When everybody knows your name

In an era of informality, have we accepted a lack of respect? Nurses General Nursing Article

This is something that I wrote for a class while I was in Nursing School. I came across it again and decided to post it and see what the reaction would be. Fire away, all responses or opinions will be welcomed, none will be taken personally.

American culture has become less and less formal in recent years. In most businesses employees are on a first name basis with everyone else, right up to the CEO. Business casual is the new dress code in many places, and in some sectors blue jeans and t-shirts are the norm. The President of the United States has revised White House dress codes, no longer requiring suit jackets be worn at all times. Polo shirts and khakis can even be found on tellers and loan officers in many banks, which have traditionally been the most staid and sober of institutions. In hospitals, nurses have abandoned the traditional starched whites in favor of a mix of scrubs and logo shirts. It's worth noting here that physicians have yet to discard their long white coats.

In many places nurse have not only abandoned their uniforms, they've given up their last names. Most seem to have done it gladly, accepting the new American informality with scarcely a thought. They introduce themselves by their first name, and in some cases take steps to conceal their surnames. Concealing last names or credentials is an issue being addressed by Nursing's governing bodies in various states with a variety of results, but still, patients call for nurses using first names and physicians and other staff generally use a nurse's first name while in a patients room and no one thinks anything of it. Nurses accept and appear to encourage this practice generally.

A physician was asked by the author how she refers to nurses when in front of a patient, and was told that if the nurse is in the room she usually uses a first name. Were she to encounter a nurse who insisted on being address by his or her title and last name in when in front of a patient she would consider that nurse somewhat cold, snooty and pretentious. Conversely, she expects to be referred to as "Doctor". She feels that patients want their physicians, even the female ones, to take a paternal role, essentially telling patients what they must do, allowing patients to abdicate their decision-making rights completely. Nursing, she noted is more maternal and intimate, and the use of a first name makes establishing a relationship easier. The physician suggested that using a nurse's first name makes patients more comfortable.

Some of her points regarding a nurse's relationship with a patient feel true. She pointed out that most of us would address our attorney by their first name, yet they seem to retain their status. But in court, the judge addresses those attorneys with the Mr. or Ms. honorific, followed by their last name. Attorneys, of course, address the judge by title or honorific and fail to do so at their own peril. Formality and at least the outward appearance of respect are expected. It would seem that the analogy, in this case, fails to hold up.

Opposite this, an example that comes to mind is a server in a restaurant. It's not uncommon to be seated at a table and have a waiter or waitress arrive with a name tag that reads "Jennifer C". Jennifer C then introduces herself by saying something like "Hi, I'm Jenny, I'll be your server tonight. Can I get you something to drink?" Substitute server for nurse and you have a scene that plays out in hospitals all around the country every day. If nurses are unable to separate themselves from the staff at the local Denny's how can we expect the general public to know the difference between the 23-year-old college senior refilling their water glass and the 23-year-old baccalaureate prepared ICU nurse adding yet another line to the seven already running while carefully managing fluid and electrolyte balance at their loved one's bedside?

The use of last names sometimes brings out strong emotions when nurses are asked opinions on the issue. Most seem to cite the need for security, talking about patients and families who may make threats or become obsessed with the nurse to the point of harassment and stalking. Here again, this seems to be less of a concern for physicians, even those who happen to be young and female. Perhaps there is a difference in maturity level between a 20-year-old with an ADN (associate degree) and a 26-year-old first-year resident. Age, experience, education and the almost Olympian authority bestowed by the letters MD may provide a degree of protection that the young nurse does not enjoy. However, while planning this paper, nurses who did cite security always had anecdotes that involved a friend of a friend. None claimed to have been stalked, threatened or attacked personally. Google searches were performed on keywords "nurse attacked", "nurse threatened" and "nurse stalked" and the first 100 returns were checked. When combined with attacked or threatened, it appeared that it was more often the nurse who was attacking or threatening someone. In the cases where a nurse was attacked, the fact that the victim was a nurse appeared to be coincidental unless the attack occurred in a patient care setting. Stalking does seem to be a more significant issue, but still, most of the evidence reviewed was anecdotal with only a few exceptions.

I once read an article which suggested using nurse's first names while at the same time insisting on titles for physician's subtlety demeans and devalues the nurse and his or her role in the eyes of the patient, the physician, and within the profession of nursing itself. The authors argued that using our last names and credentials will help nurses win and retain the position of respect that they have earned.

The arguments for allowing informality seem fairly weak overall and nurses need to start recognizing it. In giving up our surnames along with the titles we have earned we give up or fail to gain respect from our patients, their physicians, and most importantly, from ourselves. In concealing our names and credentials we deny our identities and imply that a patient hasn't the right to know the name of his or her caregiver. None of these things are acceptable. Nurses will stop being treated as second class citizens as soon as we stop behaving like second class citizens.

My first thought (and keep in mind I still have 7 more weeks of nursing school, or a year, if I don't pass critical care) is that the nurse often provides such intensely intimate care -- both physically and psychologically, that a first-name basis is only appropriate. I might be off base, but that is what I think. And I know that in both my personal life and at the hospital for clinicals, when I encounter the doc who introduces him/herself by his/her first name, I get the feeling that there is a doctor who cares and is there for the patient. JMHO and :twocents:.

(I do think nurses are often disrespected, but for whatever reason I am not sure it has to do with how they're addressed professionally).

Talk about intimate - how about doctors doing pelvic exams, breast exams, or rectal exams? Inserting fingers and instruments into these most private of areas is pretty darned intimate, what?

I am a womens and childrens nurse so I think it would in fact be silly to address my pediatric patients by their last name. I do feel that allowing my patients to call me by my first name as opposed to the more formal undertones of Miss So & So is one of the many ways I build a trusting relationship with them. However, I do call my older patients by their last names until I am given permission to use their first name.

The reality is that times have changed and it is no longer common for children or people in general to address others in a formal manner. If we try to implement this now in nursing practice it would probably seem forced and cold where as physicians have mantained a degree of separtion from their patients with their limited communication time and title bearing practice.

It is not that nurses are losing respect by becoming more personable with their pt's but they are gaining a new type of relationship.

I am a PhD thinking of bridging into Nursing and I would not expect my patients when that time comes to call me Doctor, Nurse Brown..

I am a PhD thinking of bridging into Nursing and I would not expect my patients when that time comes to call me Doctor, Nurse Brown..

That WOULD be confusing, wouldn't it? LOL So, since your client would be being cared for by you as a nurse, you would drop your Dr. title, right? I mean, think about it, if you're they're nurse, you're obviously not their doctor, right? Their primary care physician or surgical doc would be their doctor, not you. You do bring forth an interesting dilemna. Thanks for that.

yeah it would be weird and I am around doctors here at my postdoc all the time and the only one I call doctor are the older doctors on the floor and my PI of course due to respect but most of your contacts are colleagues in the patient's room you are colleagues right( kind of working on the same project, once you are a board certified nurse, not a student). Most younger doctors insist on it first name basis only those with a bug up their but would want otherwise...:)

It is good to be respected. Use of first names has become the norm in this culture. It is very common to hear the students address their teachers by their first names. And so it just gets imprinted on their minds that using the first names is OK.

On the other hand at the bedside patients feel more comfortable adressing the nurses by their fist names (no disrespect); Doctors as 'Doc' or Dr. X (so be it).

Specializes in mental health, military nursing.

My patients call me Miss Laura, and the nurses and staff even refer to each other that way (Mr. John, Miss Ashley, etc). It shows a little bit of respect, but doesn't give our last names.

Kids will try and friend us on Facebook, or write us letters if they know last names. Teenage girls have sent letters to male staff (in care of the hospital) with sexual propositions, photos, etc - that's a HUGE problem.

I think it's kind of dated to be called Nurse Laura - and it just doesn't make sense. I don't say "Therapist Joe" or "Social Worker Karen" - even though they've earned their degrees, and usually have more advanced licensure than I do.

Specializes in Med/Surg, L&D.

I don't really have a set opinion about what I am addressed by, but I have tended to go by my first name. Part of that may be out of habit from my previous work in customer service. When I worked in early childhood education, many of my coworkers went by "Miss Jill" or "Miss Shelley." I always hated being called "Miss Terra" by the kids.

Maybe it is a state Nurse Practice Act thing where I live, but it is actually illegal to cover up a last name on a badge. The patient has a right to know who is taking care of them and look that person up on the licensing website to see the standing of their healthcare professional's license. Not that it stops some people from covering up their last names anyways. The only person I have known that has been stalked, harassed, etc was simply followed home from work one day, as the frequent flyer psych pt know when this particular nurse worked.

Enough of my tangents! I was actually wondering what the opinions are regarding the proper way to address an NP, CRNA or CNM when they are the provider. What about if they have a DNP? Is it confusing to call a doctorate prepared NP, Dr. ____? Do you think it demeans the master's prepared providers to refer to them by their first name? My CNMs all introduced themselves by their first names and I always wondered if their was any title that would convey more respect, or if it was even necessary. It would be ridiculously awkward to say "Hi, I am CNM/Midwife/Nurse Midwife Jones." I have no real set opinion on this, but was wondering what any APNs or nurses who work with APNs think about this.

Specializes in Psych, CICU, Ortho, Army Medic.

If someone introduces him/herself by saying "Hi, my name is Doctor Smith" - I instantly loose a bit of respect for them. Now and then I'll reply "Oh wow, I had no idea Doctor was a first name now". (I know I'm a rebel). Or I would say "Well hi there, my name is Nurse Browning" - just to make them realize it sounds stupid (at least to me).

I much prefer a close work environment with the physicians and absolutely prefer being on a first name basis with them.

Interesting topic. I have no problem with patients calling me by my first name, just because it's easier than my last. I don't necessarily give my last name (I would if they asked), but I would never cover it up (badge, etc). If I were a patient, I'd want to know who is caring for me if I asked for full names.

I also make a point to give my first and last name to ancillary depts or doctors that call to ask me questions (there are quite a few Sarahs, and Jessicas, etc. that work on my unit, how do they know which one?).

And I definitely call a few interns and residents that I'm familiar with by their first names. Just good working relationships I guess.

But I find it strange calling ALL of my patients by Ms./Mr. last name. It's pretty standard at my hospital (mid-west). I don't mind calling my patients that are older than me by Mr/Ms....I'm 30. But when I have patients that are younger than me or are about my age, I find it awkward calling them Ms/Mr. Then I feel like it's subservient or something...

What I also find strange is some nurses notations: like "patient febrile, MD notified." Well, which MD? The intern? Resident? Night float? Consulting service? The teams switch all the time...I guess it's just a timesaver. Or when I get report from outside hospitals, some nurses will give their first name, but not their last. Well, if I ever have to follow-up or something comes up legally, how do I say "Ann at XX Hospital reported this to me." ?

Specializes in Cardiac/Stroke.

I guess I see both sides of the issue. I can say that where I work (bigger hospital in Milwaukee) we have our patients address us by our first names and our badges simply say "Lindsay L Registered Nurse". If a patient asks my last name, I have no problem telling them it's Landoff but I don't see what anyone gains by having it on my badge. On the whiteboard, I put RN: Lindsay PCA: Katie and Doctors: Dr. Smith (hospitalist) Dr. Rock (cardiology) Dr. Bone (nephrology) just for clarification.

I personally would rather be called by my first name rather than last simply because it's easier for the patient who already has 20+ ppl enter his/her room throughout the day and also because I feel like after spending 12+ hours with him/her, we should be on a first-name basis. As for patients, it varies. Most times I'll walk in, address myself, and ask what the patient prefers to be called. I can't say I've ever been told "Mr. Adams" rather than "Jim". I think patients tend to feel more comfortable and like they have a better relationship with their nurse if they're on a first name basis both ways as well. (I do think the point made about facebook is a good one by the way!)

Most doctors on our unit we address by last name i.e. Dr. Smith. Some nurses call them by their first names and perhaps it's because I'm on the newer end of the spectrum that I don't but I do not feel that they do it for superiority. Often when talking about another doctor they'll ask the nurse, "oh has Bob been around yet?" instead of "oh has Dr. Smith been around yet?" Many introduce themselves by first name or first and last name.

As for security, I don't think there's anything wrong with the nurses who do not want his/her last names advertised. We have to keep in mind, it isn't only hospital staff and patients that are roaming around the hospital. I have no problem with sharing my last name but I can see why some ppl might not feel as comfortable.

Blue-collar, white-collar, pink-collar... I'm proud to be a nurse and you can call me whatever your little heart desires:)

I started introducing myself as 'I'm First name, Last name, I'm a registered nurse and I'll be taking care of you today' ever since I took a nursing leadership course a good 18 years into my career. I definitely seem to receive a bit more respect using this introduction and have had a few patients thank me for identifying myself as a Registered Nurse because it made them feel safer. All kinds of people call themselves 'nurse' from MAs (who shouldn't) to LPNs (who of course should). Professional Registered Nurses will continue to be disrespected by others unless and until they start respecting themselves and their unique skill set.