How to not Fail/Get kicked out/Get bullied?

Miss.LeoRN · Mar 18, 2015

I had the same concern when I was accepted, after lurking here a while. I've had no issues at all. My professors are wonderful. My experience had been both trying, frustrating, overwhelming, and wonderful. I hope yours is too. Focus on understanding and applying what you are learning rather than memorizing. And at the end of a long or bad day, turn on "Shake it Off" and dance.

LittleCandles · Mar 18, 2015

Don't do anything you're not suppose to. It's not hard up not get kicked out.

In regards to failing. Do your best, study study study.. Tutors if you need them.

Instructors bullying you.. Go to school, do your work, don't get caught up in nursing school drama. You should be fine.

mrsboots87 · Mar 18, 2015

Best thing I can advise is to ignore the negative threads you see here and don't read too much into those types of posts. Are there bullies in nursing school? Sure, but the vast majority of programs do not have that problem. Generally, when someone cries bully, it is very likely they did something and are trying to find blame in someone else because it is easier to find fault in others than ones self. Also, people are something like 10 times more likely to write a negative review then take the time to write a positive one. So yes, some of the people here who post about being bullied or kicked out unfairly probably were, but most weren't and are just complaining. I dont usually open those threads because the whining is annoying and really drags you down.

I, for one of many, have not encountered a single bad instructor or seen a single person dropped fro no reason. I have heard some of those who failed griping about unfair instructors or whatever. But I was there for their semester and am pretty positive their admitted lack of studying and general dislike of the instructors were the true fault. One student was even just a complete ditz and terrible in lab and clinical but thought she was picked on. I over heard conversations between her and instructors and she was quick to start pointing fingers and never took personal responsibility. She would be one to come her and claim her drop was unfair.

Just stay focused, study and you will be fine. If you do encounter a "mean" instructor, just keep your head down and stay out of their crosshairs by doing well on careplans and being prepared for clinical so you arent called out all the time. If its a class instructor, same thing. Dont get on their radar and they will leave you alone. I have yet to encounter a bad instructor, but I'm sure theyre out there.

Just absk in the joy of being accepted and take a vacation now, so you can feel good before starting. GL and congrats

happyinmyheart · Mar 18, 2015

I had the same concern when I was accepted, after lurking here a while. I've had no issues at all. My professors are wonderful. My experience had been both trying, frustrating, overwhelming, and wonderful. I hope yours is too. Focus on understanding and applying what you are learning rather than memorizing. And at the end of a long or bad day, turn on "Shake it Off" and dance.

It's a relief to know somebody else has had this concern before :) I will definitely take your advice to heart, especially understanding & applying vs. simply memorizing part. As a Taylor swift fan, I will most likely "Shake it off" at the end of a long day

happyinmyheart · Mar 18, 2015

Don't do anything you're not suppose to. It's not hard up not get kicked out.
In regards to failing. Do your best, study study study.. Tutors if you need them.
Instructors bullying you.. Go to school, do your work, don't get caught up in nursing school drama. You should be fine.

Thank you for your advice! I will be sure to study my hardest and stay out of the drama! I'm just worried I'll make one little mistake and get thrown out (like many of the posts I've seen on here) However, I suppose I should take those posts with a grain of salt. I guess it is different for everyone :)

happyinmyheart · Mar 18, 2015

Best thing I can advise is to ignore the negative threads you see here and don't read too much into those types of posts. Are there bullies in nursing school? Sure, but the vast majority of programs do not have that problem. Generally, when someone cries bully, it is very likely they did something and are trying to find blame in someone else because it is easier to find fault in others than ones self. Also, people are something like 10 times more likely to write a negative review then take the time to write a positive one. So yes, some of the people here who post about being bullied or kicked out unfairly probably were, but most weren't and are just complaining. I dont usually open those threads because the whining is annoying and really drags you down.
I, for one of many, have not encountered a single bad instructor or seen a single person dropped fro no reason. I have heard some of those who failed griping about unfair instructors or whatever. But I was there for their semester and am pretty positive their admitted lack of studying and general dislike of the instructors were the true fault. One student was even just a complete ditz and terrible in lab and clinical but thought she was picked on. I over heard conversations between her and instructors and she was quick to start pointing fingers and never took personal responsibility. She would be one to come her and claim her drop was unfair.
Just stay focused, study and you will be fine. If you do encounter a "mean" instructor, just keep your head down and stay out of their crosshairs by doing well on careplans and being prepared for clinical so you arent called out all the time. If its a class instructor, same thing. Dont get on their radar and they will leave you alone. I have yet to encounter a bad instructor, but I'm sure theyre out there.
Just absk in the joy of being accepted and take a vacation now, so you can feel good before starting. GL and congrats

Thank you so much for the long and well thought out response :) I will take your advice and follow it. I am excited for the challenge that nursing school will bring!! I suppose that reading many of the negative threads I mentioned have been making me more and more anxious. Perhaps next time I will simply need to ignore the thread and choose not to open it like you said :)

missmollie, ADN, BSN, RN · Mar 18, 2015

Negative threads are memorable, while the positive ones are not.

The best advice I can give you is to take everything in nursing school one hurdle at a time. Study, do practice questions, and work on your skills. If you fail a test, it's not the end of the world! It becomes the end if you allow that one test to define your grade or defeat you.

My professors have been wonderful, and they are honestly there to help you succeed. Be respectful and listen to them. Over the time of your program, they will help you become a nurse.

Don't spend your time being stressed out about things that might happen. I wish you the best of luck in your program, and congrats on your acceptance!

happyinmyheart · Mar 18, 2015

Negative threads are memorable, while the positive ones are not.
The best advice I can give you is to take everything in nursing school one hurdle at a time. Study, do practice questions, and work on your skills. If you fail a test, it's not the end of the world! It becomes the end if you allow that one test to define your grade or defeat you.
My professors have been wonderful, and they are honestly there to help you succeed. Be respectful and listen to them. Over the time of your program, they will help you become a nurse.
Don't spend your time being stressed out about things that might happen. I wish you the best of luck in your program, and congrats on your acceptance!

You have a very good point. I am quite the worry wart, and I suppose I can't spend too much time stressing over things that may not even happen Thank you for your advice- I will take it to heart as I begin Nursimg School!

Spangle Brown · Mar 18, 2015

Are you being bullied?

I am being serious. When you feel it, stop and think. I have personally seen a student claim this, when in reality all they received was corrective criticism. Such stuff hurts and feels embarrassing when your use to people patting you on the back. Friends and family tend to just point out positive. So we don't know how to deal with the negative.

When it happens you have two choices. Take it as being bullied ( poor me ) and respond with a negative attitude towards the Professor and look constantly for proof that this person doesn't like you. (Seek and you will find ). OR take it as a "Wow, I need to think about this." Learn from it.

We all make mistakes, it is how we respond to the consequences of those mistakes that makes us or breaks us.

BTW: after giving criticism, there might feel strain between you and your professor. Most likely because of their past experiences with such situations. And the noted "bully" claims. This is hard on them too. It isn't always about you. They are people too. They get bullied by students too.

**NICU Guy, BSN, RN** · Mar 18, 2015

Nursing school is a learning environment. If you knew everything, you wouldn't need school. You are going to make mistakes in lab and clinicals, everyone does. You need to learn from your mistakes and move on. If you get a bad grade on an assignment or test, first look at yourself before casting blame on someone else. If you spent more time watching TV or surfing the internet than studying for your test, blame yourself rather than the instructor for making the test too hard.

One thing to remember with nursing school tests, if the test covers CH 1-4 then everything in those chapters are fair game for test questions. Many students come on here to complain about topics that were not covered in class. Instructors are not going to spoon feed you the answers to the tests, you need to read, comprehend the subject, and be able to apply the knowledge on a test. Nursing tests require critical thinking skills. As you progress through school, the questions become more NCLEX type questions. Three of the answers may be right, but which one is the best answer (what do you do first?, what is the priority?)

windsurfer8, BSN, RN · Mar 18, 2015

People often look for reasons to justify WHY they did not complete nursing school. Blaming others (School, teachers, clinical instructors) is much more comfortable than saying "I couldn't hack it".

It is 100% up to you. If you have a hard instructor..smile and embrace the challenge. Ask for more. Never quit.