This is my first year in nursing school and I already feel like I've made a fool of myself. The first few months of school were completely terrible (September 2013 - December 2013). It was so bad that I was thinking about dropping out. I was breaking down everyday at home and crying after classes in the washroom stall at school and it got so bad that I had to see a doctor who then prescribed me some antidepressants. I mean they helped for a bit but I just stopped taking them and seeing the doctor cause I just didn't want to think of myself as being depressed...I just really wanted to make friends but I guess I don't know how and seeing everyone already arrange themselves into groups of friends really got me scared and sad. I'm really introverted but I hate that I'm introverted. I started to sit in the front of the class in the first row alone with no one beside me and every time there was a group activity I would die a little in inside. I do understand that I really have horrible coping mechanisms though because I found everything so overwhelming the first 3 months of school and the worst part is everyone in all my classes have surely noticed as well...I mean I am a very shy and quiet person all the time and I think people have heard and seen me crying before which makes it worse. I tend to make very bad small talk (so I avoid small talk now) and I hide during breaks in random empty rooms and sit by myself (I know, weird right?). This one girl did approach me in september and started talking to me but then she made friends with another girl who didn't really click with me (the girl avoided talking with me but talks with practically everyone in my class), and now I've heard them talking poorly of me a few times about how weird and awkward I am. Now we don't really talk and theres always this weird tension between us cause I guess I got kind of unkind (unkind as in stopped talking to her, ignoring her) when she stopped sitting with me and when I overheard her and her friend talking about me...which makes me realize that I am really acting like an immature highschool student but idk it kinda stung when I heard her saying things about me. After this experience I don't know how to approach anyone in my class, I just feel intimidated by everyone in my class and they just seem like they aren't interested in talking to me at all because I've already made a fool of myself. These things have happened to me all throughout elementary, middle school and highschool and I feel like its all repeating again. I've tried to talk to people a few times but it always ends in an awkward short convo. Even though its February right now I feel like everyone in my class still thinks I'm weird. Some girl in my class had to sit beside me and the prof told us to work in pairs, and I heard her mumbling "oh my god not her" and then calling to her other friends to work with her . When we have to get into groups in class, people give me weird looks when I try to sit with them. Now everyone in my classes are practically friends with each other and those two girls are friends with a lot of other people in my classes as well and I've heard them talking about me to other people as well. For example on the bus to school, some of the girls in my class sit at the back and I've heard them saying things like " (my name) is weird" or "shes awkward" and "she doesn't talk." I just feel like I've really isolated myself from everyone and I don't know how to really connect with anyone in my class when everyone already has a bad first impression of me. I care because these are my colleagues and this is a profession where teamwork is everything. I am really bad with small talk and I get defensive easily and I guess I just have a bad overall self concept. I dont want my shyness to interfere with my ability to do the job. I want to try and build my self concept more because I realize that I should change the way I see myself in order to approach people differently to hopefully change their opinion about me. I just don't want to feel like reverting back to the the awkward, quiet, shy loner I was in highschool. I really want to change myself. I just don't know how to approach the girls in my class...I feel like I've come across as the cold hearted, shy, quiet loner.
I am sorry if I rambled a lot in this post, I feel so lost
Any advice would be greatly appreciated!
If your advice is going to be harsh, can you try to make it constructive as well?
Thank you!