I have a bit of a problem. My Grandmother, age 96 was just placed in a LTC/Rehab center. She has lived at home with her son up until 3 weeks ago when she had to be hospitalised.
She is very stubborn, depressed and angry. While I understand her wanting to go home, if we took her to my Mother's house, (she and my Dad are thinking about it) I feel it would not be a good idea.
Gram has Diabetes, and all the health problems related to it. She isn't able to ambulate without assistance and refuses a wheelchair. Needless to say, falls are a major concern. She is incontinant and must wear a breif which she fights. Her hospital stay was for CHF and UTI. She had been cheeking her Lasix because she didn't want to have to pee so much.
She is a bit paranoid and has started hallucinating a bit. Every time we try to get her to take a PRN Ativan, she refuses saying she's not having anxiety. When the nurse leaves she is crying and begging us to take her home. She won't admit to any pain, ( she has a fx wrist from a fall) because she thinks they will keep her longer.
My real concern is that my Mom or Uncle will take her home. They are both in their upper 70's and not in great health. I know Grandma will never "adjust" to life anywhere but home. I don't think she qualifies for hospice and I'm looking for any advise you can give. This is really tearing the family up. My Mom goes to the center at least 3 times per day, as does my uncle. I try to go every day.
We all want her to be as comfortable as possible, but I'm at a loss as to how to help her.