Obstetrics Clinicals SCARE me so much im considering dropping out :( - page 2

I find myself at very stressful point in my life as Ill be starting my LD/OB clinical rotation next semester. The prospect of what ill be asked to do there terrifies me and I wish I could just pass... Read More

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    I loved OB. I am older (47) and I am very confident so the clients and families responded well to me.

    I did a lot of triage, hooking the moms up to the fetal monitors, taking vitals, histories etc.......

    I tried to be respectful and stay out of the line of sight when it seemed appropriate.....

    I loved OB. So complicated and so much can go wrong sooo quickly.

    I too was dreading it but it turned out GREAT. Loved every minute.

    Stand strong

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    OK, first and foremost I am a male nursing student as well! I understand where you are coming from with the exception that I am a Husband and Father of 3; so I have been in the L&D before and have some "experience" in that situation. Regardless, I was once a first time father-to-be in a room with around 5 other people staring at my wife while she was "presented" for birth. There is a slight awchwardness to the situation, but please know that you have nothing to worry about.

    I recently completed my L&D/Mother Baby rotation and I have a HUGE passion for that type of nursing given the life situations I have been presented with. I am not a perv or anything, I just love kiddos and the teaching aspect of nursing. After having seen the process with my other kiddos, one going to the NICU for a stay, I have a desire to be included in that field. After doing the actual rotation, I saw that I was very comfortable with the situation, but the moms and some dads find it a little strange. I find it quite funny actually as there are plenty of Male OB/GYN and people are fine with it, but throw a male nurse on the L&D floor and they get funny.

    What I am trying to say is that this is a needed part of a long term goal you are working towards. Anything worth having doesn't come easily. Just focus on the learning aspect of the whole process; observe the nurses at work, the transitions of labor, and the emotional status of the client/Patient (what ever they are wanting us to use now). Most likely they will do to you what they did to me; toss you in triage and then call you for a C-section if there is one....Got to see a C-Section of twins at 26 weeks due to pre-term labor. I got to take them up to the NICU (Where I plan to place my carrer) and do assessments up there.

    The best thing that you can do is jus be there for the mom and don't forget about dad. The whole birthing process is about the Mom and making her labor the best that you can. Just concentrate on your skills learned in class, apply the thoery, and do your best. Chin up and push through it! Nursing isn't a sexual practice; it's professional. Don't think of it as a sexual experience, think of it as a job and learning experience and get through it.
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    I know what you're going through. I was the only male student in our class, and my OB rotation was hell. I was already a nervous wreck going into it, and the staff made it 10 times worse. I wasn't allowed in any rooms, didn't get to practice any skills, and did nothing for the entire 12 hours of my clinical days. It was bad enough that my instructor let me round with the (male) doctors one day. My instructor was a helpful as possible, I ended up doing 3 shifts in the nursery (babies don't care if you're male or female). It will be over before you know it, and you can always remind yourself that you never have to go back!
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    Male OB-GYN's are still more common than female OB-GYNs. You know that that means? Most of the women you take care of will be used to having a man looking at their parts. And if they are in labor at the time, they aren't going to care who is in the room with them.

    You'll end up realizing that your fears are much worse then the reality. The majority of your patients will be fine having a male nursing student. YOU will probably be more comfortable then they are, at first.

    I've never really understood the stigma against male nurses/nursing students in OB. Like I said, most OB-GYNs are male. They don't seem to think it's awkward that they spend their days looking at women's vaginas. Why should male nurses feel any different?
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    Now that some time has gone by, hope all is going well.
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    Don't worry about it. I was in my early twenties when I was in nursing school. I didn't do anything in my OB rotation, nursing is reverse sexist that way. Do whatever they will let you do and just move on with it, it really isn't that bad. Even if it is an attractive young girl, there will be nothing sexy about the circumstances. Will need to learn to be professional anyway.
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    I'm actually looking forward to mine. My instructor has already assured me that she wants me to have the full range of experiences as the women do, and I do not need to worry at all about that. Plus as she so astutely pointed out, many of us, if we aren't already, will experience being there when we have our own kids, so we get a leg up in that department. Maybe that makes me odd, but meh, I'm excited to start OB next term.
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    seeing as you originally posted this a while ago, you either have been making it through clinical okay, or you fainted and dropped out, lol. For anyone else who is going to start soon and has the same concerns, just a couple things i wanted to say. Some people already wrote these things, but the first thing you have to remember is that many of the women on this unit are used to having male healthcare providers. The hospital where I did my OB rotation had majority male residents, and so if you go into a room with the mindset that its not going to be awkward, it won't be. You won't be doing things alone and so the first few times let the nurse you are paired with know that you haven't worked with this population before so you feel more comfortable letting them take you through step by step. Also, as someone else pointed out, the nurse you're paired with will ask the woman whether or not she is comfortable with a male student. Most are, some aren't.

    Even though you might be scared, nervous, etc, if you go into the room calm, collected, and act professionally, things will go fine..
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    Thanks for all the great advise. My clinical won't start for another month so I'm still waiting to implement some of the tips I read on here. I keep telling myself to be brave and that this hospital experience is just another obstacle i need to overcome in my quest to become the best nurse I can possibly be. So lets hope I don't faint on my first day .
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    I'm 24 and I just finished my OB rotation in March, and I have to say that the best thing I told myself was to act like I've seen a vagina/pair of breasts before (lol). Seriously, you're a nursing student so you DO belong there and you're a health care provider -- act like it! You'll do great and it isn't nearly as bad as your imagination can make it. If you portray confidence and act as if it's "no big deal" that you're a guy in OB, no one else will typically act like it either, excluding cultural considerations. I only had 2 patients want me to leave the room, and one was a young woman with her young husband that didn't want me in there during breast feeding... and the other preferred a female to do her catheter. 2/30ish or something like that isn't bad.

    I actually enjoyed my clinical experience so much that I'm strongly considering trying to get a job in OB after I graduate. If you would have spoken to me before I went through that rotation you would have thought I'd never look back. Good luck and have fun man, it goes by fast.

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