I'm done...

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This is a long vent post. Sorry, have to vent. I think it's safe to say I may be done with nursing, & feel like I barely began it. I'm a 33 year old female, married, mom of two great kids! I became an LPN in 2008 through my local community college. I am a stay at home mom and have mostly needed part time & PRN jobs because of my kids. I have had several part time LPN jobs since becoming an LPN in '08, and have yet to find one I like. I think I may have chosen the wrong career. I am seriously thinking of going back to school to be a dental hygienist (what I wanted to be in high school), surgical tech, or an elementary school teacher.

I am currently working as a health screener LPN, and it's the best LPN job I've had so far. I work as a contractor LPN. I go in with other nurses & set up health screening sites for companies. We do height & weight, BP checks, cholesterol screenings, and BMI screenings. I work when I want, good hourly pay, great schedule for moms. But I don't get near as many hours as I would at a regular LPN job, have to drive quite far to clinic sites, & the work isn't steady. I also rarely work with the same people, and it's hard to get to know each other.

I was excited after making it through LPN school, and receiving my LPN license. I was excited to have a job where I got to truly help people, and make a great living for doing so... That was until I took my first LPN job. The first job I had was in a nursing home. That place was a NIGHTMARE! 24 pts. to one nurse, no help from staff, combative patients, foul-mouthed unprofessional LPNs, and everyone working there was in a terrible mood. Plus, the place smelled awful. It was the most depressing atmosphere I'd ever been in, and I pray I never end up in a place like that when I'm elderly. I quit and then moved on to the second job, which was a nightmare as well.

I thought it was a dream job at first. This was in an urgent care an hour from my home. The nurse manager who hired me said it was a "great place to work." She said, "friendly, helpful staff, always get 30 min to an hour for lunch, the urgent care didn't get too busy, time to chart, etc. Friendly, helpful doctors." This place was anything but everything she said. My first night was a nightmare! As soon as I arrived the LPN in charge of the floor looked at me and said "who are you?!" very rudely. I explained that I was the new LPN and excited to start working there. She just rolled her eyes at me & didn't say a word. I thought how rude & unprofessional! We seen over 100 pts. in one night to three LPNs in that urgent care!! Every single doctor & nurse I worked with was rude & nasty to me. I was coughed on, threw up on, caught the flu, & brought it home to my baby that week, etc! I got 5-10 minutes in my car for lunch, & an LPN weighing about 100 lbs. more than me started bullying my first night, and I lasted about 4 or 5 shifts there. I stayed in the bathroom about in tears the last two shifts. If I'd stayed any longer, I would've had a nervous breakdown. I took two years off after that to raise my kids, and rest my nerves. Fortunately, my husband is an engineer, and makes a good living for our family. He has allowed me to stay home with my kids, and work when I want. (yes, I'm extremely blessed to have a husband like this, and am greatful for him)

After taking two years off from nursing, I heard through a friend who was a receptionist, her boss who was a doctor, was looking for an LPN. She wanted a nurse to work part time in her private practice. She said it was a relaxed atmosphere, and would be a good place to work since I'm also a busy mom. She said the doctor was flexible with work schedules. I went in for an interview, and was hired out of 14 other nursing/medical assistant applicants! I was so excited. The doctor was a dermatologist, and it was a small practice in a rural town 25 minutes from my house. The doctor only paid $9.50 an hour, but I didn't mind as she was flexible with my schedule, and it seemed like a relaxed place to work. That was until my first day. I worked with one other nurse there, and we were worked to absolute death in this place! I worked there about 6 months before hitting my breaking point and letting that job go as well. We were SCREAMED at on a regular basis in front of patients by the doctor & office manager, we roomed patients, charted, called patients back, assisted with surgeries, cleaned surgical tools, were made to clean the office (yes, even toilets, and I did not go to nursing school to do maid work), removed stitches from infected wounds (I thought this was something the doctor should be doing), gave injections, assisted patients with photo light therapy, assisted with Botox injections, sold makeup, and other skin products, etc. The other LPN & I were doing the work of 10 nurses at low pay. I would sit at the nurses station and envy the receptionists who were making close to the same pay as me, while they answered the phone & played on their computers. I gave my two week notice after six months and left. I never regretted it either. I have been home since.

I have been taking college classes towards my associate in science & arts degrees, and have lots of credits through my local community college. I just can't decide what I want to do yet. My husband is getting frustrated with me considering changing careers. He knows I worked hard and spent a lot of money to be an LPN. I just don't know if nursing is for me anymore.I did not become an LPN to be yelled at, talked to rudely, & worked to death for very low pay. I knew nursing was hard when I went in to it, but nothing prepared me for the depressive atmosphere until I actually went in to it. I also know not all nursing jobs are terrible, I just haven't seemed to find a decent one yet. Any other LPNs/RNs starting to feel this way? Thanks... sorry so long...

Specializes in LTC, Agency, HHC.

I haven't thought of leaving, but I am very frustrated at where I am right now....I started out as a LPN in LTC. My administrator was talking with me about a unit manager position, until corporate came in and said UM's had to be RN's. Then, I filled in doing staff development, (right before I went back to school) and I wanted to keep the position, but, again, corporate wanted a RN in that position. Then we had a new DON and administrator take over, and she decided to clean house and got rid of the LPN's....I worked doubles on the weekends, and when I was let go, there was a big problem with staffing and a bunch of nurses left for various reasons. A former coworker called me one night and said "____(the admin) said he thinks it was a mistake letting you go"....well, of course...I was in school for my BSN, and worked every single weekend, never late, never calling off...(The same company now has job openings for ADON, SDC, and MDS coordinator.)...and I just laugh. I know the current DON and she just tells me I have no idea how awful it is (yes, I do know. I worked there, LOL)

Anyway now that I have my BSN I really really want to work in L&D. No bites. Nothing. Even with LPN experience I can't get into acute care, or sub acute care. Thankfully, I have my PDN job, and my boss wants to train me for case manager in the next month or so. I don't know how that will work out, but I am willing to try.

It sounds to me like you have not found the right place to settle in yet. You would not have put all that time and education into becoming an LPN if you didn't really want to do it. If you were anything like me, there was a lot of blood, sweat and tears that went into getting that license, don't throw it away now! Someone out there needs you.

Have you considered working with children as a school nurse or maybe in a Ped. office? You said you had considered teaching. This would put you with children and put you in that environment with your current education ;-) just a thought.

Thanks again for everyone's replies and ideas, I appreciate them. Yes, I have considered home health & pediatrics, but they just aren't for me. I didn't like pediatrics in nursing school. Little ones that are sick just breaks my heart, and I hate giving them vaccines, etc. Home health isn't either. I had to do a lot of wound care on elderly people in dermatology that was one on one, and very similar to home health. I really disliked it. I think I have found my niche for now in nursing with the health screener nursing. I don't get near as many hours as I want, but it's a great schedule for me as a mom, and a fairly easy job. It's also low stress. At this point I think I'm going to continue with the health screener nursing, and continue to take college classes part time. I just don't know if I have the energy to go back to RN school, or work for another grouchy private practice doctor anytime soon... My schedule as a mom won't allow me to do 12 hour hospital shifts either. Thanks again! :)

I am a creative, lazy daydreamer who cannot stand abiding by a rigid work schedule. I enjoy plenty of unstructured free time in my personal life. Employment cuts into my personal unstructured free time, and for that very reason, I'll never have the 'heart' for any type of work.

My dream would be to win a multimillion dollar state lottery and spend the rest of my days traveling to different countries, collecting college degrees, exercising with a personal trainer, opening a franchise business, or just wasting time on random pursuits. However, the chances of me winning a multimillion dollar jackpot are exponentially small, so I keep working to pay bills while pretending to have my 'heart' in it.

Wow, you just completely described me too! :) I am a jack of all trades, and will never be content with anything. Andrea's mom, I have changed my major from nursing to dental hygiene, to music, to special education, and back to nursing. I am sticking with nursing. My husband has been frustrated with me at changing my major so much and I don't blame him. I am nearly finished with college. Hoping to find a job I like. I'm sure the coworkers will make all the difference!

Thanks for your reply. Yes, I know all jobs are hard. I'm not expecting to have a completely easy job. I would just like to have a job where I look forward to going to work at least some days. It would be nice to have a job where I wasn't yelled at every single day as well. I was always torn between dental hygiene and teaching when I was younger. I'm pretty dead set on one of those fields, if I don't stick with nursing. I've considered surgical tech, but I just don't know if I want to deal with the drama of the medical field... I love science, and that's one reason I became a nurse, I just get stressed easily & don't know if the medical field is for me anymore...

I was going to say try home health nursing--but others beat me to it. Another thought is camp nursing in the summer and some of them your kids can go to the camp you work at for a reduced or sometimes free rate.

Another thought is subbing at the kid's school as a nurse.

Another thought is to teach medical assisting or a CNA course at the local technical school.

If you speak to the guidance counselor at your college, perhaps you have enough credits to get a liberal arts associates. Then you can decide where to go from there for a bachelors.

I do know some states require a kids school teacher to have a master's (or actively working on same) and they (again state dependent) have to be certified to teach. But if you were to go for your MSN, there's an educational component to that, and you could teach nursing courses. But speak to the guidance counselor about this.

I would also look into working as a nurse in a dental office. LPN's can and do. See if you would like that kind of work. Even a job as a dental assistant (which is similar to a medical assistant, just for dental offices) would expose you to it. Even an oral surgeon's office.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do! And another thought came to me--is it possible to apply per diem/sub/part time at your college health clinic? Does your college offer any CNA or Medical assisting course? Any of this would again subject you to reduced or free tuition. And where your husband is less than thrilled at a potential change in career after spending money on your LPN, this would be a huge bonus should you be employed as an LPN at the college.

Best of luck to you!

Specializes in Med/Surg, LTACH, LTC, Home Health.

I work two 12-hour shifts per week and I split those two up......canNOT bring myself to go in any more than that, AND I keep watching my phone as I head out the door to see if I may have missed a shift cancellation call. OP, it is DEFINITELY not just you. If you are young enough to do something other than nursing, I say go for it. It is your life!! I thank God EVERYDAY that I paid the price for having my kids at a young age and don't have to work full time now!!! I'm 49 years old and will be completing my personal goal of BSN. After that, I plan to work in public health on a PART-TIME basis. I really TRY not to complain about nursing much because I don't want to discourage anyone else or sound like the bitter ole hag that I am, not to mention appearing to sound ungrateful in the eyes of the MANY new grads that can't even find a job. I've always been pretty much a loner; so I don't miss my co-workers at all. Communicating via email and social media is MORE than enough for me since I don't even like to talk on the phone. All I really wanna do is go to the beach, walk to town (but not have to say hello to anyone), just be one with nature. That is my dream....my IMMEDIATE family can come visit and stay as long as they like DURING THE DAY, but I want them gone before nightfall.....I love my alone time!!!

I was going to say try home health nursing--but others beat me to it. Another thought is camp nursing in the summer and some of them your kids can go to the camp you work at for a reduced or sometimes free rate.

Another thought is subbing at the kid's school as a nurse.

Another thought is to teach medical assisting or a CNA course at the local technical school.

If you speak to the guidance counselor at your college, perhaps you have enough credits to get a liberal arts associates. Then you can decide where to go from there for a bachelors.

I do know some states require a kids school teacher to have a master's (or actively working on same) and they (again state dependent) have to be certified to teach. But if you were to go for your MSN, there's an educational component to that, and you could teach nursing courses. But speak to the guidance counselor about this.

I would also look into working as a nurse in a dental office. LPN's can and do. See if you would like that kind of work. Even a job as a dental assistant (which is similar to a medical assistant, just for dental offices) would expose you to it. Even an oral surgeon's office.

Good luck with whatever you decide to do! And another thought came to me--is it possible to apply per diem/sub/part time at your college health clinic? Does your college offer any CNA or Medical assisting course? Any of this would again subject you to reduced or free tuition. And where your husband is less than thrilled at a potential change in career after spending money on your LPN, this would be a huge bonus should you be employed as an LPN at the college.

Best of luck to you!

Hi, thanks so much for your response. My husband has actually suggested working as a substitute nurse at my kids school. I just feel a little unqualified for this as I haven't done any pediatric clinic nursing. The type of clinic nursing I worked at the longest was dermatology. Would substitute school nursing be a good idea for someone with little or no pediatric clinic experience like me?? The local community college does teach Medical assisting & CNA classes, but you must be an RN to teach these.

Hi thanks so much for your response. My husband has actually suggested working as a substitute nurse at my kids school. I just feel a little unqualified for this as I haven't done any pediatric clinic nursing. The type of clinic nursing I worked at the longest was dermatology. Would substitute school nursing be a good idea for someone with little or no pediatric clinic experience like me?? The local community college does teach Medical assisting & CNA classes, but you must be an RN to teach these.[/quote']

Really? In my area an lpn can teach the CNA classes. A job was just posted last week for a technical school.

Really? In my area an lpn can teach the CNA classes. A job was just posted last week for a technical school.

They will hire LPNs sometimes for these jobs, but they typically are LPNs with several years LTC experience, & RNs are usually hired over the LPNs.

Specializes in Home Care.

I've had multiple "careers" over my many years and collected many college credits due to not knowing what I wanted to do. So at the age of 45 I went to nursing school. I've been an LPN for 5 years and would love to go back to school to change careers again but at my age I don't want to take on any debt or start over again. And I have to add that I don't even like living in the same city, state, province or country for more than a few years.

I don't like bedside nursing at all. I am fortunate to be working in home health where my job is to supervise, train and mentor home healthcare aides. I actually love this job, its the best job I've ever had. Its routine in that I know all of the aides I supervise and I'm familiar with most of the 300 clients we care for. But each day is really never the same as there's always something going on that I need to take care of.

Not every one wants a routine life where everything is the same every day.

Life is short. Do what is in your heart and have no regrets. :up:

I've had multiple "careers" over my many years and collected many college credits due to not knowing what I wanted to do. So at the age of 45 I went to nursing school. I've been an LPN for 5 years and would love to go back to school to change careers again but at my age I don't want to take on any debt or start over again. And I have to add that I don't even like living in the same city, state, province or country for more than a few years.

I don't like bedside nursing at all. I am fortunate to be working in home health where my job is to supervise, train and mentor home healthcare aides. I actually love this job, its the best job I've ever had. Its routine in that I know all of the aides I supervise and I'm familiar with most of the 300 clients we care for. But each day is really never the same as there's always something going on that I need to take care of.

Not every one wants a routine life where everything is the same every day.

Life is short. Do what is in your heart and have no regrets. :up:

Thanks I appreciate your reply. I actually had another career before nursing as well. I was a beautician. I became a beautician in 2001, and worked at it for a few years, but just couldn't make a good living at it. I wasn't making that much money, & it truly was back-breaking work. I would work all day cutting hair, perms, highlights, etc. only to give the salon owner almost half of the pay. Plus, it was hard to please many people. I would work hard on an up do for example, only to turn the lady around who looked horrified at her hair when looking in the mirror! lol I decided to become an LPN after that...

I don't want to sound like I'm miserable at every job I do... I really am glad I became a nurse, I love medical stuff. I just want to have a job that isn't extremely stressful everyday. I will also agree with what other posters have said here, I've just had bad luck basically with past LPN jobs... I don't want my job to be the exact same thing everyday either, but would just kind of like to know what I may be doing for the day.

I like my current LPN job enough to stay at it for a while. I am a health screener LPN & work when I want (PRN). I just wish that I got more hours working, and that the clinic sites I go to were a little closer sometimes. I have to drive far some days. I am going to work as a health screener nurse for a while & try to decide whether to go back to college for teaching, dental hygiene or surgical tech. I owe my husband that much, since he helped pay for my LPN school! lol

Andrea.. I think that you haven't found the right job as a nurse yet. Don't give up on something you work to hard to achieve. I am sure you are a wonderful nurse but you had a very bad luck on finding a decent nursing job. Keep trying to find a good nursing job, I am sure it's got to be something good out there for you! Changing carriers involves getting into student loans again etc.. Good luck to you!

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