nurse & dr affair, what should I do? - page 2

Just found out that one of our nurses (divorced w/ kids) is having an affair w/ a married doc. it is disguishing! what would you do if you were me? I think it is totally unethical to have a work... Read More

  1. by   angelcharm
    Quote from thecommuter
    this is a great suggestion, but the physician cannot simply 'leave' his adulterous conduct at home (or else his wife would find out). many cheaters do their thing at the workplace or in public so that the unwitting spouses won't be aware of the affair.
    if theyr doing what they are not supposed to be doing in the workplace...its disrupting their work.. and everyone else.. including the patient.
    cant we file a complaint?
    the wife will soon find out either way.hehe... :spin:
  2. by   Jo Dirt
    Quote from sandee
    what would you do if you were me?
    I think it is totally unethical to have a work place affair, it just makes me sick to even have to work with these people.
    Why do you feel like there is something you are supposed to do? It's absolutely none of your business, unless they are overtly waving it under everyone's nose. If that is the case I'm sure they will self destruct rather rapidly.
    I know of a situation here where a doctor started dating one of his nurse's and soon after left his wife for her. I saw them not too long ago in Lowe's looking at repair kits for water faucets. I'm still not sure what brought these two pathetic miserable souls together (it certainly wasn't looks on either part), but if outward appearances ever meant a thing they are as miserable now as before the affair.
    Likely the case with these two you speak of. Leave them to their miserable little attempts at "romance and excitement."
  3. by   UKRNinUSA
    Next time she starts bragging about all this money that is being thrown at her, tell her that it sounds like she is being compensated for services rendered. It might make her think about how she appears to her co-workers.
  4. by   bethin
    I presume they are having sex, kissing, etc. outside the hospital? If they are, then stay out of it. Pretend you don't know. You are not obligated to the dr's wife to say anything. Chances are, she knows.

    Until their relationship becomes a problem at work and seriously disrupts the workplace, I would not say anything.
  5. by   georgy
    juz let it go..there are better thingsto think abt..
  6. by   lilypad2424
    IT'S NOYB. It's great that you are an ethical person and would not engage in such activities, but unless it's your husband, stay out of it. They'll pay the piper eventually.
  7. by   SaderNurse05
    Unfortunately the older I get the more I have seen... These people think everything is so special now but they will come to regret this behavior. In the meantime, I vote with the stay out of it crowd. Affairs are so emotionally charged and bringing more drama to the situation has not worked IMHO UNLESS patient care is compromised. This does remind me of a situation where an ER doc was carrying on with a RT. They were leaning up against his car in the parking lot and we could just see them out the window. We took turns beeping them both- this was before caller ID so they never caught on. Now I just leave 'em to it.BTW, they married/divorced and have both gone on to other things.
  8. by   LZRN
    Sounds to me as if you have some unresolved issues of your own? I'm no psych Dr, but I did sleep at a holiday-inn express last night!

    Quote from sandee
    I don't know. I am just shocked. I know I can stay out of their business but it is so hard to do so. Our place is so small. It is not in a hugh hospital settings, so basically I see these two disguishing faces everyday.
    I know that this nurse is taking advantages of the situation. She is bragging about how her sugar daddy spoiled her with gifts and trips. It is just sad that these people have kids. I am now thinking to myself, "what's wrong with this world?"
  9. by   georgy
    its happening everywhere.
  10. by   georgy
    live and let live
  11. by   georgy
    live and let ive
  12. by   middleageNP
    Quote from sandee
    I don't know. I am just shocked. I know I can stay out of their business but it is so hard to do so. Our place is so small. It is not in a hugh hospital settings, so basically I see these two disguishing faces everyday.
    I know that this nurse is taking advantages of the situation. She is bragging about how her sugar daddy spoiled her with gifts and trips. It is just sad that these people have kids. I am now thinking to myself, "what's wrong with this world?"
    In this world, it is common to disapprove another for doing something we think is immoral. But we really don't have the right to do that. No one has a right to judge or tell how another should behave or act when it comes to personal business. It is out of ego that we want to tell someone what not to do in their private affairs. I don't think what they're doing is un professional if they both are competent with their work duties.

    I think you should let it go and focus on your work. It's not your business.
  13. by   angel337
    go to work as usual. there isn't anything you can do to stop two consenting adults from doing what they want.

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