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This is a discussion on Irritating Coworker in Nurse Colleague / Patient Relations, part of General Nursing ... Wondering how others would deal with this situation. I am a nurse who recently started working on a...by medsurgrnco Jul 8, '08Wondering how others would deal with this situation. I am a nurse who recently started working on a very small unit at a different facility. One of the nurses there picks at me and corrects me repeatedly during every shift that we work together. I find this person's behavior very irritating because I'm an experienced nurse and the remarks are completely unnecessary and worthless. It is not like I'm making mistakes or poor judgment calls. This person talks incessantly, acts very friendly with everyone, and gossips about others behind their backs. As the new kid on the block, I don't want to make waves, but I really dread working with this person. No one else treats me that way at this job, and I don't see this nurse treating anyone else this way either.
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- Jul 8, '08 by TheCommuterI've observed repeatedly that these irritating coworkers target specific individuals, while 'magically' leaving other people alone. This is really unfortunate, but it is all about the manner in which we are perceived. If you are viewed as someone one who will not stand up for oneself, you'll be targeted for further harassment. If you're perceived as someone who will put up some sort of resistance and not allow anyone to pick at you, then the irritating coworker will swiftly know it is best to leave you alone.
In my opinion, this coworker is bullying you. She might be jealous of you, or she might be picking at you because she feels she can get away with it scott-free.
Bullying is a crime of opportunity, since bullies pick out the most opportune targets: people who are less likely to respond in a defensive manner to the harassment. Also, if nothing is done, this person will continue the antisocial behavior, because this person knows that he/she can get away with it.
- I find that in general, if I have someone picking on me, I call them out right on the spot as bluntly as I can without being rude. I rSome people think they are funny or powerful or something else when they do the incessant picking, but sometimes if you look in their eye and give it right back to them, they will back off.
- I tried to edit my original post, but when I have the cheapo membership, I have to type faster, I guess!
I find that in general, if I have someone picking on me, I call them out right on the spot as bluntly as I can without being rude. I recall once as an CNA I had a coworker pick and pick at me for little things. (SHEESH!)
One situation of mine sticks out. Anyway, one day my boyfriend at the time called me at work. She answered and gave me the phone but then yelled at me that I needed to take the trash out NOW when there was no reason for me to take it out right then...he called for some particular reason that I can't remember. Anyway, I did take the trash out then to avoid a confrontation (bad move on my part), and picked the phone back up. When I was done on the phone, the CNA said, "Gosh, your boyfriend's voice is kind of high, isn't it?" I said, "He has a speech impediment as well. Why don't you pick on that, too?" (He had an issue with saying the R sound. He did indeed have a slight but obvious speech impediment.) She never picked on me from that day forward and was actually nice to me. I don't know if you have anything like that, but I never, ever had anyone try to pick on me quite as personally as that besides my own parents, but that's another story. This CNA was not the only one to pick incessantly at me, but I remember this situation quite well, so that's why I said it.
Some people think they are funny or powerful or something else when they do the incessant picking, but sometimes if you look in their eye and give it right back to them, they will back off.
- Jul 8, '08 by medsurgrncoThanks. I do plan on dealing with it, just trying to figure out what to say. Fortunately we haven't worked together very often, and the comments are often said in the form of "informing" me about something like I don't know it (when I do). So what would others say to this nurse?
- Can you give us some examples of what your coworker spouts out?
- Jul 8, '08 by medsurgrncoSent a PM. Trying to remain anonymous on this forum, and I don't know who reads posts here.
- Jul 8, '08 by nursej22I would ask to speak to her in private initially... and then I would use the SBAR communication tool (Situation, Background, Assessment, Recommendation).
Something like " I feel like some of the comments you have made to me are unnecessary and have hurt my feelings. Although I am fairly new here, I am an experienced RN. I feel like you do not think that I am not doing my job adequately.
While I appreciate you trying to help me I would rather you wait until I ask for advice."
And then I would try to compliment this person on something she does well to show that you can appreciate her strengths as well.
If she keeps it up, call her on each time. If you feel safe, perhaps you can joke:
" Oh yes, wise and learned one, this unworthy soul relies on your great wealth of knowledge and experience".
- Jul 8, '08 by RN1982You just need to call them out. The more you let it go on, the worse it will get. You need to come out and say "I find you behavior to be very rude and in the future I would like you to address me more politely"
- Jul 8, '08 by CHATSDALEnot saying anything is not going to solve the problem
do not raise you voice but let her know that you do not going to put up with this, if you like your job stay there and correct the problem
firmly with a smile on your face
you don't want to make an enemy of her but you do not have to put up with childish behavior