Coworker nurse trying to ruin my reputation...

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    I've been a nurse for 5 years, and at my present facility for 2. I've come to find out in the last 2 weeks, that another nurse (same position as me - floor nurse) has been spreading lies about me throughout the facility, as well as to other nurses in the area. She is saying I'm 'on drugs' and 'stealing narcotics'. This is a SERIOUS allegation, and I am NOT!! She's basing her entire theory on the fact I give OUT more PRN meds than she does, but this is because I'm actually on the floor, interacting with the patients, who ask me for meds, whereas she sits behind the desk and ignores the call lights. She also used to be an ADON elsewhere, and has the mentality that getting other people in trouble makes HER look better, so she constantly does it.

    What should I do? I'm terrified I'm going to be canned for something I haven't done. According to another nurse, shes already gone to the DON with these accusations a while back, but nobody in management has said anything to me. My 2 closest nurse friends have conflicting opinions over what I should do. One says to confront the girl with a witness, then let it blow over. The other says I should go to the DON/Administrator and make a huge deal over it. I'm uncomfortable with the latter, as the upper management and I don't really get along, and I don't want to bring up anything that would give them a reason to terminate me. (I work in a den of snakes. Seriously.)

    Fiancee says quit immediately and find another job, because this one is so stressful on multiple levels, and I've been wanting to leave anyway.

    Please help! My career/license is at stake here...
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    The sooner you find another job, the happier you will be. And I would consult an attorney if this was happening to me. Perhaps a cease and desist letter from an attorney could get this woman to shut her mouth.
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    If you aren't actually doing these things and you've been documenting appropriately, I fail to see how your career or license is at stake.

    You have no proof that she is actually saying these things or that she has discussed them with management; only rumor. Based on your description of the situation, I would merely continue to do my job. Document accurately, be a professional, and ignore this crazy woman. Do not feed the situation. I would, however, look for another job. Your current place of employment does not sound very healthy.
    DesertRN2, spacey, TLCfromSC, and 17 others like this.
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    Be VERY careful of your response to these accusations.

    Right now you experiencing an emotional reaction...do NOT let it affect your rational decision.

    You are the recipient of lateral violence.

    Research this. Think it out. Co-workers cannot make a claim regarding your practice.. without a thorough investigation by management.

    Most facilities have a grievance committee that you will be able to take these accusations to .. and respond to them in a professional setting.

    Deep breaths.... and fiancee 's advice is also a knee jerk reaction. Is he a nurse?

    I've truly "been there done that"... I made a huge mistake of giving up when lies were said about me.
    Please PM me .
    chevyv, Enthused RN, SHGR, and 6 others like this.
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    Quote from BluegrassRN
    If you aren't actually doing these things and you've been documenting appropriately, I fail to see how your career or license is at stake.

    You have no proof that she is actually saying these things or that she has discussed them with management; only rumor. Based on your description of the situation, I would merely continue to do my job. Document accurately, be a professional, and ignore this crazy woman. Do not feed the situation. I would, however, look for another job. Your current place of employment does not sound very healthy.
    Unfortunately, these " crazy " accusers are way to often taken seriously.
    They must not be ignored and the accusations have to be addressed.
    monkeybug, Code_VSA, TiddlDwink, and 11 others like this.
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    what about talking to administration, and demanding (asking nicely) for a urine / blood test be done to put this crap to bed once and for all?
    Code_VSA and TiddlDwink like this.
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    me?
    if ignoring the accuser didn't work, i would write a letter to her, sharing what you've heard...
    and remind her of the legal implications of slander.
    keep emotion out of it, keep defensiveness out of it.
    short, sweet, to the point.

    and cc your manager.
    whether you are doing anything or not, nurses indeed can sabotage another's career.
    keep your head up, and continue to be your professional best.

    much luck to you.

    leslie
    chevyv, Wesley-Mw, TiddlDwink, and 6 others like this.
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    Has it occurred to you that the DON has not spoken with you about this because they don't believe it either? All this is just speculation at this point any way. If you have nothing to hide you have nothing to fear!
    kcmylorn, wooh, interceptinglight, and 3 others like this.
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    Not to challenge another person's good intentioned advice, but do not put anything in writing no matter how polite, true, or what your motivations are. These documents can come back and bite you when you least expect it, and in spite of how carefully worded or intentioned they were.

    If these rumors are known to many of the staff and this person has gone to the DON with her allegations, you need to be proactive in your response. Make an appointment with your director--you may wish to do this on your own time, and when the accuser is not on the floor. Tell the director that you've heard that 'someone' has been talking about you, making false allegations and you need her advice for your response. You can say, "I hear there are rumors circulating that I'm diverting meds, or that I have a chemical addiction, and I want to give you my word that that is completely baseless and unfounded." But, don't mention names, don't react emotionally, don't sound threatening, and don't mention quitting or that you work with snakes.

    The best course is asking her advice and guidance, "What should I do?" This will put the ball in her court, allow her to be your advocate, and hopefully she will address this issue with the person spreading rumors.

    Good luck!
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    Is this something I should consider seeing a lawyer about, like was suggested in the first response? Perhaps a 'cease and desist' letter, or maybe a slander lawsuit? I'm concerned this is damaging my career, especially since nurses who don't even work there are contacting me asking about it.
    threebrats46 likes this.


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