Fellow DON's....I need some advice please... - page 2

by mtessmer2000

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Hello all, I am new to this forum and found it by searching for hours...It seems to be filled with fellow leaders in nursing like myself and I am in need of some guidance, advice, or whatever you can offer a struggling DON. ... Read More


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    Thanks so much for the advice and insight. Unfortunately, no ADON to help and not one to be had within the management model there.
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    That is what I did today. Today was the last time they were going to abuse me and use me to the extreme! I have my notice today and later this afternoon was asked to turn in my badge, keys and security fab and that my belongings would be waiting for me. I came, collected my things, demanded to inspect my office (which I did and of course they forgot to include many things), and I left, unfortunately, not quietly.
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    I know of many DON's that have also been in that same situation. Sad that a lot of it come down to budget and dollars. Good luck in the future. I also live in WI and have been a DON for over 10 years.... an been doing travel interim DON work for a bit now.
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    It has gotten to the point where we need to watch "celebrity apprentice" to survive as nurses and learn from them .Undermining and throwing people under the bus are widely accepted.Nurses have never supported each other . It would be an interesting study . Regardless no one should work 70 hours a week. Look for a nice job with two keys points. You should feel happy and grateful to go to work. You should not have fear shrouding you . You should feel fulfilled as if you are doing more than earning a paycheck. Good Luck!!
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    Thanks to all for your support and kind words. Truly appreciated here! Today, I feel better than I have felt in 9 months!! A huge weight has been lifted off my shoulders to say the least.....and I have a phone interview in 30 minutes.
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    This is a blessing in disguise. I'm afraid to think what might have happened to you if you'd stuck it out another few months......I've seen DONs have complete nervous breakdowns because of this sort of pressure. Actually, I had one myself at a job that I knew after only a few weeks that I'd made a terrible mistake in taking. I lasted exactly three months and I STILL have nightmares about that place. {{{{shiver}}}}

    I wish you the best of luck in finding a new job. You're going to be OK....all you need is a supportive environment and you'll shine!
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    I hear from other DNSs that this is becoming commonplace. If you resign, the company accepts immediately and walks you out. Too bad the last time I resigned I had to stay my entire 4 week notice. I asked them politely to walk me out, but they declined. Let us know how your interview turned out.
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    Today was my last day at current employer. Gave notice Dec 25, started training replacement (was former DON in this building years ago and still familiar with the company) 2 weeks ago. I completely expected to be walked out at end of first day of training...by day 3 of training I was praying to be walked out. Nope, had to wait until today!

    To the OP - I agree with the others. I think you just got sucked into a very bad enviornment with horrendous expectations. In the end, they did you a favor. Hope your interview went well. Let us know.
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    I am so glad to hear this for you. I hope you get some rest and rejuvenation. All the best and keep us informed.
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    Mtessmer... how was the phone interview? I also wanted to say the UWEC's program for administrator's puts out grads that are highly regarded in the field. The biggest problems that I have heard amongst those in the business in both WI and MN is.... they push the srudents to be micro-managers. Meaning.... they are to jump right in as new grads and run their buildings and let them know who's boss. Which it sounds is what you dealt with. I personally have run across two of them 23 & 24 yrs old, they both tried to tell me who I could admit and care for at a nursing level. Sorry, this nurse wasn't having any of it. so much more to it, but you get the idea. Maybe someone needs to let UWEC to tone it down a bit with their students?
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