[FONT="Century Gothic"]"I have tried to tell her when I don't agree, but others seem afraid to join in. They are, however, willing to complain about her decisions and actions afterwards.She has an education degree MEd. I am 2 classes from my MSN with a concentration in nursing ed. I also have had to hear how inferior my degree is. The other lowly educators are all BSN's. Our education department director is not a nurse or clinical person at all. He is an EdD. She doesn't like him because he is not a nurse. Of course, she doesn't do a lot of nursing stuff like having patient contact for very many years, so I do not know what the issue is with him. I guess he is just another lesser being too. We are getting a new educator. We don't really have an open position, but she is a personal friend of the VP/DON. The fact that there are a lot of capable staff persons who would and could move into an educator role, is immaterial."
First to tell you that I am very sorry for your position and as we know most of nurses are like you are : we try to help and see if and where help is needed . But I will ask you a few questions from this above not to criticize you or for you to answer it but to see maybe my view.
When you not agree with your coworkers and others are quiet in that moment but after are complaining ,do you get involved in that ( post op) discussion? If you do it just makes you more vulnerable to all situation . They can always go and tell her that YOU SAID it and she already knows you were against her so you got an enemy. When they complain just say that you are with the group and that group is them so THEY decided and YOU had to agree with the group,, so.. if they do not like it next time they should "burp " it out!!!
And second question do you think that education means anything in this world? DO YOU think that you will act differently after you finish your degree or it will still hurt you when somebody criticizes you ?
I finished a few colleges and I still feel unprepared sometimes ( maybe more than sometimes!) to teach or talk or do nursing skill or cook, but I do not care. I admit that one mathematic problem can be solved on many different ways depend if we look it from "the airplane" position, "walking" position, or "crawling" position . There will be always those who see our performance different and they can criticize us but if you see that it is coming from "creepy crawlers" would you mind even to hear it ? YOU CAN PRETEND TO LISTEN,
and continue your life laughing inside about different perspective.
Or you can try I forgot the name of technique something about negative inquire but goes like this: 1. Oh your performance was not good . 2. Yes... what was not good? 1. Your performance in eduction class. 2. What was not good? 1 Class was not organized good. 2. You mean time ? Did I finish on time ? 1. Yes, you finished on time but organization was not good? 2. You mean my material about HIV that was scheduled to be presented is not planed? 1. No material was planned but organization 2. Do you mean power point, printed material and pictures did not show enough? 1. Yeahh.. 2. Hmm what else I should put inside that would be good ? I am getting from you that something is not good but I need what that is to be able to fix it .. blabla bla
Put her in position to talk about concrete examples.Do not relay only on comments , bug her, go after her , give her your time to get her in the corner by her own weapon..:trout: And next time when staff say to you that ugly comment say something like " OHH well it is not easy to play genius and still be in skin that bleeds and brain that needs time to reboot."
I wish you will feel better . And , yes I believe many had this experience.Find your star.