I have a 82 y/o female pt who suffers from severe, chronic back pain. She is also suffering from dementia. Long story short, we've tried several different approaches for pain relief, but none seem to work. We had her on Duragesic patches, but they really increased her confusion. (She's up ad-lib, but VERY unsteady. I had her activity status changed to up c asst, but management jumped all over me because "we don't have the staff to watch her like that"). Anyway, called the MD and rec'd an order for oxycontin 20mg BID. Her pain was well controlled, but she was snowed for the first few days. We held the Klonopin she was getting TID, and she was starting to come around. The problem? Her husband is c/o her being "sleepy" all of the time, and wants her more alert. The other nurse on my unit agreed and has had her Oxy d/c'd. Now, the poor lady is alert all right, but combative d/t her pain level. You can just look at her and see the pain she is enduring. But, so long as she's alert, right? I feel like more time should have been allowed to see if she adjusted, as well as d/c the routine Klonopin and Ambien, and make them prn. Probably wouldn't have hurt to drop the Oxy to 10mg BID and work from there. But, this other nurse is putting her alertness above her pain control, where as I would rather her start out a little sleepy and at least be controlled, then adjust from there. Am I wrong? What else can I do? I am "trumped" on most of my calls on this unit, but will be going back to my old unit in a few weeks. I truly care about this ladys' wellbeing, as my Mom has endured years of chronic back pain and have seen first hand how horrible it can be. If you know of better ways to control pain without knocking her out, please let me know!