Is it worth a shot? (getting my job back)

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I can't sleep from being upset about an incident that happened at my nursing home job and my mind is racing...anyway, I was supposed to take a job out of state at a hospital but after much consideration ended up feeling the cards were stacked against me, declined the job offer and the first two days of orientation I missed last week.

I have been having regrets and would like to give this job a try.

Nursing orientation starts this Wednesday. I wonder if there is a chance they would allow me to start nursing orientation and make up the other two days later?

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Specializes in psych. rehab nursing, float pool.

All you can do is ask. I am not sure I would bank on it though. You might have explained somehow missing 1 day, but 2 days . I fear the new employer has most likely already written you as no show, not reliable.

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Specializes in Nephrology, Cardiology, ER, ICU.

Sorry for the harshness but you need to decide what you want to do and stick to it. In past posts you have said you are an RN who is going the FNP route and wanted advice on whether to go to the hospital or not. Advice was given, you waffled on it and stayed at the NH. Then, you no show'd for hospital orientation 450 miles away! Then, there is the situation with the visitor where you had a confrontation in the NH.

You need to decide for yourself what you want to do and go for it. I'll be honest, going for your FNP is not the right choice if you can't even make up your mind about hospital versus NH.

How in the heck do you expect to make patient care decisions when you are an APN?

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I have to agree with the above poster too. We all love to try and help each other here. Heck...that is why we are here, but you need to make some decisions.

I'm just wondering how things will work out with you taking a job so far away. You have kids? What bout were you will live? Kids going to school? Who will watch them? Those type of things....I don't think they are last minute things to plan for or think about.

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Yes, I have children. Four of them, ages 21 months to 11yrs. and ultimately, they have been the reason I had decided I couldn't go to the hospital. I had originally thought Mom could help watch my youngest and I could at least take him with me but my crazy 47-year-old unemployed brother has ensconced himself in her house and taken over (and uses her bank account freely and the royalty checks from the gas wells on the large family farm) privately and not in front of Mama told me there can't be any babysitting. I wanted to tell him to bite my @$$ (and go get a job)but a hostile household is not what I want. The day care at the hospital didn't have openings for 21 month olds and I was feeling pretty down and defeated and not even welcome in the house I grew up in and felt would always be home.

Anyway, the decision wasn't really a matter of not being able to decide between the nursing home and hospital, but the pain of being away from my children, especially my little one.

If this hospital had been 20 miles away, I'd be there right now! So, the comment about not being able to make up my mind doesn't offend me at all, because I can make up my mind, there are just about 10 other issues that come into play and it isn't just about deciding where I want to work.

Still, hope springs eternal and I am still looking for a way...

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Again, all you can do is call the manager or recruiter who hired you and ask. And if you did call them, what did they say?

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Again, all you can do is call the manager or recruiter who hired you and ask. And if you did call them, what did they say?

I'm too scared to call. What about an email?

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Specializes in Psych, LTC, Acute Care.

I think you should stay where you are. You have mentioned too many family dynamics that you are facing. Controlling husband, young children, unstable brother, moving 450 miles away. I have to agree with the other posters on their comments also. You are too wishy-washy right now and I think you need to work on your decision making skills. The right job will come oneday and when things are right in your life and you will not have to comtemplate on taking a position. You are not ready to commit to any job. You are letting people manipulate you and you need to figure out why. Start addressing your issues and maybe one day you can move forward.

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So, you would leave or take your kids with you? I still don't get how this could even work out unless you move and have things lined up ahead of time..

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I agree with the above post. Maybe it is best you stay where you are until you figure out some things. This is definitely not something people can give you the answer to. I think though that to get closure with this job you need to get the courage to call and hear what they have to say. The worst thing they can do is say no to you and maybe you'll even hear some good advice. Just do it! For me, I believe we make decisions for a reason, we may take the wrong turn somewhere but we'll always find another path that is meant for us. Good luck! And work on getting some of your confidence back! Believe in yourself!

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Specializes in LTC,Hospice/palliative care,acute care.
I'm too scared to call. What about an email?

You need to get a grip-you are an adult.m You need to HELP YOURSELF.....I really think some counseling would benefit you-your posts clearly show immatruity and insecurity.You seem unable to make a decision and stick to it and you catastrophize.You are defeating yourself! Your LIFE will not change until YOU change.YOU deserve this-you are worthy of happiness. I'm not coming down on you-I recognize these patterns.My first marriage was to a controlling emotionally and physically abusive man.Living like that riddles you with self doubt .By the time I left I could barely order a meal-"'What do I want? Do I really want that? What if I don't like it?" I was paralyzed for a long time with it until I got myself some help.Counseling is not easy either-sometimes it is easier to stay in the situation rather then face what you have done to contribute to it...BUt you own it to yourself to try.

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Specializes in Education, Medical/Surgical.

You have written more drama than I have ever read from one person. You need to step back and see who is ultimately resonsible for your life and that of your children. You have 4. I thought it was five from your previous extensive "posts."

I have begun to think you have created your life's story yourself. What degree do you actually have? Why would you want to leave 3 of your children to fend for themselves with a disabled husband? My sincere advice is to sit down with a professional counselor, mental health professional or minister of your faith and lay our what is actually going on.

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