I disagree with the way a lot of the posters on here are acting like this mystery woman is the spawn of Satan. She's just another person. I doubt she is out to get anyone. She probably doesn't have many friends and is going nuts being at home without other adult interaction.
OP, I am shy and non-confrontational myself. I understand if you want to avoid this woman altogether. But I think, for your own personal growth, you may want to talk to her and figure out what's really going on.
No need to be rude or passive aggressive with her. Just let her know you are uncomfortable with her looking you up and you feel as though she is overstepping your personal boundaries. She probably has no idea how rude she is being. Some people are overly familiar and are clueless why their "friends" suddenly disappear, and it sounds like she's one of them.
If she brings it up again, "Sally (Alice, whatever ), we are not going to talk about this anymore." If she brings it up again, time to find a new playgroup.
Uh.. I would run... not walk away. She clearly has boundary issues and is mentally unstable. She most likely is bored with her own life so she tries to create chaos to add some "fun" to her day..
Wow, yes . . . run. She should be required to have some psych assessment during her program.
Some programs do have that as part of the deal . . . social workers, psychologists, etc. I think it is a good thing so you can recognize your own . . . . .tendencies.
How about asking her what made her feel a need to look up your license? If you don't want to be very direct about it you could say something like "So, what was the job you wanted to recommend me for?" and when she asks what you're talking about, then say that you assumed that was the reason she decided to check on your license.
I would personally avoid a boundary stomper like that at all costs. I would also never stick around in a moms group where I am disrespected like that. Keep the friends, lose the passive aggressive boundary stompers.
That chick is weird. Stay away....very far away...
Dont give her a reason to be upset with you because you never know what a loose canon like her is capable of but just quietly exit her life all together.
I would personally avoid a boundary stomper like that at all costs. I would also never stick around in a moms group where I am disrespected like that. Keep the friends, lose the passive aggressive boundary stompers.
^^This^^ Love it!! Love the term "boundary stomper".
It sounds like she is a very insecure person who wants to boost her ego
by comparing your accomplishments (and others, I bet) to hers. It's really weird that she feels the need to confront a person on it, though. She's acts like she's a self-appointed detective who feels the need to do a background check of sorts on the members of the group she feels threatened by. This Mommy Detective (TM) can just go on with her bad self! You obviously have a great head on your shoulders and see right through her games.
I ran into a few of these types in my mommy group days of yesteryear. I bet she's super competitive in comparing her child to other children in the group.
Ladies like that drove me crazy! The good thing was that we quickly found out which of us "clicked" and subtly broke off and formed our own group. Many of those women are still friends today and my kids are 12 and 15 years old.
The BON site is public record. I've looked up people there before. But, the whole texting you thing indicates that she has a screw loose. Like a previous poster said, her sense of boundaries is skewed.
Now don't take this wrong anyone, I was a SAHM myself way back when. But, some of the women in those play groups are nuts. I was in a number of them in past years. Same with school volunteer ladies. The competitiveness over child milestones, the pushy hover mothers, they drive me up the flipping wall.
I disagree with the way a lot of the posters on here are acting like this mystery woman is the spawn of Satan. She's just another person. I doubt she is out to get anyone. She probably doesn't have many friends and is going nuts being at home without other adult interaction.
OP, I am shy and non-confrontational myself. I understand if you want to avoid this woman altogether. But I think, for your own personal growth, you may want to talk to her and figure out what's really going on.
No need to be rude or passive aggressive with her. Just let her know you are uncomfortable with her looking you up and you feel as though she is overstepping your personal boundaries. She probably has no idea how rude she is being. Some people are overly familiar and are clueless why their "friends" suddenly disappear, and it sounds like she's one of them.
If she brings it up again, "Sally (Alice, whatever
), we are not going to talk about this anymore." If she brings it up again, time to find a new playgroup. 
run far and fast
Uh.. I would run... not walk away. She clearly has boundary issues and is mentally unstable. She most likely is bored with her own life so she tries to create chaos to add some "fun" to her day..
Wow, yes . . . run. She should be required to have some psych assessment during her program.
Some programs do have that as part of the deal . . . social workers, psychologists, etc. I think it is a good thing so you can recognize your own . . . . .tendencies.
And maybe work on them?
How about asking her what made her feel a need to look up your license? If you don't want to be very direct about it you could say something like "So, what was the job you wanted to recommend me for?" and when she asks what you're talking about, then say that you assumed that was the reason she decided to check on your license.
Time to disengage from this attention seeking individual
Run lol
I would personally avoid a boundary stomper like that at all costs. I would also never stick around in a moms group where I am disrespected like that. Keep the friends, lose the passive aggressive boundary stompers.
Besides the BoN does not delineate if you are a diploma, ASN, BSN or MSN just RN or LVN/LPN.
Back slowly away so you can see any other daggers coming at you and ducj
That chick is weird. Stay away....very far away...
Dont give her a reason to be upset with you because you never know what a loose canon like her is capable of but just quietly exit her life all together.
This nosey lady has too much time on her hands. She's got nothing better to do than play detective? You're only an acquaintance.
It sounds like she is a very insecure person who wants to boost her ego
by comparing your accomplishments (and others, I bet) to hers. It's really weird that she feels the need to confront a person on it, though. She's acts like she's a self-appointed detective who feels the need to do a background check of sorts on the members of the group she feels threatened by. This Mommy Detective (TM) can just go on with her bad self! You obviously have a great head on your shoulders and see right through her games.
I ran into a few of these types in my mommy group days of yesteryear. I bet she's super competitive in comparing her child to other children in the group.
Ladies like that drove me crazy! The good thing was that we quickly found out which of us "clicked" and subtly broke off and formed our own group. Many of those women are still friends today and my kids are 12 and 15 years old.
The BON site is public record. I've looked up people there before. But, the whole texting you thing indicates that she has a screw loose. Like a previous poster said, her sense of boundaries is skewed.
Now don't take this wrong anyone, I was a SAHM myself way back when. But, some of the women in those play groups are nuts. I was in a number of them in past years. Same with school volunteer ladies. The competitiveness over child milestones, the pushy hover mothers, they drive me up the flipping wall.