act like a know-it-all, nurses are WONDERFUL.

    So this is a big THANK YOU :flowersfo :1luvu: to all the nurses out there that have been willing to take the time to make newbies feel welcome....you are in the MAJORITY and you are APPRECIATED!!

    Julie
    in my 4th of 6 semesters
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  3. by   Ruby Vee
    what a wonderful post! thank you!
  4. by   chelli73
    Quote from Valerette
    There have been several threads on here recently about how crochety and unfriendly nurses can be to newbies...I usually just lurk here but I have to get this off my chest.

    So far, nurses have been the kindest, most helpful people I've ever met! I admit I am still in nursing school, but 99.9% of the nurses I've encountered as a student and as an extern have gone out of their way to teach, make sure I feel comfortable and welcome, and in general have been wonderful. The few that are less friendly I think just want to do their own job and not mess with students, which is fine.

    I spend quite a bit of time here and read many threads about the vicious, young-eating nurses running around out there before I started clinicals, and I was very intimidated in my first few encounters with nurses, so I wanted to share my very pleasant experiences with other nursing students...if you are polite, don't waste the time of the nurse you're working with, and don't act like a know-it-all, nurses are WONDERFUL.

    So this is a big THANK YOU :flowersfo :1luvu: to all the nurses out there that have been willing to take the time to make newbies feel welcome....you are in the MAJORITY and you are APPRECIATED!!

    Julie
    in my 4th of 6 semesters
    First of all GOOD LUCK in school! Continued success! Yes, I too have learned from and worked with some of the BEST people in the world (aka nurses!), some are my dearest friends are nurses, and I cannot WAIT to get out there in the field as an actual RN myself!!!! But there are negative people in any line of work that one goes into, and that I think is the actual problem. Negative people--not negative nurses. It just so happens that their line of work is nursing. It becomes an ugly platform for them, because ALL nurses are supposed to be SWEET and CARING, and all too often, some nurses are NOT.
    Many nurses that I have encountered are NOT too sweet, but they are EXCELLENT nurses, while some are the NICEST people in the world, but somewhat lost on providing adequate care to their patients. Its just a matter of that individual's personal attitude, and I don't think that it should reflect on all nurses in general. But such is life...In any case, it seems like you are having a good experience with school and that is great, because you will become a great nurse who also happens to be a great person!!!! I hope to do the same!
  5. by   cardiacRN2006
    Quote from Valerette
    to all the nurses out there that have been willing to take the time to make newbies feel welcome....you are in the MAJORITY and you are APPRECIATED!!
    Until you've been to all the hospitals in my town, and everybody's town, you can't say that kind nurses are the "MAJORITY". If you gave worked or had clinicals at a majority of my hospitals then fine.

    I'm glad you've been having a great time in nursing school. You're lucky that your nurses have been nice to you. But just because you have had a good experiece does not mean that everybody else who has had a bad experience is wrong.

    The students and new grads who come here and complain about their situation, do so to vent.

    I can tell you, that the majority of my RN's who precepted us as nursing students were really quite mean. I had some awful experiences as a SN. I lived and learned. I had some great nurses as well! You learn what you can from everyone-good or bad.
  6. by   Valerette
    Quote from cardiacRN2006
    Until you've been to all the hospitals in my town, and everybody's town, you can't say that kind nurses are the "MAJORITY". If you gave worked or had clinicals at a majority of my hospitals then fine.

    I'm glad you've been having a great time in nursing school. You're lucky that your nurses have been nice to you. But just because you have had a good experiece does not mean that everybody else who has had a bad experience is wrong.

    The students and new grads who come here and complain about their situation, do so to vent.

    I can tell you, that the majority of my RN's who precepted us as nursing students were really quite mean. I had some awful experiences as a SN. I lived and learned. I had some great nurses as well! You learn what you can from everyone-good or bad.

    You're right, I meant, in my experience, the majority of nurses have been helpful and friendly. And I'm not trying to discount the experience, or the right to vent, of people for whom that's not been the case, just trying to add a different perspective--sometimes people who have good experiences are less motivated to post.

    I've also noticed, however, that fellow students that I've shared clinical experiences with have complained about nurses that I thought were pleasant, so it's possible that people have different perceptions of what constitutes mean vs. helpful.
  7. by   Tweety
    Many students come here to vent about nurses eating their young when in reality they are having a bad experience with just one nurse.

    Other students and new grads like the one above have experiences where the majority of nurses area mean to new people.

    However, I still would venture to say that if you took all the nurses in nursing, counted the mean ones who didn't like new grads and students, they would be in the minority.

    It's a bit irritating to me that those few give us all a bad rep.

    I hope that new grads and students who are having a hard time continue to post and vent about their experiences, without judging the entire profession.

    Nice post. I'm glad that you found this to be true. Count me in the believers that "nurses do not eat their young". Some do, but most don't.
    Last edit by Tweety on Sep 18, '06
  8. by   Spidey's mom
    What I object to is the "nurses" part - all nurses do not "eat their young".

    Just as in any profession, there are mean people and at some jobs you may have more than the usual amount but it has nothing to do with being a nurse and more to do with just being a mean person period. You'd be that way whatever profession you chose.

    So yes, "nurses" do not eat their young.

    steph
  9. by   nuangel1
    Quote from Valerette
    There have been several threads on here recently about how crochety and unfriendly nurses can be to newbies...I usually just lurk here but I have to get this off my chest.

    So far, nurses have been the kindest, most helpful people I've ever met! I admit I am still in nursing school, but 99.9% of the nurses I've encountered as a student and as an extern have gone out of their way to teach, make sure I feel comfortable and welcome, and in general have been wonderful. The few that are less friendly I think just want to do their own job and not mess with students, which is fine.

    I spend quite a bit of time here and read many threads about the vicious, young-eating nurses running around out there before I started clinicals, and I was very intimidated in my first few encounters with nurses, so I wanted to share my very pleasant experiences with other nursing students...if you are polite, don't waste the time of the nurse you're working with, and don't act like a know-it-all, nurses are WONDERFUL.

    So this is a big THANK YOU :flowersfo :1luvu: to all the nurses out there that have been willing to take the time to make newbies feel welcome....you are in the MAJORITY and you are APPRECIATED!!

    Julie
    in my 4th of 6 semesters
    well thankyou that was a very nice post.i am glad others come to post and vent we all need to do that sometimes .but there are negative people out there in life and at work .in my experience (20 yrs)most nurses are nice .but there are some that make work difficult for any new people nurse tech student dr etc .some people are like that .i personally dislike the phrase nurses eat their young .we hear it too frequently.
  10. by   TheCommuter
    It is nice to hear that you have had great experiences. You cannot be wrong or incorrect about your experiences.

    I have had some unsavory experiences with middle-aged and older nurses being extremely cruel to me and, while these rude nurses were in the minority, they were the types that 'ate the young'. I know that I am correct about my personal experiences.
  11. by   cardiacRN2006
    Quote from Valerette

    I've also noticed, however, that fellow students that I've shared clinical experiences with have complained about nurses that I thought were pleasant, so it's possible that people have different perceptions of what constitutes mean vs. helpful.
    Yes, I noticed that as well. I think that everybody's attitude plays a role. For instance, I was starting to have issued with my preceptor. Instead of getting in the ring with her, I just decided to fix whatever it was that I was doing wrong. In school, I would just pretend that I didn't notice the comments made about me or the other students. I just tried to kill them with kindness, or stay out of their way.
  12. by   Ruby Vee
    Quote from cardiacrn2006
    yes, i noticed that as well. i think that everybody's attitude plays a role. for instance, i was starting to have issued with my preceptor. instead of getting in the ring with her, i just decided to fix whatever it was that i was doing wrong. in school, i would just pretend that i didn't notice the comments made about me or the other students. i just tried to kill them with kindness, or stay out of their way.
    that's a great attitude! it's always a good idea to look at your own stuff before jumping on someone else's. some of us are better at it than others, but we could all learn.

    ruby -- sometimes better at it than others.
  13. by   HyperRNRachel
    Being a nurse of all of 9 months I am almost certain I have not eaten any new nurse/student nurses. BUT I can be a bit territorial and I expect that my fellow nurses, new nurses, and nursing students to be informed and productive. Nothing is more ridiculous than a new nurse/student who comes onto the floor expecting to be taught everything they need to know, including drugs, procedures, assessments, etc.etc.

    There has to be motivation on the new nurse/student nurse's part to have enough information, whether from a book or actual experiences, to be safe on the floor. Know medications, steps to common procedures, assessments....the the basic foundation to build your practice on.

    I know the difference between a new insecure nurse and a nurse who is uneducated. I am willing to help a new nurse or student when they are motivated to learn.

    If as a new nurse/student nurse you show up unprepared.......that is going to get you bitten!
  14. by   Antikigirl
    *wipes the corners of her mouth and burps* No honey..we don't...LOL!!!!!!

    I am so kidding...I have run into nurses that do, wanna know what I did...didn't take it! I stood up for myself and got out of that situation or...made an effort to avoid those types of staff (it soooo isn't limitated to nurses!). You just have to realize..you are a professional now, and it is YOU that commands that! YOu are only as good as you will be willing to be!

    I have had my share of horror stories and now believe in karma..LOL! I just frankly stood up for myself, and made it all work no matter what! My focus is on the pt!!!!!!!!

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