Worst day ever!

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I had the worst day ever in the history of worst days! I feel so bad and I wish that I had never gotten up to go to school this morning just to avoid today. This day was so bad that I might as well give up on the idea that nursing school will be enjoyable and that I might have friends.

No one will be friends with me after this!

I know I sound dramatic but don't roll your eyes yet. This is not your cliche bad clinical stories on here or bad day at work or anything. I did a very bad thing based on an assumption and now I'm hated and/or black listed. Okay fine, that does sound dramatic. But this person was nice to me. In fact she knows my mom and she's seen me around town and now she hates me. I haven't made any friends but if I had to choose, she'd be one of the people I would pick.

I sent a file that was on her phone to a WhatsApp group I made for everyone in the class. It was topics that we could use to study for the midterms test on biochemistry. But...I did it without her permission. What happened was, I saw that she had a PowerPoint up and I thought that could help others and asked her to send it to the group. She didn't know how so I kinda went through it and while looking for it I saw a file called 'midterm review'.

I remembered a while back about her and a couple of other students talking about some kinda cheat or something on one of the subjects and assumed they circled it around. I thought they would share it but some of us didn't get it (well, I didn't) and so since it would help, I sent it to the group.

Apparently, she was the only that had it and got it from another source and she could get in trouble if anyone found out. Still wondering how she would get in trouble since she had the topics and not the actual questions.

The thing I need to know is: how can I fix this?

I deleted the group and created another group (although in the end it didn't help). I feel super bad - I actually cried when I went home and I still feel like crying.

Can I salvage anything at all?

Specializes in Critical Care; Cardiac; Professional Development.

Let me preface this by stating I am not going to beat you up. This may sound harsh, but I do not mean it harshly. It just kind of is what it is, you know?

You did something horrible. It feels like crap because it was a crap thing to do and you either didn't think or did think but moved forward anyway. Now your conscience is bothering you and you are going to suffer the social ramifications and possibly other ramifications. You can't save the friend from having had it on her phone, but if she goes down for this you ethically should be going down with her.

All that being said, LEARN. Just learn from it.

No, you are not going to salvage this relationship. That hurts and it sucks. Learn from it.

Yes, you may get kicked out of nursing school for academic dishonesty. That hurts and it sucks and you will need to move on to Plan B if that happens. Learn from it.

Never get on someone else's phone/tablet/computer again.

Never access someone else's files again.

Never send something from someone else's files again. Even with their permission don't do it. Ask them to do it.

Never expend energy trying to get an edge at school in a questionable way again. Not for yourself. Not for others.

Be the person you want to be and you will never have to feel this way again.

You will never, for the rest of your life, look back on this and not cringe. That being said...you will move on from it. Life will go on. I cannot say it will be okay. I don't know that and neither does anyone else. There will be consequences. How all encompassing and severe remains yet to be seen. At a minimum you can assume correctly that the individual's privacy you violated will likely never be your friend. Apologize humbly. Mean it. And then all you can do is accept the consequences that come from these actions. Not having this individual as a friend is going to be one of those consequences. Others will likely get past it in time.

Find a trusted adult not associated with your nursing school or classmates to talk to about this. You will need support as the fallout comes...and come it will.

Learn.

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Specializes in Geriatrics, Dialysis.

If I'm reading this situation right your fellow student had a file on her phone that is a "cheat sheet" of topics for the midterm exam and you accessed that cheat sheet and sent it to all your classmates. First, that file does constitute cheating. Even if there weren't actually test answers having the list of topics that will be on the test gives the student that has that cheat sheet an unfair advantage as now they and only they know exactly where to focus their studies before the test. Of course since the entire class now has that cheat sheet the unfair advantage of being the only one in the know is gone.

Somebody in the class might call the existence of this cheat sheet to the instructor's attention and there may or may not be academic fall out for both the student you took this from and yourself for distributing it. Since you essentially stole this file off her phone, no I don't think that relationship is salvageable. At this point I'd be more concerned the program director boots you both for cheating. About all you can do is prepare for the worst and hope for the best.

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Specializes in MCH,NICU,NNsy,Educ,Village Nursing.

I hope you all get caught for cheating. I would not want you in my classroom. Academic dishonesty,while it seems to be accepted, is downright wrong. Now that I've made my opinion clear, I have a question...would YOU want someone who cheated their way through nursing pre-reqs and nursing school taking care of you or your most beloved family member or friend? Cogitate on those implications for a while. And, don't ever cheat again.

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Still confused?

You seriously want to double down, giving attitude here, thus alienating even more people? Not wise. Your post WAS quite confusing. Don't blame us for your very unclear post.

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I can't believe OPs concern here is focused on not having friends after this, instead of the very real possibility of getting kicked out AND assisting in getting her friend kicked out. Unreal. Immature. Moving along....

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Specializes in SICU, trauma, neuro.
So is the issue cheating or screwing around in her personal files?

Yes.. :no:

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so....it was a list of possible topics that might be covered on a MidTerm... NOT questions or answers - just potential topics? How is that cheating? I mean, if you go to class and do the work you already know the possible topics. It sounds like this was just a consolidated list of them rather than saying 'read the first half of this book'. Again, how is that cheating?

Did you mess up sharing a file that you shouldn't have, yes. Should you assume that she's going to hate you forever? Possibly.

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Specializes in MCH,NICU,NNsy,Educ,Village Nursing.
so....it was a list of possible topics that might be covered on a MidTerm... NOT questions or answers - just potential topics? How is that cheating? I mean, if you go to class and do the work you already know the possible topics. It sounds like this was just a consolidated list of them rather than saying 'read the first half of this book'. Again, how is that cheating?

Did you mess up sharing a file that you shouldn't have, yes. Should you assume that she's going to hate you forever? Possibly.

If this list of possible topics is not from a test blueprint that the professor provided, it is cheating. It is cheating in that it probably came from a previous test or tests. The fact the OP said that only a few, one or two I think they said, had access to it, implies it was gotten dishonestly and provided by a professor.

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Once time, I was part of a small group of students who had some concerns of cheating by other students on a prior exam (people talk). Our final was coming up so we went to our instructor. In the end six classmates were removed from the room during the exam and they all were dismissed from the program.

In this case, the instructor had been watching too.

The little pigs even had the nerve to get upset...

So OP, if you have any guts (and it sounds like you probably do not, seeming as you only seem to be worried about "friends", as opposed to , oh , let's say 'integrity'), you will take that little file and show it to your instructor). And you might as well be the one, because somebody else will... So get ready

Oh, and for Christ's sake tone down the overblown "worst day in the history of worst days". Don't you ever read the news? Have you ever been in a hospital or an nh%?

Good Lord....

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Hahaha I just now noticed this post....guess she's had such a horrific day in the history of days that she just doesn't realize that she's more than likely *not* the only student in her class that is on this board...

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I'll add to all the advise.... when you are all cheating your way through nursing school it behooves you to not post about it on a site. One of your classmates might realize who you are on here and turn you in.

Hahaha, I just now noticed this .... apparently she's had such a horrificly "worst day in the history of worst days" that she neglected to entertain the thought (and probability) that she is not the only student in her class that is on this board....

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Your life must be pretty charmed if this is the "worst day ever." My advice is to grow up from this experience; stop snooping through people's phones, stop enabling other people to cheat by sending documents that are not provided by the professor or made by you, and stop worrying about being friends with people who are cheating

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