Having a boyfriend while in nursing school....

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Hi folks,

I'm in my last semester of core classes (Micro). I expect to enter nursing school in the Fall of 2007. I'm not dating anyone seriously right now but I would really like to have a boyfriend. On the other hand, I keep hearing that nursing students really don't have time for relationships. Is this true? If so, should I just wait until nursing school is over before persuing a serious relationship? I'm concerned that if I found a man to date that they may not be understanding when it comes to the demands of nursing school, etc.

I actually have a boyfriend right now and I'm in nursing school. It is definitely workable.. You just have to find the right man who would understand that you have minimal free time. I am lucky because my boyfriend and I have been together 3 years and now live together.. So even though I work full time and go to school at night, we are able to have at least a few hours together, even if it means laying in bed at night. I am also very lucky because we both understood what it meant when I started the program.. we just have to be patient and be together as much as we can when i'm not studying. It also means that he has to pick up the slack where i cant.. dinner, laundry, etc.

But as for starting a NEW relationship.. it might be really difficult, especially since in the beginning of a relationship you want to spend ALLL of your time together. I agree with other posters in that, if you find a guy you cant live without and he is patient and understanding, then go for it :redbeathe:) Otherwise, just wait a little longer, at least until you get into the swing of things.. Don't worry you'll be done soon! :D

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Specializes in Wannabe NICU/PED Nurse.
well, you can say that there isn't enough time , but i know for myself(the boyfriend of 8 months today of a nursing student ) that it is possible it just takes the right guy. lol my girlfriend has a son and is a nursing student so its a possibility to make it work. Patience and love are the two main things the guy has to have in order for it to work. I only get to see her on a test week 2 days but knowing that she loves me alot and we both have a deep caring and commitment to eachother makes it work and the time spent with her , her and her son and the combonation of the 2 amazing. so yeah like i said paitence on the guys part it will work and will last and might even be better because of it . As for me i guess the patience thing comes from being a navy guy lol so yea date a guy in or formerly in the military :bugeyes:

TELL ME ABOUT IT! My bf is in the ARMY... and I have learned to have patience- the whole military motto is HURRY UP AND WAIT! We have been [back] together for a year and 1/2... He's been in the Army for 12 years now and I first dated him back in HS... We've come a long way and still have a ways to go- and I don't do this b/c I have to I do it b/c i want to and I love him and there is no one else for me... He was just promoted to Staff SGT and is currently stationed in Ft. Bliss, TX... I'm in VA. I've seen him once since being back together- but I gotta tell you that time with him- was more real to me- and I have never felt the way I felt with him and no one could come close to how he makes me feel and the way I love him. I know he would do the same for me- which is a good thing since I am going into Nursing! If you are meant to be and really love each other- then time, nor distance can stand in the way! But like some of the others said- don't plan on having a SO- when/ if you meet someone then think about all this- and if you want to be with someone else then you will find the time. JMO

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It's possible to have a relationship while you're in nursing school. Your partner just has to realize that your priority right now is doing well in school. You just have to meet the right person who understands that school is hard work and requires a lot of time to study if you weren't born with the ability to automatically retain information!

I've been in a relationship for around 2 1/2 years along with going to school. Sometimes he'll get frustrated with me because I'll cancels plans since I have to study, but lately he has been more understanding. His hobby is rebuilding his truck, so when it's nice outside and he's working on his truck we'll spend time together... he'll be working on it and I'll be sitting on my nice fold out chair studying.

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It is possible to have a relationship while in nursing school, I know my last module in school I had no time for my boyfriend at all but I kind of figured that some modules would be like that. So for 7weeks I did not see my boyfriend at all and we barely talked during that particular module.

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Specializes in Med/Surg.

My boyfriend is my biggest supporter in nursing school. If you can find someone who will love and support you through some of the hardest, most stressful times in your life and then have someone to celebrate with it when you get a good grade, finish one more semester, and eventually graduate then I would say absolutely go for it!!!:heartbeat:heartbeat

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Specializes in SICU/CVICU.

Plenty of people do it. Granted, it is harder when you are in nursing school, but it's possible. They just need to be supportive of you and not get upset when you have to stay in and study.

I do think it might be a little easier going through nursing school with nobody else to worry about, but I wouldn't change the way things are for a second. I'm just sure to give my boyfriend extra attention on the days that I am locked up reading for 8 hours :).

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I didn't read all the posts, but I'll tell you what I tell my son all the time.

1) you find the better mate when you're not looking, than when you're actively looking, because it will be that "one" that you just can't help but be around and think about, even though you have other commitments (I speak from vast experience on this after a failed marriage and many failed relationships...finding "the one" when I no longer 'wanted' to...he's my soulmate and my best friend and we've been near blissful for the past 5 years)

2) In order to get anywhere in life, you need to have your education, whatever field it is in. NOBODY should come between you and your education. NOTHING should take priority over getting it, especially if you are still young enough to start off with a clean slate, without prior commitments. Your education should be paramount, before guys or friends or anything, regardless of the field. It may be possible to do all of the above, but in the order of priorities, school MUST come first. If your friends and guy friends are truly thus, they will understand that. If not, well the education is something that will never go away and will be so good for you when you DO find the right one.

So I guess... no, I would not actively seek a serious relationship before I finished college, if I could do it all over again. Really, I would not actively seek one ever. I would just live my life, enjoy my friends and family, and enjoy every moment, every person, every success. Actively seek friendships, not relationships, and you never know what may happen. Relationships will come and go, and if its really 'the one' that you should get serious with, I don't think you'll need to come to the message boards for input about it.

Good luck in nursing school! :)

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Specializes in ICU, Emergency Department.

My boyfriend and I have been together almost two years; we got together exactly one year before I started school. Though I've had moments during which I was stressed and yelled at him and everyone else and pulled away, he's been supportive enough to realize this is temporary and really for my betterment. Our relationship has never been stronger, and we're surviving nursing school just fine.

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It is very possible if you have the right guy and he has patience. I just got into the nursing program and I start this fall so I really haven't done any nursing classes yet BUT all last year I did nothing but study my butt off so that I could make it into nursing school this year.

He was totally cool with it. And he understands that I won't really have time or anything. Last year him and I would just laze around doing hw/studying or I would be studying in his room while he was playing computer games or something, and it worked out just fine. Actually I think I study better with him around. But I'm sure that will be a little different this year. Just make sure that you man understands that school is your top priority and that failure isn't an option. Nursing is waaaaaaay more demanding than most other majors. :twocents:

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Specializes in Acute Mental Health.

Go for it if you can handle it! Just remember, you have to prioritize and he needs to understand that. If you find someone who can stick it out while your a student, you can weather just about anything. Good luck :specs:

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It is possible to have a boyfriend in nursing school, but it is going to have to be someone very patient and understanding. Remember for right now school comes FIRST!

That being said, I don't think that it is a good idea to be actively looking for someone while in school. If it happens, it happens! But be sure that if they are not understanding of the time commitment you have already made to school then it is not worth it.

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I am going to say this...Having a boyfriend in nursing school does not mean you cannot be successful. Most of the ppl on this site have boyfriends, kids, husbands, etc... If you have someone in your corner for motivation and who will support you no matter what, there is nothing wrong with having someone in your life. Sometimes a cheerleader is always good to have when you feel like you cannot make it. Even if it's not a boyfriend, it can just be a special friend.

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