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True story from this morning---

I'm in break room , reading document student comes in to use computer to preview pts for clinical tomorrow

Hi I'm Sally student

Me - still intent on document--mumbles hi

*silence *

Student --I guess you don't like students I've heard about nurses eating their young

Me: still reading--huhh?

Really? Give me a break

Not everybody is socialable...or socially appropriate regardless of profession. :blink:[/quote']

That is true, but I was specifically talking about nurses. I really don't care about 'other professions' just the one I'm getting into... :)

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... but a "Nice to meet you. I can't talk right now, I'm sorry" wouldn't have killed anyone.

Exactly!

The student most certainly should not have quipped her mouth off with the NETY comment; however how much energy does it take to say, "Oh Hi. I'm in the middle of something right now and trying to focus on finishing it. Give me five seconds and you'll have my undivided attention."

.... in my approximation not very much energy at all.

The problem is that the OP didn't want to be "bothered" which was further fueled by the student’s inappropriate retort. There was unprofessional behavior by both parties in this exchange, IMHO.

*dons his flame-retardant suit*

...Guy #1 would have pointedly asked "What the #$%^&*! is your problem, dude?" Guy #2 would have realized his social faux pas, and said, "Nothing man, just kidding." He'd have tucked his tail between his legs and left in a hurry. However, both of them would get over it and move on.

I live with 5 of them, but I don't get women.

I was honestly thinking the same thing while reading the OP's account of the exchange. Guys and gals just handle our social interactions differently and this is another example.

Between guys: "Dude, what's the deal? Can't you see I'm reading something here. Give me a second, OK?" would have instantly cut this exchange short and both parties would have thought nothing of it afterwards. :yes:

... just another reason I love my wife and daughter so much. The life lessons one learns from being surrounded by women you love is immeasurable.

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Specializes in Oncology, Rehab, Public Health, Med Surg.
Exactly! The student most certainly should not have quipped her mouth off with the NETY comment; however how much energy does it take to say, "Oh Hi. I'm in the middle of something right now and trying to focus on finishing it. Give me five seconds and you'll have my undivided attention." .... in my approximation not very much energy at all. The problem is that the OP didn't want to be "bothered" which was further fueled by the student’s inappropriate retort. There was unprofessional behavior by both parties in this exchange, IMHO. *dons his flame-retardant suit*

I did say hello in response to her hello --why should she have my undivided attention---I was on break attending to a personal matter and she was on the computer gathering information for her clinical the NEXT day. She didn't ask a question or request help-she just said hi.

I don't know why you put quote marks around "bothered". You certainly aren't quoting me.

And just like I'm not into nety , I'm also not into flaming so go ahead and take off that uncomfortable flame repellant suit. You're safe---really

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..why should she have my undivided attention.

She shouldn't. In addition, she should not have made the comment she did afterwards. It was simply completely rude and a lack of judgement on her part; additionally it was (most likely) a parrot of something she heard from someone else.

My point was that it doesn't take much effort to simply say: "Hey, I'm in the middle of something right now. It's actually about your clinical tomorrow. Give me quick second, OK?"

And just like I'm not into nety , I'm also not into flaming so go ahead and take off that uncomfortable flame repellant suit. You're safe---really

Good to know :). I'm not saying you're a mean, evil, horrible person for the way the situation was handled. Just that both sides in the exchange could have used a little more professionalism -- that's all. Lord knows there are plenty of times in both my personal and professional life I could have utilized a little more tact.

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Specializes in Pediatrics, Emergency, Trauma.
That is true but I was specifically talking about nurses. I really don't care about 'other professions' just the one I'm getting into... :)[/quote']

And my post is stating the obvious...not going to change because one is a nurse. :)

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This thread has blown up in a couple of days

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presuming some of the those 5 are daughters, please make sure they are socialized to this behavior. I much prefer the "get it out there and deal" mentality. Sniping is not appropriate. If this is what we teach our daughters, this is what we will get. TIA

I feel compelled to ask if both parties in this exchange were women? I can not, for the life of me, imagine guys experiencing a similar conflict because guy #1 perceived guy #2 as being insufficiently welcoming/friendly on guy #1's first day. If guy #2 did say something that inane, Guy #1 would have pointedly asked "What the #$%^&*! is your problem, dude?" Guy #2 would have realized his social faux pas, and said, "Nothing man, just kidding." He'd have tucked his tail between his legs and left in a hurry. However, both of them would get over it and move on.

I live with 5 of them, but I don't get women.

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This thread has blown up in a couple of days

Indeed. I thought it was interesting the other day when I initially found it, but I was eager to see what others thought before I added my two cents. The varied responses to the OP's original post have been educational, and I thank him/her for presenting it for discussion.

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Specializes in Emergency Room, Trauma ICU.
Exactly! The student most certainly should not have quipped her mouth off with the NETY comment; however how much energy does it take to say, "Oh Hi. I'm in the middle of something right now and trying to focus on finishing it. Give me five seconds and you'll have my undivided attention." .... in my approximation not very much energy at all.

Oh dear God are you kidding me? If I'm interrupted while on my break you can bet I'm not going to be that nice to anyone, let alone a student. If she was there to prep for clinicals then that's what she should be doing, not bothering people in the break room. Unless it was asking where the nurses station was.

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I think both the student and OP did things poorly.

The OP could have been a bit more social by making eye contact, saying hi I'm so and so- even if your busy doing work it's an easy thing to do.

And the student could have walked away and not said something so stupid.

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Specializes in CDI Supervisor; Formerly NICU.
had no respect for the nurse's preoccupation with actual work.

That's just an assumption. The chick was reading something in the breakroom. None of us knows it was work, and not 50 Ways To Leave Your Lover.

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That's just an assumption. The chick was reading something in the breakroom. None of us knows it was work, and not 50 Ways To Leave Your Lover.

"The chick" has told us that she was worried about her own family member. Perhaps you shouldn't project what you do on your break on the OP. And perhaps in a predominantly female profession you shouldn't use language that could be construed as demeaning towards women.

How sad so many here have such empty lives that they never have anything going on that would be more important to them and preoccupying than cheerfully greeting every rude person that crosses their path and insists on interrupting what they are clearly engrossed with.

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