Two weeks ago at the beginning of my shift when I was passing meds, my husband called crying because his Dad coded twice in a hospital and was transfered to ICU. He wanted me to come up immidietely because he is afraid his Dad won't make it.
I was emotionally too. I talked to my boss. She said they will try find someone as soon as they can so I can leave. In the mean time, she told me to finish my med pass. With my coworker's help, I finished med pass in about five minutes, then I sat at the nurses station and wait for the charge nurse to tell me what to do. She walked down the hall twice for something else like nothing happened. She eventually came up to the desk and told me that the rest of the nurses will take two extra pts of mine. When I gave reports to the charge nurse, she grilled me about the pt I just got for one hour. For example, I have to check in the computer for her what type of dressing the pt has for his cellulitis.
Anyway, I finally left 45 minutes later and by the time I got to the hospital, my father-in-law has already passed away.
Now the more I think about it, the more I became angry. There were no other emergency in the unit that day, why the charge nurse has to take so long to take my report? Why she can't look for the dressing information in the computer herself?
It is the first time this happened to me. I know I can't just leave because it counted as abandoning pts and my license can be suspended. However, is it common practice to expect you to stay 45 minutes when your family memeber is dying? and I'm not even talking about the grandparents.
Sep 27, '12
I haven't read any of the other responses because what the OP wrote struck a chord.
I got a call at work that my daughter, who was in the ER at another facility had coded, and I needed to get there ASAP. My fellow nurses immediately divided my pts and after the briefest of reports sent me on my way. We called the boss, but I don't even remember what she said.
There was no discussion about the work load. The women I worked with that day saw my distress and helped me in the only way they could.
Even had I stayed and waited for a replacement, I wasn't thinking clearly.
On that day, nurses treated one of their own, with the same sense of compassion we are expected to give to pts.
It's hard for me imagine anyone so cold blooded as to prevent a person from being with family in an emergency
Last edit by imintrouble on Sep 27, '12