Let me begin by apologizing for the rest of my gender:imbar
I wanted to offer the compromises that my wife and I agreed to before the semester started. I have been in about the same situation before with my wife trying to get me to go somewhere(like Thanksgivig across country
) during the
week that I must devote to study.
Here's how it went down:
I do dishes/she cooks
I recycle laundry as much as possible/she does it when she can
If she can't do it,technicaly
I know how.
The house gets picked-up by whomever is home before the scheduled occurence. The master bathroom is qurrantined for the visit so we can use it to dump everything efficiently.
It is agreed that nothing
will get scheduled without first consulting my calendar, and getting my input.
When I first brought this up, there was resistance. I used the argument that to go to school and not get the best grades possible is throwing our money away. For $1300 every 4 months I could just get a countryclub membership. I could play golf for 12 hours a day instead and just be a trophy husband!:chuckle
Seriously, marriage is a commitment to eachother, not traditional gender roles. If he's too much of a neanderthal to help you, hire a maid service, leave the kids with a sitter, and tell him to call for pizza....................but don't do it spitefuly, you should get him to see that you are offering a solution. If he doesn't like it, he needs to make a plan that is beneficial, and acceptable to you