Way older than clinical instructor?

  1. Hi All,

    I see from this board that there are alot of older students 35+ in age, in nursing school such as myself. I was curious to know if you do have instructors younger than yourself, how do you relate to them. Are you having any problems communicating with them?
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  2. 23 Comments

  3. by   Altra
    Joey,

    I'm 36, soon to be 37, and I am older than one of the instructors and several of the nurses I've been assigned with in clinicals. So far it hasn't been a problem at all. As a general rule, I think that maturity lends a certain advantage in "people skills." You can often better deal with whatever personality comes your way.

    When you say "way older" .... hmm ... wondering if that would be different?
  4. by   suzy253
    At 51 and a freshman student I have clinical instructors older than me (not by much!) and younger...by a couple of years. I have no problem with communication....I soak in everything they tell me, demonstrate to me and ask questions if I'm not clear on something. I call them not by their first names but Mrs. xxx and treat them with respect they deserve with them being my clinical and lecture instructor and me as the student learning from them.
  5. by   pattik9898
    Quote from MLOS
    Joey,

    I'm 36, soon to be 37, and I am older than one of the instructors and several of the nurses I've been assigned with in clinicals. So far it hasn't been a problem at all. As a general rule, I think that maturity lends a certain advantage in "people skills." You can often better deal with whatever personality comes your way.

    When you say "way older" .... hmm ... wondering if that would be different?
    im old old old. let's leave it at that. it is wonderful to be in a profession that embraces the older person, and sees the value of their experience.
    Last edit by pattik9898 on Mar 20, '04 : Reason: my god, did i really reveal my true age!
  6. by   Havin' A Party!
    I've been older than two and about the same as another prof.

    Gotten along great with all of them.
  7. by   Carolanne
    I'm 44 and all of my nursing instructors have been women in their 40s and 50s. I have worked with several nurses younger than me and I never even thought about the age thing. One gal was 23 (young enough to be my daughter :uhoh21: ) and I followed her around for five days when I did a summer preceptorship. We got along fine and I learned a lot from her. The age difference didn't bother me at all and I don't think it did her either. We were just focused on the tasks at hand and worked as a team.
  8. by   hopefully
    You are only 36. That does not make you old. If you think like a old person then people will see that. In my classes, we have classmates over 50.
  9. by   joey1967
    Wow, sounds wonderful that so many "older" women are going into the field! I am the oldest one in my class, the average age of the students are between 23-24, and I really notice the age difference. My mom is in her 60's and most of the people in my class think that is ancient! As for the instructor thing, does anyone think that men and women communicate differently? Has anyone had a younger male nurse instructor? I feel that I am being evaluated and almost looked down upon due to my age, like what is someone my age going back to school for. I'm not married, without kids, and that almost seems to be a mark on me. I'm usually asked "oh did you go back to support your children". It seems it is almost a given that I've been married and am now divorced which I haven't been. This particular instructor just assumed that was my situation. I actually have two degrees and this is my third, and I just like to learn but I don't want to have to explain myself and the reasons why I decided to go to nursing school. At any rate, I've had great relationships with everyone up until now, maybe it will get better, but I won't hold my breath. I'm happy to hear that everyone here has been accepted so favourably into the profession eventhough they are older than the "average" student.

  10. by   Energizer Bunny
    Quote from joey1967
    Wow, sounds wonderful that so many "older" women are going into the field! I am the oldest one in my class, the average age of the students are between 23-24, and I really notice the age difference.
    My advisor told me on Tuesday that there are only 10 high school grads coming in to our class in the fall and that most of the students will be my age (30) or even older with children. I don't know if this is because it is a community college with an intensive two year program or why, but I am grateful I won't be alone in the age department.
  11. by   orrnlori
    This instructor really has you in a tizzy. He may be a total jerk, I don't know. I think you are letting him make you feel too insecure. I was 40 when I started clinicals and I had several instructors in their mid to late 20's. And I had two male instructors. I didn't have a problem with any of them. If anything, the old blue-haired bat instructors were the problems. You are a mature and educated woman and this guy has just blow your self confidence to bits. I know you will make it through this and do a great job in school, finish and become a fine nurse. Quit letting this guy take away what you have worked for, don't let him rent space in your brain. Smile, bend over backwards, do whatever you have to do but beat him at his own game in such a way that he doesn't even know you won. You need to let this go. There's much work to do. Don't assign motives to people or you'll drive yourself crazy. You two obviously have some kind of personality clash. Don't let that get in the way of what you want and what you've worked for. Quit worrying about being older, you will make a better nurse because of your maturity and grace than any 20 year old. You may very well have other young instructors. Don't assume they are judging you and don't you judge them. School is soooooo tough. Don't make it tougher.
  12. by   joey1967
    Quote from orrnlori
    This instructor really has you in a tizzy. He may be a total jerk, I don't know. I think you are letting him make you feel too insecure. I was 40 when I started clinicals and I had several instructors in their mid to late 20's. And I had two male instructors. I didn't have a problem with any of them. If anything, the old blue-haired bat instructors were the problems. You are a mature and educated woman and this guy has just blow your self confidence to bits. I know you will make it through this and do a great job in school, finish and become a fine nurse. Quit letting this guy take away what you have worked for, don't let him rent space in your brain. Smile, bend over backwards, do whatever you have to do but beat him at his own game in such a way that he doesn't even know you won. You need to let this go. There's much work to do. Don't assign motives to people or you'll drive yourself crazy. You two obviously have some kind of personality clash. Don't let that get in the way of what you want and what you've worked for. Quit worrying about being older, you will make a better nurse because of your maturity and grace than any 20 year old. You may very well have other young instructors. Don't assume they are judging you and don't you judge them. School is soooooo tough. Don't make it tougher.
    Thanks so much for making me feel better
    ! I was just on the downside of thinking maybe I'm not cut out for this and it is time to give it up. Making I can't take it and maybe I'm not tough enough. Maybe I need to learn to keep my mouth shut...Maybe I need to learn to comprise my values and own nursing standards...Nursing school has made me a wreck. I'm suppose to feel comfortable with who I am at this age not doubting who I am. I feel so beat up by this. I have to go in on Tuesday and hold my head high but I am really struggling with keeping it together - I keep telling myself that I know who I am, and that I can't let this guy get me down, because maybe that's what he wants. I won't cry I won't cry I won't cry. That's the good thing. Part of my problem is that I've never been good at playing games. I'm really out there, open, honest and I HATE BS and game playing, it drives me nuts. I have nursing friends who know me well enough who actually wondered if I could get through all the brown nosing and crap that nursing school throws at you. Ugh, this is what its come to. I really want to nurse, that is what keeps me going. I need more positive reinforcement and you really did make me feel better and get alittle objective with the whole situation.
  13. by   emmy
    Hi joey1967
    Remember Nursing School isn't forever.
    Just think to the time when, and you will, qualify and you'll be doing a job that you have worked soo hard to do and want soo much to do.
    Chin up, we're here whenever you need support!
  14. by   orrnlori
    You obviously set high standards for yourself. This is a double edged sword, it can give you confidence, it can also tear you up when you encounter those (friends and foes alike) who want to tear you down, and you start to doubt. Quit listening to the nay-sayers.

    Whenever I think I'm about to get upset over a passing comment or a look from someone (another nurse!) that I can't quit figure out, I just always think to myself, do I really believe they are giving as much thought to this as I am? You are agonizing over this teacher and he probably doesn't even give you a second thought once you are out of his site. Think about that. You are just another student to him, he is not going home at night and thinking about this, trust me.

    I understand you don't want to play games, but I'll tell you that the world of medicine revolves many times around these games. You either deal with it, or you take your toys and go home. Do you really think that physicians are going to care about hurting your feelings, they don't give most nurses a second thought.

    There are other students who have to play besides nursing students. My son is in college, he has friends in the architectural program, pre-med, law school, etc. They all have to play. I know nursing students think they are the only ones who have such crap to put up with, I used to think that way too, but they aren't. It's actually part of the higher educational system itself. It's the way the American system is set up, student against student, teacher against student, teacher against teacher. If you think instructors don't have to play games within the administration they are in you would be wrong.

    Only you can define if you have what it takes to get through school. You can determine whether they win this game or you win. Take the weekend to do some deep breathing and mind clearing. We've all been there, trust me. Can you do it? You thought when you went into this you could. Know what? I think you were right, you can do it.

    And one other thing, please don't take offense. You're just a baby in this game of "nursing standards" as you put it. While you have some theory under your belt and some clinicals, don't assume you really know much about nursing yet and can pass judgement about licensed nurses' practice. Nursing school really doesn't prepare you for the real world. The "nursing standards" you hold now as a student have little to do with doing real nursing. You are still in the idealogical stage where you think you know more than you really know. This 25 year old kid that is your teacher knows so much more than you do. Rather than look for things you judge he does wrong, look at the things he does right and knows. You may someday look back and see you were very wrong about him. I know I had teachers I thought didn't know much about "real nursing" because I knew the book backwards and forwards. Well, I now know that they were pretty darned sharp and a lot of what was in my nursing texts were systems of theory that don't exist in the real world of nursing. That's just a tip.

    I think you will be fine if you just quit doubting yourself and start running with the ball. It will all be over before you know it.

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