So I just recently graduated in May and I have been working on a Med/Surg unit for the past month now. I have been orientating with 2 preceptors. At first I really needed work with my time management and documentation, I have been trying so hard to address both. My Preceptor A has said that I have had a lot of improvement and I am doing great. Whereas, my other Preceptor B keeps coming up with lists and lists of changes to my documentation and everything else that I am apparently doing wrong. I am just so frustrated and confused, where one person tells me I am fine and then the other shoots down my confidence in 0 sec flat. My Preceptor B also goes and tells my nursing supervisor about how I am not competent and need a lot of work yet, whereas the other says I am doing fine. I am just so confused because when I have to work with the one preceptor I absolutely hate going into work. I feel that no matter what I do it's just not good enough for her. I have talked to my manager and she says she knows what's she doing...I guess I am just confused and frustrated and could just use some advice. I really do love being a nurse, but according to one of them I just suck and shouldn't even be working.
Aug 26, '12
Quote from eileeny21
...Whereas, my other Preceptor B keeps coming up with lists and lists of changes to my documentation and everything else that I am apparently doing wrong. I am just so frustrated and confused, where one person tells me I am fine and then the other shoots down my confidence in 0 sec flat...
I've been through this one! I understand how your feeling! When everything was said and done my "preceptor B" and I got along really well!
Sounds like your "A" & "B" have different standards.
Do not tie your confidence to this persons feedback! You are psyching yourself out way too early! Take it as an opportunity, nurse B probably has TONS to offer. Accept that she is nit-picky, to super-newgrads (such as yourself) and so-so new grads, because she has high standards, not because of the person. I bet she really does want you to do well.
Also accept that she probably isnt all huggy feely, she probably does approve of some of your work but isn't the type of person to compliment. She said "I am not competent and need a lot of work yet" she said you need work.. who doesn't? she could have said that you wont make it, wont fit in etc.
One of my last shifts with my "B" she ran me like a dog and nit-picked like mad. After our shift she said "Do you feel proud?!" I was like hun? "Cause you should be, you did everything on your own!"
That was my first and last compliment from my B.
Last edit by eleectrosaurus on Aug 26, '12