as an older rn returning to the hospital setting after a 16 year lapse of hospital care, i feel like i might have some input about this situation.
obviously, i'm not in your there so i don't know all the details. but have you tried being more direct with her?
why didn't you palpate the abdomen? we consider that part of our routine assessment esp for abd pain--then does she do it next time? if not, why?
when you shrug your shoulders when i ask you*abc*, i get confused. does that mean you agree with me or you don't understand or you'd rather hear anyone but me talking right now or.....? sounds like asking open questions like how do you think you're doing may not be focused enough. if it doesn't work, at least you've got material to document to cya
depending on where she's coming from, she can be having a steep learning curve just acclimating to computer charting and such. remember, computer charting hasn't been around forever--just since you younger nurses have been around. maybe it might help if someone her age that she might be able to relate more to helped with orientation?
i read a lot about how new young rns get scared and overwhelmed and self-doubting. i'm here to say that it also happens to older nurses in new learning situations too.
i know you're helping her with orientation not actually precepting her as in an internship. but it sounds like a direct talk might be in order--with her and/or the nurse manager.
good luck to you both.