Quote from llg
Just because it is not a family's preference to have it's members die at home doesn't mean that they don't care ... or are worn down ... or are not dedicated. See my post above.
Some of us don't have the negative views about hospitals or nursing homes that some people have. Some of us are lucky enough to live near institutions that we know and trust and in which we feel safe and cared for. We don't view going there as a bad thing -- but as the best place to be when we need their services.
I never said that.
The sentence above the one that you copied are directly related.
If a family member CHOOSES to die at home...then SOMEONE has to take care of them, they can't just be left alone all day, especially if they cannot get up to go to the bathroom, etc....not every family is going to be financially able to do that, not every patient is financially able to hire someone to come in to help. not every family is going to have the emotional capacity to tend to someone day-in, day out.
The sentence above it said EXACTLY what you said....that some patients PREFER to be in a hospital/assisted living/nursing home because that is where they are comfortable.
The sentence AFTER it, referred to family members who can't, or won't take care of a loved one.
Not everyone has the option of living in an assisted living facility because of the expense involved, regardless of their personal wishes. Nursing homes are also not of equal quality every where you go. My parents lived in an extremely rural area and there were only two nursing homes, and the odor would knock you down upon entering either one, and it was well-known that families didn't send their loved ones there....the residents that ended up there usually had no family to stop the process of them getting sent there.
My father is still alive and my mother died unexpectedly at home. I have no idea of what I would do if his health ever failed because I am the only person he has to care for him, and I am also the only financial supporter of my family. If he fell ill I would bring him to live with me and hopefully there would be enough funds in his accounts to hire someone to come in during the day...but if he required a skilled medical professional for an extensive period of time, there is not enough money there to sustain that for very long and no money to pay for a private nursing facility.
Not everyone has the same choices or same QUALITY of choices.