Is there a lot of gossiping at your workplace? Seems to be a lot at the place I work and it makes me put my guard up and I'm just not as trusting as I usually am. With goosping I mean nurses complaining/ talking about other nurses and doctors in a non-flattering way. This includes chargenurses and the manager. This hasn't been the case at previous jobs I've had . It definitely effects how happy I am there. How is it at your workplace? I'm afraid to leave based on this only to discover the grass isn't greener on the other side. And yes, I do stand up to people but it still does not stop the gossiping.
BTDT, got the t-shirt. Keep your mouth shut and your ears open. Never take sides, never participate. Walk away from the nurses's station when things get heated (suddenly have to pee/check on your patient/stock a room). If you can't walk away, become very engrossed in charting or something else work related. Just always keep your mouth shut and never, ever participate or take a side. Ever.
Workplace gossiping is a ubiquitous problem, and yes, it does make you not trust your coworkers and WITH GOOD REASON, in my opinion. The way I let it not bother me is to do what I advised in the first paragraph, and to recognize that I cannot control what other people say behind my back (because I'm sure things have been said) but I can absolutely control whether or not I choose to get caught up in the gossip and drama. When you don't participate, they usually leave you alone.
It's been that way at every single place I have worked. I refuse to participate in it. I also refuse to just allow it to happen around me without calling it out. People have learned not to put others down around me anymore. Worst thing you can do is get involved. Focus on your patients and caring for them and if you have down time go visit with your patient or stock or find something else useful to do. Don't get sucked into the negativity and be assured these people that sit around putting other people down, will no doubt do it to each other and you as well.
I was at one of our nurses stations one time charting and in a facetious mood. I could hear this one nurse who I knew didn't care for me, talking about me.She was at the main nurses station where our Doc room was also. She was saying things that were outright laughable they were so absurd. I was good friends with a lot of the residents and we hung out sometimes to grab a bite to eat, but mostly it was a learning environment. They learned some from me and I mostly from them and we had amazing working relationships. But this nurse was convinced I had to be sleeping with all of them. So I am sitting there and then she said something else that she got totally wrong and I rolled my chair back and leaned back so they all could see me (she was the only one talking, the other nurses you could tell weren't engaging and 1 attending who I knew well was there and a few interns) and I said "Actually I only sleep with him on Tuesdays, I sleep with ***** on M,W and F because he's pretty good and I still have Thursdays open if you know someone. But I can't lie, it's EXHAUSTING. I think I need some panties with built in ice packs." Then I rolled right back to my computer and about 45 seconds later you heard everyone laughing and the nurse turned so red and angry and marched off to the break room.
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It depends on what type of gossip it is. Not all gossip is malicious. When people have worked together for a while, it's natural to comment on their recent engagement ... pregnancy announcement ... new car ... vacation ... work activities ... etc. Social discourse creates social bonds, friendships, a sense of community, culture, etc. That kind of gossip is often normal and healthy. People who don't interact in a social way with their co-workers often find themselves isolated at work, less engaged, less supported, more alone in society in general.
However, if it is cruel conversation ... mean-spirited ... etc. ... well, that's another story. That's the stuff you want to stay away from. But don't confuse the two. Don't let your fear/distaste of the mean stuff prevent you from engaging in friendly conversation with co-workers. And keep in mind that sometimes, all co-workers have in common is work and other co-workers. So it's OK to do a little friendly, kind-spirited gossiping.
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