the "dream" has come to an end - page 3

I would first like to say I know this post my offend a few people but I have to get this out. I wrote a post a few weeks ago about my contemplating staying in nursing school. I wondered if all... Read More

  1. by   summersent
    wow thanks everyone for so much support. I really appreciate it because this is such a hard time for me but I am happy on my decision. I might need some counseling from this experience but that is OK because I will get over it. I am really excited about pharmacy school. I really hope that if anyone is unhappy with anything in life, they will go on to do what they love. Even if you are 60. It really is never to late. From what I believe, this is our only life. I've see a few good women nurses who remind me of my mother and it would hurt me so much to see my mother get treat the way those women get treated on a daily basis.

    As for the posts about sticking it out, I have tried. I know its not to for me and I'll take the loss and move on. I'll lose more if I try to stick this out and lose more of myself in the process and self esteem and possibly my health. I'm a sweet kind healthy person and I want to keep it that way.

    thank you again and I wish you all well. I know its not easy

  2. by   caliotter3
    Hey, you're making it sound like farewell. Nobody said you have to stop coming around here just cuz you're going to pharmacy school!
  3. by   twow
    good luck. you need to do what's right for you.

    i'm going through something similar, by the way. i was nearly finished with my program, and i am not sure if i will return. i also considered pharmacy school, lol.
  4. by   HeartsOpenWide
    At least you are discovering this now and not in 20 years after its even harder for you to change careers.
  5. by   nursemike
    I'm sorry to hear you're leaving, but I can't imagine anyone better suited to make that decision for you than yourself. Best of luck in your future endeavors.

    Hey, it's ten to six--where's my Nexium?

    (Just getting you prepared.)
  6. by   diane227
    Everyone has different experiences. I loved nursing school but it was quite different when I went to school. Nursing students today seem to spend more time on paperwork and less time doing actual patient care. I think one of the reasons that nursing school was easy for me is because I worked as a nurse tech at a very large teaching hospital. I had a job ready for me when I graduated. I learned a lot from my tech job and it make the transition to nursing easier. I had a few instructions that were A holes but I did not let them get to me.

    It is sad to think that there are areas where nurses are still making $20.00 per hour. It really depends on where you live. I don't know what new grads start at here because I have been a nurse for 31 years and always get hired at the top of the pay scale. My husband and I work in Seattle and the pay up here is great, but housing is also very expensive. But because our salaries are so high, we don't have to work full time.

    I am glad for you that you have determined that nursing is not for you. It would be horrible to be in a career that you do not like. And because nursing is so specialized it would be hard to transfer into another career without additional training. Good luck to you. I hope you find a great, rewarding career.
  7. by   CseMgr1
    I commend you on your decision to pursue an alternate career path.

    Had I known 28 years ago what I now know, I would have done the same thing.

    Less than two months into my new job as a nursing supervisor, I was told yesterday that due to "budget constraints", one of my nurses is being let go, and the other is going to have to "take ownership" of the Clients who live near her. If she refuses, then I am going to wind up being responsible for every Client that we currently addition to all the new referrals as well as my responsibilities as a manager.

    I should have known something was up earlier, when the woman who made this decision told me, smiling: "You're going to need to learn some 'time management skills'".

    What she really meant was: "You're salaried, therefore we can do anything we want with you, so suck it up".

    I was told about all this within minutes after she made a hasty retreat back to her Ivory Tower in her luxury SUV.

    Hell, I wish I had a car!

    I just looked at my Manager and remarked sarcastically: "Happy Nurses' Week, eh?"

    I didn't care. This was the final straw in my career as a nurse. Period. I told my sister last night that one way or the other, I am going to find a way to retire and get out of this business....once and for all.

    You have your whole life ahead of you, and I wish you every happiness...away from nursing.
  8. by   denise0815
    Hi All,
    What in the world is lateral violence???
    Reading these posts that are so negative, freak me out!!! I am trying to get into a program, finishing my pre-req. and I am scared to death....what goes on in nursing school????
    I guess I better stop
  9. by   TuTonka
    It is far better for you to change direction than to be miserable. Good luck in your endevors. May you find your passion in Pharmacy.

  10. by   jjjoy
    This is a big decision and it sounds like it's well-considered on your part, as opposed to an impulsive reaction to one or two negative experiences.

    Life is full of such decisions and without the ability to see the future, we have to do what we determine is best even though we can't know *for sure* how it will turn out. We all come at life from different backgrounds and so our perspectives differ. And, then there's the simple fact that we all are different in regard to preferences and strengths and weaknesses. And some things we can't know until we have first hand experience.

    Some people really take to nursing and love it. Some don't love it, but it's not that bad either. Some may come to the conclusion that they'd rather not be nurses but feel trapped by situational issues. It sounds like your experiences thus far have led you determine that nursing isn't for you. And you have reviewed your own situation and determined that it's worth it to you drop out of nursing school at this point. Some can't relate to your choice because they may have a very different experience and situation. The nursing education you've had to date isn't "a waste" either. That experience will inform your future path and the nursing profession will have one more non-nurse out there who better understands the dilemmas nurses faces in ways that those without any inside exposure to nursing usually don't get.

    I'm talking to myself here, you see, as I can at times doubt myself when others express incomprehension at my perspective. So I'm encouraging anyone who has the tendency to second-guess themselves to death to have faith in our own judgement (when based on solid information and experience) and know that even if things don't turn out as hoped for (say pharmacy school ends up being a disappointment) that one can still feel that they truly made good choices. That is, one needn't have a perfect, ideal outcome to feel that one made a good decision. Best wishes to you!!!!
  11. by   mom35
    I wish you lots of positive thoughts and joy!!! Good for you for making a difficult decision instead of just letting the river take you along. As long as you have passion you will find your way:redpinkhe
  12. by   nursemike
    Quote from denise0815
    Hi All,
    What in the world is lateral violence???
    Reading these posts that are so negative, freak me out!!! I am trying to get into a program, finishing my pre-req. and I am scared to death....what goes on in nursing school????
    I guess I better stop
    When I was a carpenter, lateral violence meant punching someone in the side. In nursing, it can encompass anything from rolling your eyes as someone gives you report to punching someone in the side, but most complaints are a bit more serious than eye-rolling, while rarely devolving to fisticuffs. Generally, it's hostil, aggressive behavior between peers. It happens. It can be dealt with. Forewarned is forearmed.

    What happens in nursing school? LOTS of hard work. LOTS of stress. Not enough sleep. Eating from drive-thrus on the way to class or clinicals. It's hard. Some people can't do it, but many get through, though most, at times, doubt they will. It isn't uncommon to feel one or more instructors are out to get you. In a few cases, they may actually be, but more often it's the student's misperception. Or maybe a combination of both.

    The good news is, if you make it through school and survive NCLEX, you get to be a nurse. Your first year as a nurse will make school and NCLEX look easy. Somewhere during the second year, though, you begin to find your feet and have a pretty good idea what you're doing, and from there you'll either love it or hate it, or some combination of both.

    Personally, I found these boards helpful while I was going through school. Not for homework help, but to see that others were going through much the same as me, some occassional venting, and figuring out why I wanted to be a nurse. It has helped me develop my philosophy of nursing. When I started school, I didn't even know I needed a philosophy of nursing.

    Quite a few people who thought nursing school was unreasonable, unbearable, and impossible now have RN after their names, and some are even happy about it. Also, a lot of people go to movies and pay good money to get the crap scared out of them. Here, you can do it for free.
  13. by   Mineee45
    I really needed to read this today. I myself I'm a nursing student who doesn't have to much longer until I graduate. I worked very hard to get to this point...infact years to get into nursing school with taking pre-reqs, and getting accepted. I myself never thought it was going to be like this. I've been debating on whether or not to leave nursing and nursing school behind and after reading this I will follow my gut feeling and just leave instead of forcing it like i've been doing for a while now. I've never been so miserable and worked so hard in my life. I worked retail for years during breaks from school, and I got treated better there.

    Its amazing that im leaving before I even start. I think I just see the reality of it, while a lot of my fellow nursing students are still so naive and delusional about it all. In clinicals in the hospital I never been treated with so much disrespect. I'm only there twice a week for 5 hours. I just can't imagine being there for 12 hours 3x a week with full responsiblity- I'd be wornout and miserable before I even reached 1 or 2 months.

    Just thank you, its so good to hear that I'm not the only one who is feeling like this. Reading this gave me the extra push I need to just leave and go back and finish my previous major.
    Last edit by Mineee45 on May 7, '09