Gay male nurse concern about male patient care - page 5

by Devon Rex 14,606 Views | 45 Comments

Hello everyone! I will be joining the nursing workforce in a couple of months specializing in urological needs (I am not going into med/surg). As a gay male, I am concerned that some male patients will react adversely when... Read More


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    "Anyway who cares what people say," exactly, I myself will be entering this career at an old age. As a male my current doctor is a Female NP, hell I chose her because of her experience, she has poked and probed me quite a few times. Other then the occasional giggle when I whimper she is very professional....when it comes to health I really don't think many people care...your gay who would know unless you got really close and started heavy breathing on the member or started fanning yourself with your hand when the patient dropped their drawers (now that would be flamboyant).....lol
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    Quote from strings85
    Well congrats. Yoy must live in the most understanding town in America.
    *** Hardly. I live in a tiny rural town of less than a thousand people in the midwest. My town is made up of farmers, factory workers and truck drivers. Great people and more understanding that you would think. However I have practiced as a nurse in two countries and 4 states and can count on one hand the times anyone assumed I was a homosexual and indicated it to me.
    I think the idea that most or even many people assume male nurses are gay is very overblown. Does it happen? Sure, but I think it's pretty ususual.
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    This thread just made me straight...
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    I hope you will take a few minutes to read my reply. Honestly, I'm not a male and I'm not gay. I'm a female LPN student and I read this and just wanted to give you my thoughts. I love reading the male section because so many people think it's such a feminin job. But, you know what? You are a beautiful person for wanting to be a nurse and help people. I think you are incredible and are very strong for focusing on what you love regardless of being gay. A lot of people can't do that because they are too scared. I've changed my major twice because I'm overweight... and oftentimes asked myself what kind of patient is going to want a fat nurse. Who is going to take me seriously? Who is going to judge me? Then I realized it doesn't matter. My weight doesn't define me as a person. It doesn't mean I'm stupid or undeserving of this type of job. It doesn't mean I don't have a big heart. I'm just me... I know what I love and I'm going to follow my dream no matter what. If anything, you will be better than others because you will be more comfortable working in that area as straight men might not be. Not every patient is going to love you. Some are going to make you want to cry or even quit. But... it's that one out of 20 who make you smile and make you realize why you became a nurse in the first place. Keep your chin up you will do great! Props to you sweetheart for being so brave.
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    Hey, I have a good friend who has a bustling OB, GYN practice, oh she is a lesbian. The best prostate exam I ever got (that sentance has never been written before, ever) was from a little gay Dr. Be the best you that you can be. Some people wont like you if you walk on water and some won't like you if you cant. So who cares, be professional, I mean geeze, a gay guy in a urology office, I think I can come up with a couple of jokes there. Have fun at work.
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    Some of the best nurses I work with are gay and I always go to him when i have questions. One especially is probably the most compassionate nurse I'll ever meet and has won back to back awards for positive patient feedback. Patients wont judge you based on your personal preferences, only the outcome of their treatment.. and so should your peers. But it may also vary based on location. I'm in a very diverse area in Ca, it may very well be likely different in the southwest.

    Edit: I went back and actually read some of the previous posts. I've never had any issues being stereotyped as a male nurse ever. We have several gay nurses on our unit and it never was an issue. Times are changing, those nursing caps will have their place in history but it definitely is not on my head.
    Last edit by zzbxdo on Jun 3, '13


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