Dating Patients

[bobnurse]

Anyone here ever date/go out/marry a patient. I personally have never done it, but have seen it happen....i recall one time a male nurse dated a patients daughter...We got her on our floor one day after she attempted suicide, he had cheated on her.

Another employee dated a patient and married them........They both were married prior.......

Just curious if anyone else has seen this

[traumaRUs, MSN, APRN]

Yuck - I work in the ER and can't imagine dating my barfing, drunk, high or just completely stupid patients.

[live4today, RN]

This pt must have ben HOT! :chuckle

I can't imagine yet how I could be attracted to a pt attatched to i.v's, foleys, and looking...well....not their best.

Of course you may work in an outpatient facility..I don't know.

Y'a never know who you'll meet. :rotfl:

He was HOT alright! Stopped me dead in my tracks when I entered his room to admit him. He was only in for hand surgery. Nothing wrong with him that I could tell. :rotfl: And...he was an inpatient on an ortho floor years ago. I've seen some lookers since that time who were only in for minor issues, but still would not date them. Now...IF I had met one of those lookers again months later, and THEY ASKED ME for a date, I might have taken them up on it.

[z's playa]

He was HOT alright! Stopped me dead in my tracks when I entered his room to admit him. He was only in for hand surgery. Nothing wrong with him that I could tell. :rotfl: And...he was an inpatient on an ortho floor years ago. I've seen some lookers since that time who were only in for minor issues, but still would not date them. Now...IF I had met one of those lookers again months later, and THEY ASKED ME for a date, I might have taken them up on it.

On a more serious note..what is the time limit a nurse has to wait until they can date a pt? I know it sounds like a wierd question..I'm not in it for the dates..I swear...here we were told one year but that seems a bit extreme.

[bobnurse]

Yuck - I work in the ER and can't imagine dating my barfing, drunk, high or just completely stupid patients.

What about after they become sober or get an education?

Just kidding

[bobnurse]

On a more serious note..what is the time limit a nurse has to wait until they can date a pt? I know it sounds like a wierd question..I'm not in it for the dates..I swear...here we were told one year but that seems a bit extreme.

I looked in at our nursing standards of practice, and nursing practice act and its not referenced anywhere.......Im sure its in some form if you have a complaint, but not actually referenced anywhere

[stkates]

I have seen this happen so many times! When I was an oncology nurse, a former patient's husband was married to our unit's CNS within 2 months of the patient's death. Evidently, they had become close throughout the 2 years of visits for treatment for the patient's cancer.

When I was a hospice nurse, a coworker dated a patient's spouse after said patient's death. Apparently, it was the patient's wish that the two of them get together. It was also the patient's wish that all her clothing was bequeathed to my coworker after her death as well.

I once worked with an ANP who was married to the spouse of a former patient (now deceased). Once again, they met during the course of visits to the clinic for treatment.

People, this is wrong. I know that all of the above situations took place in emotionally charged environments, but what environment isn't? After the fireworks subside, there is always time for critical reflection. The heart may want what it wants, but that doesn't make it okay to pursue.

[clucki]

My Mom and Dad are a nurse, patient matchup from long ago

its kinda special

[z's playa]

I have seen this happen so many times! When I was an oncology nurse, a former patient's husband was married to our unit's CNS within 2 months of the patient's death. Evidently, they had become close throughout the 2 years of visits for treatment for the patient's cancer.

When I was a hospice nurse, a coworker dated a patient's spouse after said patient's death. Apparently, it was the patient's wish that the two of them get together. It was also the patient's wish that all her clothing was bequeathed to my coworker after her death as well.

I once worked with an ANP who was married to the spouse of a former patient (now deceased). Once again, they met during the course of visits to the clinic for treatment.

People, this is wrong. I know that all of the above situations took place in emotionally charged environments, but what environment isn't? After the fireworks subside, there is always time for critical reflection. The heart may want what it wants, but that doesn't make it okay to pursue.

Wierd for lack of a better word. Kind of creepy too!

[Still Riding]

I looked it up it was a year. a year since the last theraputic interaction for the pt their spouse and children.

ONLY in certain situations I think it is ok to dat e a pt. consider this. A nice male comes into the ER to have a minor treatment ie: stitches, minor break, ect.

the interaction always remains proffessional. a year latter (the proper time frame) you run into him in the store. and he asks you out. is there anything wrong then with saying yes?

[z's playa]

I looked it up it was a year. a year since the last theraputic interaction for the pt their spouse and children.

ONLY in certain situations I think it is ok to dat e a pt. consider this. A nice male comes into the ER to have a minor treatment ie: stitches, minor break, ect.

the interaction always remains proffessional. a year latter (the proper time frame) you run into him in the store. and he asks you out. is there anything wrong then with saying yes?

So a year is the proper time frame...I thought I was wrong there for awhile. Maybe only here in Canada?

[bobnurse]

anyone ever here of a doc marrying a patient?

[Marie_LPN, RN, LPN, RN]

Yes. I also work with two nurses that married surgeons they met at work.