Eating a new nurse for breakfast, lunch, and dinner. Or is it? - page 3

I had an experience recently that I'd like to share. (I also hope this post goes better than the last thread I started in another forum. ;) ) With almost a year under my belt, and I'm working... Read More

  1. Visit  RN58186 profile page
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    When I started my first job, I was working with a very seasoned nurse who had at that time been working full time nights for 25 years. And the rule was "Whatever you do, don't annoy _______". It only took a little bit before I realized just how much this lady could teach me, and so I asked "Do you mind showing me how you do _________?" Or "Would it be okay if I came to watch you do________________?" She turned out to be the most awesome lady I have ever worked with, and I learned so much more from her than in all my textbooks. I cried the day she retired. She didn't have any patience for new nurses who came in with the attitude of "I know it all" and were unwilling to listen when she tried to explain the why of what she was doing. We are still good friends, and we laugh now at how scared I was of her on those first shifts. I worked with a unit clerk who was much the same. Come in making like you are God's gift to nursing and she will happily let you fall on your face. Come in willing to learn and listen, she will move heaven and earth for you. (I was scared of her in the beginning, too, and we are good friends now.)
  2. Visit  Flare profile page
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    So glad you worked things out! So many things can be resolved by simply taking that uncomfortable step of clearing the air.
  3. Visit  Galaxy1 profile page
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    concerning that nurse...i would never ask her for the time of day.
  4. Visit  dudette10 profile page
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    When this thread got moved, a post of mine got eaten in cyberspace.

    Someone on the first page mentioned that it worked out primarily because the other nurse was honest with me about how she felt. Truer words were never spoken.

    If she had acted any differently when I asked to speak with her, the outcome would not have been so good, and neither of us would have known the truth about each other's motivations. My respect for her just grew that day.
  5. Visit  dudette10 profile page
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    Quote from Galaxy1
    concerning that nurse...i would never ask her for the time of day.
    If I'm completely honest with you all (and I will be), that notion did run through my head immediately after the nasty comment thrown my way. It really did. I was angry about it, but I became too busy with work to dwell on my anger.

    However, because I have always gotten along with her, I felt that her comment had something behind it. Something more than plain hatefulness and nastiness, and it deserved to be worked out.

    There is one other nurse where I work who has a habit of saying such things to nearly everyone that she feels superior to (new nurses, nursing students, NAs, etc.) while doing everything she can to suck up to the doctors and more established nurses (but still talking about them behind their backs). She, on the other hand, would never get the same courtesy from me.

    This thread isn't intended to dismiss the fact that there are some real pieces of **** out there. I guess everything is in the context of the history you have with someone.
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  6. Visit  maelstrom143 profile page
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    Pretty awesome outcome. It sounds as if you work with some really awesome nurses. I have been blessed in being surrounded by amazing coworkers as well
  7. Visit  Purple_Scrubs profile page
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    I love this thread! So many people would have just harbored ill feelings due to the hurtful comment, which while it might be justified, is certainly not helpful. I can see how this might have snowballed had the OP not been so mature...the OP does not confront the "bully", talks about her behind her back to the new nurse she is precepting, who avoids the "bully", the "bully" become increasingly agitated at these know-it-all new baby nurses who do not respect her experience, she comes here on AN and posts about it, the newby nurse makes a mistake and the "bully" snaps at her about it, so newby is now coming here on AN posting about it....all of this hypothetical turmoil avoided because the OP took a leap to actually talk to a co-worker about a problem in a mature manner. So refreshing!
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    Quote from dudette10
    When this thread got moved, a post of mine got eaten in cyberspace.

    Someone on the first page mentioned that it worked out primarily because the other nurse was honest with me about how she felt. Truer words were never spoken.

    If she had acted any differently when I asked to speak with her, the outcome would not have been so good, and neither of us would have known the truth about each other's motivations. My respect for her just grew that day.
    That was my post. I had it deleted because I gave too much identifying info about my job.

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