too little to be a nurse? - page 3

Hello everyone, I have a dillema. I am a nursing student and recently got a job on the med\sug floor. I am 5 feet and 111 lbs. and I had 3 pts refuse my care in the same 12 hr day because of my... Read More

  1. by   flashpoint
    Depending on my mood and the tone people take when commenting about my size (or lack of), I either blow it off or I will simply offer to get them a taller nurse. Most of the time when I am scheduled, a very tall (6'6") male is also scheduled...I'll usually swap with him if his patients want a female, he will usually swap with me if people want a taller nurse. When he is not there, I blow it off, unless the patient is totally rude about it...most of the time someone is happy to switch assignments.

    I am always amazed that people think it is fine to comment on how short someone is, but would never even consider commenting on someone's weight...has anyone ever been told they are too fat or too thin or too tall to be a nurse? I doubt it...
  2. by   Sandi0302
    Thats terrible that they would assume that ur nursing care wouldnt be sufficient because of ur size...
    When i worked as an aid in a level one trauma center in the ER, there was a nurse who was 4'10, and she did a a fine job....
    That is descrimination against you...and that isnt right.
  3. by   CHATSDALE
    sometimes swapping assignments can mean walking down a long hall to take care of one patient...unless they have a real reason for refusing care then the nurse manager needs to go in and talk with them and explain that if help is needed it will be provided but that for 95% of care size of nurse not an issue
  4. by   wam79
    A friend of mine took care of Andre the Giant. A huge man (pro wrestler) I think he was 7'4" and 400-500 lbs. She was 4'11'' and maybe 110.
    She was his very favorite nurse. He liked her because of her skills and her ability to help him laugh when he felt I'll. Unless you are on the psych take down unit size shouldn't matter
  5. by   rubriam
    Size really doesn't matter, I'm 5'1" and 100 pounds, 27 years old and I worked as a student also for 6 months when I was 21 or 22 years old at a rehab center, and I had the same reactions from patients as you had, it usually started as how old are you? I would answered back "how old you think I am?" if they guess 15 or 17 I would tell them no 13 and we would laugh together and after I would start the rapport with my patient. If I would try to transferred them from the bed to the chair, and I knew I could do it because I knew the patient could transfer by him/her self but just needed a little bit of help they would tell me you are not strong enough, I would tell them don't worry I know the tricks. Obviously, if I knew I couldn't do it, I always got some extra help, I still do this.

    THen I moved to Pediatrics, but it didn't worked out, and I end up in ER (in a adult/children) in a level one trauma center and occasionally I have the same reactions, when I do, I joke about it such as I'm 13 to 17 years old, I just graduated from high school, I'm the daughter of the nurse or doctor so and so and I'm just helping out, yes I know, I get the same comments all the time, when I have a patient that is spanish speaking I tell them "chiquita pero picosa" which means little one but spicy, also I tell them and if you see my mom she is little bit smaller than me.
    The majority of the time it works but you always have the 1 patient that doesn't matter what you tell them they can't reason with you and in that case after I tried 20,000 times on to make him/her trust me, that is when I change assignments, but like the other post says usually the older population have they minds set on how a nurse should look, don't get discorage. Size really doesn't matter!


    Quote from prinzessdy
    Hello everyone,

    I have a dillema. I am a nursing student and recently got a job on the med\sug floor. I am 5 feet and 111 lbs. and I had 3 pts refuse my care in the same 12 hr day because of my size! One pt said that I was too young and too little to be working here and management should do something about that because it puts pts in danger and if nothing is done he will speak to administration . I admit that I am not strong, but I know how to get help and the correct was to move pts. I am a bit discouraged now. what do you do when this happens?
  6. by   annmariern
    Hi, been a nurse for 17 ears, work in med surg and am the same height/weight as you. Never had someone refuse care, but many times patients are reluctant to have you lift them. I find that when I show them I know how to lift properly, know when to get help, its been fine. Also I do weight training which I find makes a big difference to how well I can lift also in protecting myself and my back. You might want to give that a try.
  7. by   rubriam
    I agree with "annmariern" also the weight training helped me to get my legs, arms and back stronger, and also helps as a stress reliver.
    Try it


    Quote from annmariern
    Hi, been a nurse for 17 ears, work in med surg and am the same height/weight as you. Never had someone refuse care, but many times patients are reluctant to have you lift them. I find that when I show them I know how to lift properly, know when to get help, its been fine. Also I do weight training which I find makes a big difference to how well I can lift also in protecting myself and my back. You might want to give that a try.
  8. by   PicklesRN
    Quote from Speculating
    Pickle RELAX my god it's not meant to be taken completely seriously. First of all you never say anything that can be over heard. If so it's your word over his - you can't be fired for that. Hahahaha, "Be the better person", hahahahaha - oh please. Pickle, gambling at work can most certainly get you fired though. I work addictions if you need some referrals I'll be more than happy to assist you.
    Sweetie, I am relaxed. Also, I would appreciate it if you would keep your childish remarks to yourself. I have done nothing to you. I realize you think your posts are funny, in reality they are simply childish and nothing more.

    Do you have anything of value to add here?
  9. by   Ted
    please keep the focus on the topic and not on your fellow member. remember that personal attacks are not tolerated on this bulletin board.
  10. by   flashpoint
    Once a patient has expressed concern about my abilities as a nurse, I really don't think I should have to go back in their room. It is uncomfortable being told that you don't measure up for whatever reason and then being made to go right back in there. If something happens like if the patient were to fall or you make a med error or something the patient is going to be able to say, "I knew something was wrong when she came in here the first time!" or something similar. It isn't right and quite frankly, it ires me to no end, but once a patient has told me I am not good enough for whatever reason, it isn't fair to make me take care of that patient of someone else is available to do so. I think that management should talk to the patient about the problem, but I don't think the nurse should be forced to care for someone who doesn't want her or him...

    Sorry to ramble on...
  11. by   MryRose
    Quote from wam79
    A friend of mine took care of Andre the Giant. A huge man (pro wrestler) I think he was 7'4" and 400-500 lbs. She was 4'11'' and maybe 110.
    She was his very favorite nurse. He liked her because of her skills and her ability to help him laugh when he felt I'll. Unless you are on the psych take down unit size shouldn't matter
    I love this post! Humor is a wonderful tool to use in unusual situations.

    For myself, I'm 4'8", I am so used to things being larger that it's "normal". When I find things "my size" it feels strange. So when someone comments on my abilities to do something because of size, I remind them that I am used to it and have learned to compensate for the differences.

    Since I am a pre-nursing student yet, I can only imagine my reaction to this problem. I do think that if a patient is unhappy with the nurse caring for him, for whatever reason, it should be changed if at all possible.

    A patient or two who are difficult doesn't change who you are as a Nurse. Be proud , "stand tall" (pun intended) and enjoy your career!

    Hugs!

    MaryRose
  12. by   prinzessdy
    thank you, everyone has been so encouraging. I went to clinicals today and didnt have a problem with any of my patients (I work at a different hospital than where my clinicals are done) 3 of the students went to watch card caths so I had 3 pts to take care of (mine and 2 others) and I was told that I did very well and the patients loved me so that also encouraged me (one of my patient's was 400lbs and she was comfortable with my care). fyi this is my first experiences in pt care so you can understand why I get discouraged easily. thank you.
    Quote from MryRose
    I love this post! Humor is a wonderful tool to use in unusual situations.

    For myself, I'm 4'8", I am so used to things being larger that it's "normal". When I find things "my size" it feels strange. So when someone comments on my abilities to do something because of size, I remind them that I am used to it and have learned to compensate for the differences.

    Since I am a pre-nursing student yet, I can only imagine my reaction to this problem. I do think that if a patient is unhappy with the nurse caring for him, for whatever reason, it should be changed if at all possible.

    A patient or two who are difficult doesn't change who you are as a Nurse. Be proud , "stand tall" (pun intended) and enjoy your career!

    Hugs!

    MaryRose
  13. by   MryRose
    Quote from prinzessdy
    thank you, everyone has been so encouraging. I went to clinicals today and didnt have a problem with any of my patients (I work at a different hospital than where my clinicals are done) 3 of the students went to watch card caths so I had 3 pts to take care of (mine and 2 others) and I was told that I did very well and the patients loved me so that also encouraged me (one of my patient's was 400lbs and she was comfortable with my care). fyi this is my first experiences in pt care so you can understand why I get discouraged easily. thank you.
    YAY! So glad this day went well for you. You CAN do it!

    Hugs!

    MaryRose

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