The "Flirt"

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The 'Flirt" is on the loose. How many women flirt with you? Not just your customary flirting, but serious double entendre, risque stuff? No I am not trying to incite some sort of ego competition here. I come from a background of carpenter work and factory work, so the dominant female workforce is new to me...well new as in 2 & 1/2 yrs in the biz. Age range of these flirtatious beings ranges from 20-50ish...I am not extremely handsome nor am I gruesome. Do the ladies just constantly flirt and tell you you're hot as a common way of conversing throughout the day? Obviously I like it because I am a man, and love the smell of perfume and vitamins :-), but I already have trouble driving my car down the street in danger of hitting something when there are females in my field of vision...

Just yackin' here fellas, do you find that the women you work with are just that way or what??

Specializes in RN.

I like your reply!!! Witty and on point!

Wouldn't it be akin to slander though for an anonymous person to smear your name over the phone??? Or at least against hospital policy...?

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I'm not a nurse, but giving some strong thought to the idea. But this post is about the question about the legality of someone contacting people at your home. Is a tricky subject, but there ARE in fact laws against it. These would be known as harassment laws. Also if they lie, you can file a law suit against them for slander. The reason it's usually very hard to win these cases is because the subjects are often in a gray area. For instance if the person saying things is a known friend of you or someone you live with or whatever, harassment is very hard to prove. However the slander is usually easy to prove, you just need character witnesses and to destroy the credibility of the person you are suing.

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Specializes in Geriatrics.

I flirt with them - not because I'm interested, but because I'm gay. They love it!

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Specializes in Med/Surg - E.R. - Pediatrics.

Im fat and ugly.... no flirting going on here

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I just try to be boring. Typically that works.

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Flirt all you want. But keep this in mind....sexual harassment is exactly what your accuser says it is.. You WILL lose. Besides... seriously.. who would date a female nurse? Find someone with a liberal arts or English degree.. the conversation will be a LOT more interesting than how much you job sucks.

I find most female nurses pretty one dimensional.

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Specializes in RN.

(original poster here) I wasn't looking for someone to flirt with. I just work at the hospital and nurses happen to be everywhere :-)

The whole situation BLEW UP when someone took Liberty to call my home and inform my wife that I was flirting heavily with this broad. So after a few months of $#LL around the house it is getting a little better.

Here is my best guess: a male nurse, who happens to be a psychotic-social-misfit was jealous of the attention I was getting and called my wife.

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Specializes in Every department except OB..

Kudos to the poster for not mixing work and romance.

And sympathy for finding out the hard way that there are people out there who don't care if you do or if you don't.....they are going to judge you according to their own view.

But in no other career is the temptation worse.

You both arrive at work wearing pajamas.

You meet over a bed.

You are engaged in life and death decisions together.

Nobody else understands the job unless they do it.

This creates a false sense of intimacy which too easily leads to the idea that real intimacy exists.

Medically based relationships probably workout far less often than other misguided workplace romances. It doesn't take very long for both parties to realize that the only thing they really have in common......is the work.

"Moral indignation is simply jealousy with a halo."--H.G.Wells

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My boyfriend is about to become a nurse and this has me just disgusted and disappointed. Eve nin nursing school the wome nthrew themselves at him. Always trying to see if they could wedge their way in. Was hoping to be supportive of him, but what sort of professionalism is this? It's uncomfortable now having to deal with these women and with him in the hospital, visiting him with lunch etc. it seems likely a lifelong annoyance. Onc epiece of advice female nurses, back off, we girlfriend sand wives are not thrilled with you. How many times does a man need to say he's attached? Control yourselves. You are embarrassing to watch for the attached men too. Not every man wants chicks giggling and grinning like morons. Some men enter this profession to help people, you know...the patients? Remember them?

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Flirt all you want. But keep this in mind....sexual harassment is exactly what your accuser says it is.. You WILL lose. Besides... seriously.. who would date a female nurse? Find someone with a liberal arts or English degree.. the conversation will be a LOT more interesting than how much you job sucks.

I find most female nurses pretty one dimensional.

Agreed, which is why my nurse boyfriend is with me, liberal arts. Mind broadening is always a plus. Also, we don't wear scrubs or crocs

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Specializes in Cardiopulmonary Stepdown/Cath Lab, ICU.
My boyfriend is about to become a nurse and this has me just disgusted and disappointed. Eve nin nursing school the wome nthrew themselves at him. Always trying to see if they could wedge their way in. Was hoping to be supportive of him, but what sort of professionalism is this? It's uncomfortable now having to deal with these women and with him in the hospital, visiting him with lunch etc. it seems likely a lifelong annoyance. Onc epiece of advice female nurses, back off, we girlfriend sand wives are not thrilled with you. How many times does a man need to say he's attached? Control yourselves. You are embarrassing to watch for the attached men too. Not every man wants chicks giggling and grinning like morons. Some men enter this profession to help people, you know...the patients? Remember them?

I think you may need to calm down a little bit. Any flirting that goes on in the nursing profession is really no different than any other profession where men and women work together. Sure, I have "flirted (i.e. laugh, giggle, joke)" with my co-workers, even though I'm pretty sure we all have significant others. If your boyfriend has any integrity or loyalty to you then why are you so worried?

I've been with my girl for 5 years through nursing school and into my new job. She knows the girls I work with and consider friends, I go out to breakfast with them all the time. And she knows no one is going to ruin our relationship. If she got mad about me talking to my co-workers we wouldn't have many friends as we are new to this city.

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Flirt all you want. But keep this in mind....sexual harassment is exactly what your accuser says it is.. You WILL lose. Besides... seriously.. who would date a female nurse? Find someone with a liberal arts or English degree.. the conversation will be a LOT more interesting than how much you job sucks.

I find most female nurses pretty one dimensional.

Simply put, opposites work better. Why would you want two people of the same profession together, its better to see things from someones non medical standpoint anyways.

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