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Being Gay and a Male Nursing Student - page 5

I'm aware that the words 'Gay' and 'Nursing' may somehow go hand-and-hand for some, and others may find it comical, but I've found it quite uncomfortable being gay and a male, nursing student simply... Read More

  1. Visit  goingCOASTAL profile page
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    I've been a nurse for 17 years, and all of it has been in the South (mostly urban areas, though). When I started, I was still "in the closet" professionally for the first 3-4 years, and it wasn't until I was in a larger city that I was more open about it. By open - I mean, if someone asked, I would answer their question, but it wasn't (and it still isn't) something I broadcast. Sometimes I feel like I'm being treated as "one of the girls," and sometimes I'm not. It doesn't bother me either way, and during all of my time as a bedside nurse, the only overt bigotry I ever received was actually from patients (one using the F-word before ordering me out of the room, another who didn't know about me said she like our hospital best because we didn't have all those Q-words running the place like a competitor) ... but, in seventeen years of nursing, I can count those instances on one hand.

    My advice - don't look for instances like that to happen, and if they do: ignore them. These attitudes are dying out and aren't pervasive enough to influence your practice one way or the other. If you find yourself in a really unfriendly environment - find another job. Most hospitals are STARVING for bedside nurses and only care about your enthusiasm and experience.
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  2. Visit  puroticorico profile page
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    I LOVE that I just came across this thread! It's a good point. Coming from a gay male who just finished nursing school, I see my sexuality as an advantage. We usually get along with all the girl nurses. They love to chat and gossip in the break room. Males are key to success in the hospital. We can help transfer heavy patients, provide a more socially acceptable and culturally diverse workforce, have deep discussions with those who are suicidal due to sexual orientation or issues that affect the community (HIV, syphilis, homelessness, etc), work in OB or other areas in close quarters with female patients without hesitance...it's a gift!
    With this said, I never directly "come out" since that is unprofessional. Maybe it would come up when going out for drinks after a shift, but that is outside of work. Always remain professional, yet yourself. You should not be required to be someone you're not. Many of my coworkers (especially managers) are gay males creating a accepting environment. While everyone "knows" it is not something to be discussed in the business place.
  3. Visit  mybanez profile page
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    Being gay has never really been part of my professional life and I don't think any of my patients care (not that I tell them) as long as they get the care they need. That being said, I am totally out to everyone and will disclose it if someone asks, me and my boyfriend's pictures are all over Facebook. Now comes that one co worker who has issues with that and gets really preachy to the point where it becomes offensive. That said co worker has long been fired for his unprofessional conducts but the moral is that some people will always judge and you should be ready for that. I am proud to say that I am a totally badass nurse and have been recognized by my patients and co workers for the work that I do. Just be the best that you can be and that will measure how good of a nurse you are and not your sexual orientation/race/religion/ whatever separate you from the "norm".
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  4. Visit  UTbsnRN profile page
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    I am about to start the upper-division program, and I must say that almost everybody in our class are going to be great as far as my orientation. Considering almost one-third of the class is in fact gay. I am also working on a unit as a nurses assistant and everybody in the unit has been great. Although I have not told anybody, almost everybody seems to know despite my non-flamboyance. None the less, everybody has been wonderful!!
  5. Visit  hfullerCNA profile page
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    I'm a fellow homosexual, as well. With that being said, you can't harshly judge me for this answer. It is nobody's business but your own. If somebody does ask, then why would you risk people getting ****** off or flying off the handle. And possibly create unnecessary gossip? It is to be made nobody's business even if they do ask. Education in this field is basically like going to work, and personal life/issues/trends need to be kept out of the workplace. It makes for drama and other unnecessary drama. So you are proud of yourself, good for you! Heterosexuals don't go around saying look at me, I'm straight! Eh hum, most of the time. Worry about yourself and make your business nobody else's. You need to worry about your education and not about making best buddies. It can befuddle you, if you get mixed up in all of the adolescent conversations. Once again, that's not what you are there for! Buck up, and stay on your hustle, or get lost in the flow! The choice is ultimately up to you. You care what others think way too much, right?
  6. Visit  hfullerCNA profile page
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    If so, get ready for for a world full of gossip and un-easing rumors. Nursing is not the right career for you if this is how you feel constantly.
  7. Visit  TreffEdwards profile page
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    Hello all,

    I have been in Healthcare for about 8 years. Have worked in many different areas and my most recent was HIV research. I found it to be the hardest area; I had a lot of the ladies and patients assume my HIV status because of the work I did. But in general, I have never had any problems with being a male nurse! I love it and enjoy my job so much, everyone always says I am amazing at my job and strive to be amazing.
  8. Visit  gmk1322 profile page
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    Current nursing student here with his 2 cents:

    Frankly, I really don't care about orientation at all (in either of the genders/sexes). I prefer to let ones deeds, empathy, and all the other amazing attributes one possess to define them as a person. In our class of 160 or so there are 15 men and I know a couple of them are gay and frankly I could care less about this fact. The way I look at it is we are all 'Men in Nursing' and we all have to support one another to show that men can be amazing nurses!
  9. Visit  xdrowe profile page
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    Quote from Esme12
    As a nurse of 34 years.....the sexual preference of any of my co-workers has ever been apart of any discussion or consideration. If however your mannerisms are......overtly flamboyant like Mario Cantone, Carson Kressley or one of Ru Paul's drag queens (which by the way is one of my guilty pleasures). I would suggest that you try to maintain a more professional demeanor when in clinicals or at work.

    I am sorry you are experiencing this kind of behavior.....One would think we have progressed in our evolutionary process past this petty stuff. Nurses have been the stereotype brunt of jokes for years.

    If I heard one more "do you know why nurses have dirty knees" joke or "how do you tell who the head nurse is.....by the dirty knees"or one more reference about the latest adult film about the dirty little nurse......I swear the next time will stab their eyes out. I actually hear the music from psycho and fantasize about stabbing the moron to death.

    But I don't.....sigh........ I just pity them in their ignorance and feel sorry that they are so emotionally crippled and mentally deficient that I can only feel pity with wisps of disgust.

    Consider the source....move on and be the best nurse you can be.
    I just died.. I never watched Rupaul's drag race, but as a little boy in late 90's I owned her christmas CD "Ho Ho Ho: story of the 3 hos" and many others.
  10. Visit  xdrowe profile page
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    Quote from hfullerCNA
    I'm a fellow homosexual, as well. With that being said, you can't harshly judge me for this answer. It is nobody's business but your own. If somebody does ask, then why would you risk people getting ****** off or flying off the handle. And possibly create unnecessary gossip? It is to be made nobody's business even if they do ask. Education in this field is basically like going to work, and personal life/issues/trends need to be kept out of the workplace. It makes for drama and other unnecessary drama. So you are proud of yourself, good for you! Heterosexuals don't go around saying look at me, I'm straight! Eh hum, most of the time. Worry about yourself and make your business nobody else's. You need to worry about your education and not about making best buddies. It can befuddle you, if you get mixed up in all of the adolescent conversations. Once again, that's not what you are there for! Buck up, and stay on your hustle, or get lost in the flow! The choice is ultimately up to you. You care what others think way too much, right?
    I tend to laugh at these things. Like when girls think that I have a crush on ANY cute guy. It's like.. are all gays concerned with vanity? I can't
  11. Visit  xdrowe profile page
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    Quote from puroticorico
    I LOVE that I just came across this thread! It's a good point. Coming from a gay male who just finished nursing school, I see my sexuality as an advantage. We usually get along with all the girl nurses. They love to chat and gossip in the break room. Males are key to success in the hospital. We can help transfer heavy patients, provide a more socially acceptable and culturally diverse workforce, have deep discussions with those who are suicidal due to sexual orientation or issues that affect the community (HIV, syphilis, homelessness, etc), work in OB or other areas in close quarters with female patients without hesitance...it's a gift!
    With this said, I never directly "come out" since that is unprofessional. Maybe it would come up when going out for drinks after a shift, but that is outside of work. Always remain professional, yet yourself. You should not be required to be someone you're not. Many of my coworkers (especially managers) are gay males creating a accepting environment. While everyone "knows" it is not something to be discussed in the business place.
    Right I learned from working in a call center 7 years ago when I was 20.. that keeping it to yourself keeps everyone on edge not wanting to mention it. I learned to miss it because the moment I was honest, everyone assumed I was some type of kinky freak sex addict.. and also wanted to know EVERY detail of homosexual intercouse, at that time I was a virgin.. but you couldn't tell them that.
  12. Visit  Zooey72 profile page
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    I have never understood why this is an issue. Up until recently no one I have ever worked with has known what my sexual orientation, because it is not relevant to my work. The only reason people know now is because I will some times refer to "my wife", but if I didn't want them to know I had a wife it wouldn't take much to conceal it.

    Every person on this board, and in the world has some sexual pref., and I don't just mean which sex you are attracted to. Do you like blonds, redheads, short, tall, skinny, fat... everyone has something. If you want people to know, tell them. If you don't, than don't. Being a male heterosexual nurse, if someone takes for granted that I am gay.... so what? Or that I am not a 'real man', I could care less. They can infer what they like and it has no bearing on me whatsoever. I am man that can bench press 350lbs, run a 5k in 24 minutes and I love action and horror movies. I also like to cook, and can sing you every song from "Annie", "Camelot", "The Sound of Music", and "Scrooge". Oh yeah, and my wife is flipping houses (construction) as I go to NURSING school.

    Who cares what other people think. Sexuality is not something that should be relevant in the work place, and if some people suspect you are gay why does it matter? I don't care if people think I am gay, or any other stereotype that goes with being a male nurse. And quite honestly if my biggest concern in life is that some co-worker calls me "home girl", I think I will have done pretty well.
  13. Visit  PM2RN2016 profile page
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    Quote from Esme12
    If however your mannerisms are......overtly flamboyant like Mario Cantone, Carson Kressley or one of Ru Paul's drag queens (which by the way is one of my guilty pleasures). I would suggest that you try to maintain a more professional demeanor when in clinicals or at work.
    I totally agree with this, maintain professionalism at all times and keep the flamboyant mannerisms for when you're out with your friends or at home. Ultimately we all want to be respected but you need to respect yourself first so no matter what your preference is leave that at home, and come to work with the expectation that you are there to do a job and not be in a popularity contest. Hope this helps you bro.

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