Quote from beeenieweeenie
please! read on. i have answers for you.
when i get an instructor that likes to yell and bully students, my only motivation at that point is to do just enough to pass, because nothing you do is good enough to please these types.
when i get an instructor that likes to yell and bully students, my only motivation at that point is to do just enough to pass, because nothing you do is good enough to please these types. so what happens when you got the license and the teacher isn't on your back anymore? poor nursing care, we see it all the time. . .something is broken somewhere.
doing just enough to pass just to please a misbehaving instructor sounds very childish. we used to do this with my mom who was a belt wielding authoritarian. is doing just enough to pass because your instructors who gave you emotional grief a legacy you want others to know about you and your school? is that what you are going to blame when you make nursing errors at work? is that how you are going to pass the buck? do you know how many people are actually going to sympathize with you when you use that as an excuse for your shortcomings as a professional nurse? -0-
so what happens when you got the license and the teacher isn't on your back anymore? poor nursing care, we see it all the time.
i was a manager. if i was sitting down and giving you any kind of evaluation and you told me that the reason you were not as good as you could be was because you had an instructor in school who used to yell and bully you so your only motivation was to do enough to pass and you just didn't learn as much as you should of i would be kicking myself for wrongly determining at your hiring that you (1) were capable of professional development (2) flexible and were able to adapt to the situation you were in (3) had the ability to learn from your mistakes (4) lacked a positive attitude (5) failed to take responsibility for your own failure, and (6) lacked initiative. i would (a) have to decide if i wanted to rehabilitate you in order for you to keep the job which required that you needed to do some learning, but an employer's job is not to provide you with what you should have learned in school, or (b) consider cutting our losses (terminating you) eventually because the cost of the mistakes you are going to make is too great.
i'm not excusing the behavior of your instructors. i abhor it and think its wrong. i never treated an orientee like that in my life. but i had a mother who was a strict authoritarian (she threatened and used a belt on us many times unfairly) and one real witch of a professor in the bsn program that i went through. and, after all that education this is what i can tell you: these are behaviors that effect your emotions and self-esteem. they effect your learning only if you are looking for an excuse to explain poor grades or poor performance. that's failing to take responsibility. you may fool some people, but i see what you are doing. don't sell yourself short. you can still learn what has to be learned despite mean instructors. there are plenty of examples in the world of people who overcame negativity in their lives to become champions and leaders in their fields. but you have to have a positive attitude and initiative, flexibility, look for alternative sources of help (allnurses has a lot of help for students), and learn how to profit from your mistakes.
i am not being mean here. i am trying to show you something about yourself that can make a big difference in how you are viewing this situation and how you can come out successfully at the end. don't you see nursing school
is all about you and you are making it all about them (the instructors). get your head on straight and get your focus shifted and pointed in the right direction here. let the instructors walk their
path whatever and however messed up it seems and you walk and stay on yours
. both your paths cross/mingle for the next months and then separate. find common ground between you and respect their boundaries.