Nursing Instructor Issues
- 1Mar 28, '12 by cwilliams6I'm looking for some advice...
I have almost made it to the end of my med-surg clinical rotation and the instructor is threatening to leave a bad review on my evaluation for things I don't feel I've done wrong...
The second weekend of clinicals she reported to the med-surg teacher that I was "inappropriate and disrespectful". When I met with the teacher, he told me he didn't even feel like I'd done anything wrong in what she told him happened but that he had to have a conversation with me anyway.
Well that's fine and all, we cleared it up and I apologized (even though I did not feel like I'd done anything wrong).
Last weekend (week 4) I asked my instructor if my performance had improved (because I want to do everything I can to learn as much as I can and to well, pass). She flat out told me "you're annoying and when you get out into the real world you will be eaten alive".
All I do at clinicals that could be deemed "annoying" is ask questions. I thought that's what I was supposed to do. I am there to learn.
I show up on time (usually at least 10 minutes early because I'm anal retentive like that), prepared, and ready to go. I do everything I am supposed to do before she has a chance to ask me if I've done it. I am willing to try to do anything that needs to be done (even though I have yet to successfully start any IVs :/). I help my peers when they need me. I do everything I know to do. And I have had nurses on the floor tell me I'm doing great. This instructor is the only person who's told me I am not doing well.
I just need some advice as to how to handle my last day with her in two weeks. Right now I want to quit. All because of her and her mean words. :/
Thanks for your opinions in advance guys!
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- 1Mar 28, '12 by Ashley, PICU RNDon't quit because of her, Love. You only have one more day. At this point, it just seems like she has an attitude problem and I don't think you can really do anything to change her tone. Just do the best you can to learn as much as you can in your last clinical.
Do you get to write your own comments on the evaluation? If you do, I would make sure that you write in everything that you feel you are doing right. And don't sign an evaluation that you don't agree with unless you can add your remarks. Your clinical evaluation is really going to have zero effect on your job application and your overall grades (I'm assuming your clinicals are pass/fail), so once this clinical is over, just put it behind you and move forward.
Hang in there. There will always be people in life you don't mesh with well. You just have to be confident in who you are and not let them define you.
- 0Mar 29, '12 by JBudd GuideIf you want to quit because of one person's mean words; disregarding all the others who have supported you and told you you are doing well: then you had better quit now. There is never going to be a time when there isn't at least one person who says mean things. One bad review is not the end of the world.
Let's see, your teacher said you were fine, your fellow students accept your help, and the floor nurses said excellent. Choose who you listen to!
What to do for your last days? Ask the floor nurses your questions instead of the instructor if she doesn't want to answer you. Cross all the T's and dot all the I's in your paperwork, make sure you address every requirement in the syllabus and be able to defend yourself as needed. You already showed maturity in apologising for a situation instead of "demanding your rights" (and really, what harm was done by getting it cleared up?).
- 2Mar 29, '12 by trutuyuI am motivated like you. I also ask tons of questions like you. When I meet a new teacher or clinical instructor I flat out tell them I like to ask lot's of questions, but then I also tell them that I realize they are busy and if ever I ask a question at a bad time just to let me know and I'll understand. I also learned a long time ago that a lot of teachers/instructors don't like students to ask questions because they don't know the answer and they don't want to look stupid. Don't worry about the teacher though. Just keep your head down make it through this rotation and the next teacher will probably love you because you ask questions
- 2Mar 29, '12 by brilloheadHave you asked WHAT you're not doing well/properly? What should you be doing instead? What should you not do at all, or do differently?
I would submit these questions in writing (email?) if at all possible, and CC: in your classroom instructor. If you've asked for recommendations but not received any, then I don't see how they can fail you. But you have to take control of your own destiny and ASK those questions, or you'll be blindsided on the last day, with no option to improve your performance.
- 5Mar 30, '12 by Esme12 Senior ModeratorMy first year nursing instructor told me I would NEVER be a good nurse because I was to much of a loner and I didn't delegate well, preferring to do too much myself. That was 35 years ago. Grant it I gravitated towards critical care areas and trauma flight (the best job int he world) where independent thinking is imperative for the job. But I have been a licensed nurse for 33 soon to be 34 years.
I was also once told at a review for a job at my 90 day evaluation, and I quote, that I "needed to stop having such intellectual conversations with the physicians as it was intimidating the other nurses". I responded that I have "never worked at a facility that promoted stupidity, I don't think this is going to work for me" and I moved on (ok it was better economic times).
Keep you nose to the grind stone and avoid this unhappy person like the plague. People who don't like bright, intelligent young nurses questions is because they don't have the answers themselves......and that makes them angry.
Chin up ....it will get better.
- 1Mar 30, '12 by AOx1 GuideThis was completely inappropriate on the part of your instructor. I would never say that to one of my students. Do I like them all personally? No, but my role is to determine if a student can practice competently and safely, not to audition for a new best friend. As part of my role, I offer critique on a student's performance, but it should be constructive. For example, if you were asking questions while I was very busy, I might ask you to hold off a minute until a better time arose. It is never acceptable to be rude or insult a student.
- 4Mar 30, '12 by GrnTeaold instructor here: i have to tell you that sometimes you have done your damnedest and are at the end of your rope with a student who is anal retentive, who does jabber questions constantly with no apparent effort to discover answers herself (sort of like the posters on an who want you to do their homework and haven't yet cracked their med/surg books), is cheerful with the staff but when the chips are down is a total lightweight, and one day she asks you the same thing one more time (having conveniently forgotten everything you have tried valiantly to explain to her in the past) and you crack and say, "you are annoying and when you get out in the real world you'll get eaten alive."
and the fact is, she is annoying and she will be eaten alive. and the only side of the story you hear here is hers. i am here to tell you that there are some of these around, and somebody, somewhere is telling them that they will be wonderful nurses without a shred of evidence to support that opinion, so they cease listening to constructive criticism and blame the instructor for delivering the bad news when it inevitably comes.